I’ve been practicing prostate play sporadically for over 10 years, mainly with Aneros products. I’ve had some success, but nothing close to a super-o or the intensity of a traditional penile orgasm.
I’ve tried every technique you can think of, but every session seems to have the same results – little to no pleasure for the entire session, but still always end with an ejaculation.
Just before the ejaculation however, my heart often starts to race and I feel some sort of buildup, always in the penis, for just a couple of seconds before the release. It doesn’t matter if I am totally relaxed, holding a contraction or pushing out. The ejaculation seems inevitable.
I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I leak quite a lot of precum and I’m always very horny during the sessions. I think I’m in the right mindset, just trying to focus on the sensations and not forcing anything, without any expectations and enjoying every session for what it is. But now my motivation to continue starts to fail.
Does anyone have the same problem? What am I doing wrong?
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i dont have the same problem but i think i can suggest some tips, if they don’t work don’t be upset, everyone is different
1. you need too separate ejaculation from orgasm. Orgasm doesn’t equate ejaculation and vice versa. once you understand this, prostate, anal and nipple orgasms become much clearer.
2. If you ever heard of edging, you’re gonna do the same thing here. Do what feels good, but for your sake, as of now, don’t touch your dick. Focus on nipples while watching porn or if you’re not into that try some erotica or use your imagination. Now, when you get close too ejaculation or any type of orgasm, stop. remember, orgasm doesn’t equate ejaculation and vice versa. relax a bit and start again. This should result in arousal levels too raise and too feel like your being teased which is good. The feeling is not the same as traditional orgasm. If you can end the session without ejaculating.
3. maybe try too have a session after you ejaculate. maybe this will help you not ejaculate when you are close too orgasming. It should atleast take your mind off of “i’m about too cum”.
On the last tip, when i first experienced progress years ago, i was having a session on my floor and i was experiencing really good sensations. i got too a point where i felt like i was gonna cum (ejaculate)and i kept fighting it, but remembered the basic aneros tip “let go.” so i let go even though i didn’t want too cum and end the session.
what happened was that i didn’t ejaculate…i squirted. yes male squirt is a real thing and i flooded my bathroom floor lol.
so:
4: just let go. it’s a journey, if you get frustrated trying over and over again isn’t gonna help. take a break, try again. it’s about orgasms, it’s supposed too be fun and believe me it can be too fun 😉
Have you considered using a toy other then an aneros? I didn’t have any success for over a year until I used a dildo, after which my aneros was much more effective.
Never have had this issue… usually achieve HFDO’s