Second time user. I bought an Aneros years ago (can’t remember model) and what I know now is that I was both misunderstanding what to do and being impatient. Ditched it and never thought about it again til about a year ago.
Bought a Helix Syn about a month ago, and hand a handful of sessions. From the off, things were different. Don’t know if it’s a better body-model fit for me, a better understanding of what to do to maneuver the thing, or a little of both, but it’s definitely doing something. Regularly have p-waves, and have had I think 2 smallish orgasms, though nothing approaching a super -O I don’t think.
But for the most part, I feel like I’m struggling to make progress. Im still finding the sessions a little frustrating, because whilst I definitely can distinguish the prostate from other muscles down there, I’m having trouble keeping it contracted. I fee like I get up to 10 seconds and 2/3 of the time my sphincter contracts significantly, which knocks out the prostate contact. And I can’t seem to release the sphincter only, so I have to fully relax and start again. And after a couple times of this, I normally bail on the session out of frustration.
That said, in the last 48 hours especially I’ve noticed more sensitivity to my prostate without any direct stimulation (by me or a toy). I can contract it on and off for a minute or two, and it’s not orgasmic but it is pleasurable. And I don’t think I’d ever been able to distinguish my prostate from the overall piss-stopping clenching of a few muscles.
So there’s clearly something happening/changing slowly. But I’m still finding that when it comes to the sessions itself, I’m getting in my own way. Has anyone experienced this as part of their “journey” to the super-O? Is there something I can/should do to move forwards? TIA
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/8wqmzl/is_this_part_of_the_journey/
Your last month seems very similar to mine. It feels like we are both on the right track, though, so I’m trying to stay positive.
What you’re describing sounds very similar to what I felt like when I was super close to figuring out how to make my MGX work for me. Now it’s a matter of figuring out just how much clenching will set you off without pinching the aneros too tight and making the tabs “pinch” instead of just rub. Keep trying, it sounds like you’re almost there! It’s going to be so worth it the first time you figure out how to get the right flex on command.
Don’t get discouraged! It took me the better part of a decade to get where I am now, and I still don’t think I’ve hit the ceiling on this thing yet. It’s hard to really give a tutorial to someone other than to describe what works for me, but I should say I never had any success with the active contractions method. The biggest breakthroughs for me came when I learned I could get my aneros to make similar movements/give me similar feelings to how it does when I contract my sphincter/pc muscles, by breathing correctly with my diaphragm and abdominal muscles. I feel like because these muscles are so much larger it takes quite a bit less effort/fatigue to get things moving, also allowing me to try and keep my pc/sphincter muscles as relaxed as possible.
When I’m in the “building” stage as I think of it, I breathe in deep into my belly it kind feels like it curves around toward my tailbone, it almost feels like trying to blow up a balloon inside my rectum. Then I breathe out and try to direct that feeling sort of up and back into my gut by slightly contracting my abs. This results in the aneros pushing out and forward on the in breath, putting pressure on my prostate, and then sort of “bouncing” back and inward on the in breath. Then the next breath drags it back down along the prostate and so on. The hard part is to try and keep everything else as relaxed as possible during all of this, which just takes practice learning how to isolate and control and relax the individual muscles down there.
Also I find it’s more important to try and focus on the feelings the actions you’re doing are producing rather than focusing on doing the actions themselves.
Like I said, it’s kinda hard to describe in terms someone else can understand, but it’s kinda like putting together a puzzle. On it’s own it’s hard to see how each piece fits together with the others, but once you fit it in place it becomes obvious that’s where it’s supposed to be, and also gives you a spot to add on the next piece.
Hope this helps, above all don’t be discouraged when you don’t feel what you’re expecting to feel, progress comes when you least expect it.