I’m 10 months in with some very nice pleasure and interesting, new sensations, but no pgasms yet – would really appreciate advice.

Hello everybody!

As the title says, I’ve been at this for almost a year. During that time I’ve learnt that my body is capable of a decent bit more than I ever expected and that is amazing, but I’m wondering where I go from here.

My sessions go like this – I try to get aroused, but I don’t touch my penis beforehand, I use a lube applicator about three times, then use plenty of lube on my toy (eupho syn trident).

I essentially try to follow the do nothing method – conscious clenching doesn’t seem to do much for me. My muscles down there are quite twitchy in response to arousal or even just the presence of the toy, so that usually kicks things off. I try to follow those contractions, I used to let my muscles clamp down, but I realised that was a mistake and killed the sensitivity. So I allow the clench then back off on clamping down, this results in a light teasing of my prostate – building the sensitivity up. It can really feel nice after an hour or more of this. I don’t know if this sounds like I’m interfering with the process, but I feel like I’m actually encouraging a more passive approach ironically, stopping my body trying to clamp down. It definitely feels better to do this, so I feel a bit like following _exactly_ what my body ‘wants’ isn’t necessarily the answer for me.

My prostate itself can feel really nice and sensitive, sometimes I feel on the edge of some kind of orgasm, and I can also get a feeling like my prostate is getting hard below my bellybutton. This feeling can expand to my hips and below my ribs. When I get these p waves, I can feel sensations elsewhere in my body, it’s really unique and I’m glad I’ve learned my body is capable of more than sexual pleasure that’s just local to my crotch. I’ve started to feel tingling in my legs with p waves. This seems to be the height of my current sessions, pleasant and interesting, but nothing intense.

I did have one session where my heart began to beat insanely fast as the pleasure built after several pleasure waves set off one after the other. My heart rate peaked for a couple of minutes and true involuntaries then started, but I worried I was squeezing too hard and everything wound back down after that. Usually involuntaries don’t feel good, the toy frantically rubbing against my prostate with a lot of pressure just doesn’t do much for me.

Equally I’ve tried a few mindgasm lessons and the conscious clenching and conscious setting off of involuntaries doesn’t seem to be the answer for me – but maybe I’m wrong and I need to keep trying it, I don’t know l.

I get a moment in a lot of sessions where my heart rate starts to rise in response to p waves, that seems to happen once and it won’t happen again. I’ve seen some guys saying they feel they need to latch onto the orgasm and I’m wondering if that’s my window to maybe influence things a tiny little bit? That time my heart rate peaked for minutes, several p waves set off one after another, making everything escalate. I feel like this is what needs to happen for things to escalate again. Maybe I can set off a p wave on purpose with a light clench when that moment arrives?

Other than this, I tend to take my toy out and finish manually at the end. Last time, I had whole body sensations of the tingling and fuzziness. This isn’t something I get without prostate play. I definitely feel like my body is alive to this pleasure, but I feel like I’ve plateaued.

Sorry for all the info, but do you guys have any advice? Sometimes I find some of the received wisdom a little bit vague, so if anyone can shed any light anything at all you think might be useful, I’d be really grateful!