Some advice needed please!

Hello guys,

so i just had my first prolonged session with an aneros (ca. 40 minutes) after reading the wall of text in some comments here and the wiki and i am incredibly exited because i could really feel *something* happening. It was slight but it was my first try after all. (ended because i came frome my dick rubbing on the blanket…. go figure)

My Question;

it seems i cannot “decouple” my sphincter and pc muscle. No matter how hard i try it feels like i move either both at the same time or none. Is it crucial for success to be able to control them seperately? If so, does anyone have any tipps on how i would be able to train myself? On this specific issue i could not find any threads/advice yet.

Thanks in advance for your time!