Seeking Guidance

I’m a newbie to Aneros and to anal pleasure in general, but have been frequently exploring for a few weeks now. I’m in a strange place and I was hoping the wonderful butt sherpas on this sub might be able to guide me forward.

My journey started when my wife and I decided to spice things up with a rimming plug for me last Valentine’s day. After a not very successful session, I gave up and it sat into the box until I decided to try again solo a few weeks back. Who would have thought that actually following all of the advice online (lots of lube, loosen things up first, relax, etc… ) would make such a difference. It felt great and I started using it fairly regularly, but every time it felt a little like something was missing from the experience.

Eventually I pinpointed it to a feeling I was getting when I would sit on the plug and rock/bounce. That would make me feel a bit like I needed to pee, but also *really* good. I started thinking of it as my “pre-cum” button because hitting it would make me leak like a sieve ( I know it was my prostate though). After doing this for a bit, I realized the plug was the wrong tool for the job and determined to explore the feeling further, I purchased a vibrating prostate massager with one of those “come hither” rocking arms (this one to be precise: [https://www.adorime.com/products/prostate-massager-anal-vibrator](https://www.adorime.com/products/prostate-massager-anal-vibrator)). This one felt good, but I found the best feeling was again if I were to turn off the “come hither” motion, and rock/bounce on it myself. Whenever it did that I would get that “needing to pee sensation”, but at this point I’d experienced it enough to differentiate it and it started to feel more like a buildup of pressure similar to a penile orgasm.