Author: bigguy14433

Wait for the “whisper”

A lot of good advice for a successful session is not having expectations and not trying to force something to happen. It’s as much of a mind thing as a “I’m hitting it/clenching it the exact same as I was last time why is nothing happening” physical thing.

I was reading the Aneros wiki a month or so ago and came across this in the “Advanced Skills”

[Waiting for the Whisper](http://wiki.malegspot.com/index.php?title=Advanced_Skills)

“Waiting for the whisper is a variant of “do nothing.” The whisper is the irresistible message coming from your groin that you are MMO horny. Waiting for the whisper means you don’t schedule or decide to have a session. You wait till your body whispers to you that you need it. When it does, you let it have its way. At that point you can do nothing, or try any other technique, and your body will be very responsive.”

Well shit… if that hasn’t been the key. Rather than trying be like, I have some time imma try and make myself scream, it’s more of a, I’m ready for this now. Getting hard and/or aroused, watching porn, that might help set the stage, but if you go into a session with your prostate already kinda twitching… It’s almost a guarantee super 0. If I’m kinda flexing the separate muscles while just finishing up work or something and kinda horny, things can get intense. But if I’m doing some keagles and things don’t start stirring, it’s just not going to happen. Read more »

Aneros Progress Notes/Tips

My first post was about how I was a lucky son of a bitch who had success with the Aneros Helix Trident on my second try and was basically on my back for like 5 hours over the course of a day.  I thought I’d give some updates on what has worked and what my process has turned into.

I could do an entire different post on my experience yesterday (another marathon of a day with sex in the middle). Woof.

Anyway, things i’ve realized that help: 

1) Give yourself enough TIME. Men (or maybe just me) are so used to “sex” and orgasms coming and going quickly, that I kept thinking I could squeeze in some Aneros sessions here and there. These have been largely dud-sessions because I’m trying for something to happen and only have an hour or so and I’m preoccupied with checking the clock that nothing happens.

I think the best is giving myself at least 2 hours when I know I can just check out and do my thing with no interuptions. Sounds like a lot, but once the session gets going, time flies. That way I’ve got enough time to prep, get comfortable, get the involuntaries going, and hang on tight for a good time, and eventually wrap it up.

2) Pre-play (foreplay with yourself?) is a must. I knew for my first time that there was a difference between sticking the Aneros in and waiting to get turned on vs. masturbating and getting hard and close to cumming and THEN putting the Aneros in. Like worlds different. Like, make or break the session different.  Read more »

HOURS of ecstasy, the rumors are true

Holy shit. Holy shit. Holy shit.

Long post. Reading some of the user posts here helped me, so maybe this will help someone. It’s also a way to process the experience for me.

I’ve been reading about the benefits of prostate play for about a month now and, truth be told, I took everything I read with a grain of salt. I assumed some men might achieve these waves of pleasure and super-Os, but most would need years of practice and even then, maybe not experience as amazing as some made it sound. Well after some time on Sunday, I can say I’m a true believer.

As a way of background, I’m 31, gay male, in a long term relationship. Ass play is not something i’m a total stranger to, but it’s never been my cup of tea. I’ve bottomed plenty of times and found the experience to be enjoyable, but topping was always better. (My partner and I are more “sides” and anal sex is kind of rare. I’ve had plenty of anal sex with prior partners to know what i’m missing.) Over the years I’ve bought a couple of dildos and prostate massagers and played with them on and off, but to me they were never better than recieving anal, and the toys would be used a couple times then forgotten about and thrown away. Read more »