The typical beginner method that people seem to follow is rhythmic contractions. However, I found I wasn’t getting anywhere with rhythmic contractions. I wasn’t getting *any* pleasurable sensations from the massager and I couldn’t tell whether the massager was even contacting my prostate.
I did some reading and I discovered that the intent of the rhythmic contractions is to tire out the anal muscles so that they naturally spasm. The muscle spasms then result in a positive feedback loop for stimulation, hopefully leading to orgasm.
Since I wasn’t getting anywhere with rhythmic contractions, I decided to employ continuous contraction instead. I kept a continuous contraction going for about five minutes, at which point my muscles tired out and started spasming. I then quickly found myself having a full body orgasm!
I think continuous contraction works for me because there’s significantly less to focus on and it’s easier to control, so I can completely relax. With rhythmic contraction, I found that I had to focus on the contractions in order to control them, preventing me from actually relaxing.
So if you’re having trouble with rhythmic contractions, maybe give continuous contraction a shot instead? I’d say it’s worth a shot if you haven’t been making progress otherwise.