What’s your technique?

I’m a straight man trying to have pgasm for a number of years on and off and all in secret when I get a free spare hours on my own.
I’ve got a small slim dildo
A longer but still not too girthy dildo
A thick long girthy dildo
A prostate massager
Anal beads
And a few other.

I’ve been putting plenty of lube on and trying to relax and whilst I feel like I may have got close in the past I’ve never actually orgasmed from it.
I’ve had a lot of pre cum leaking which I’m guessing it where the milking phrase comes from but no physical pgasm and I’m jealous of everybody else..

I know I have a good few hours tomorrow so wanted to know your Techniques.. ive seen some people so don’t get yourself all horny (which I have been doing) and just relax .. and other day making sure your horny first so your prostate is swelled..

Any help would be appreciated