Author: goldenboy

“Semen Retention—What’s A Good Number For You?”

I consider male chastity and semen retention in the same way. There are some differences, but the reality is that my ejaculations are limited. Depending on when my last one was, I could be looking at only a few days (e.g., 3) or quite a few (e.g., 30). In-between there are many more “numbers”. Each number has a feeling associated with it.

My current number is “2” — quite low on the totem, so-to-speak. But I still awoke early this AM with a powerful NPT erection, so much so that I had to put-on my Safe-T-Gard Cage Cup for temptation relief.

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A “Different” Masturbation Technique
Yesterday, I was at Day 6 and decided that I wanted an ejaculation. Nothing special about that. But my technique was quite different. Let me explain…..With no lube, I started to stroke lengthwise my cock but I was very careful to stay well-clear of the frenulum. I began caressing my balls at the same time. I did this for perhaps 5-10 minutes. I began to feel an “almost-there” sensation and if I squeezed my PC muscles hard, I could diminish the feeling and stop the impending ejaculation. Every once in a while, I touched my frenulum and—OMG!—that one touch sent an electric shock right down to my EJ “center” and I seemed to be closer than ever to the PONR. Eventually, even stroking only down and up on the shaft was too much for my resistance and I did EJ. Interestingly, I did not seem to suffer with much of a refractory period using this technique (almost like a ruined orgasm). Read more »

Male “Chastity Cups” — At First You Feel Them But Then You Don’t

Introduction
I awoke about 3 AM with a very strong erection. I am near the peak testosterone boost caused by my practice of semen retention and no ejaculation for a week. I decided to put-on my Shock Doctor 218 jockstrap with Ultra Pro Carbon Cup. When I did, I immediately felt a surge of raw sexual power down to my groin, but then that feeling soon passed. What happened?

Sexual Relevance of a Hard “Chastity Cup”
I believe that the body gets used to the feeling of having a “groin cup” protect the male package. After a while, that “sexy” feeling just seems to disappear. If it didn’t, I would probably have a constant erection and that is never good. So having the erection fade while wearing the cup is what is desired.

But in the meantime, before the erection subsides, what is the “male chastity” feeling? It is a good feeling, and when I touch and “check” the cup from time to time, I am reminded of the “real” reason I wear it.

Preventing Masturbation and Ejaculation
Of course, there are no two ways about it—-the cup is there to prevent me from masturbating myself to ejaculation. It performs its function very well. In fact, the combination of the 218 jockstrap with the Ultra Pro Carbon Cup is one of the best-fitting items on the market. All kinds of elite athletes* wear them: baseball players, hockey players and others depend on the close-fitting support and protection it provides. Read more »

A “Chastity Cup” Takes It All Away!

Just chilling early this morning, wearing my XO cup. While relaxing on my sofa, I began to dwell on the possibility of me having any kind of sex while wearing it. And what did I discover? That there is nothing left! Every possibility I could imagine for anything “sexual” was effectively stopped by the cup!

Examples:
Any kind of masturbation or edging……no!
Cuddling or petting with my wife…no way!
Making out in unusual places…stop it!
Getting turned-on by seeing my erection….get out of here!

Get the idea? So where that leave me? Listening to “old disco” classics while performing kegels! Fortunately, the prostate still has the capacity to orgasm without any penile involvement!

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Conclusion
This is why semen retention and prostate massage go hand-in-hand! Feeling the “inner burn” without the usual male “tools” seems to intensify the possibility of prostate orgasms, with or without an Aneros massager. “Necessity is the mother of invention?” Put that in your pipe and smoke it! Touche’.

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“Pleasure Through Abstinence (Sexual Satisfaction Without Sex)”

Introduction
I had a groin irritation which resulted in me not wearing my “chastity cups” for about 5 days. At the same time, I self-imposed an “abstinence” period from my Aneros prostate massages. This combination proved to be quite formidable for my pelvic pleasure. Let me explain…..

Pre-Session
While awake early this morning, I had the urge and “prompting” from my Japanese urologist* that I must wear a groin cup for a period of time to arouse my prostate. I selected my Mueller FlexShield and put it on. Wow! That feeling had been absent for more than a few days and I could not believe the stimulation that I felt! At the time, I did not suspect that an Aneros session was coming, so I just went about my early-morning business as usual, which included breakfast, etc., all while wearing the cup.

Session
When my morning “chores” were completed, I had another “prompt” from my Japanese urologist who insisted that I perform a 15-minute “milking” session with my HIH 950 prostate massager to help alleviate my BPH symptoms. I dutifully lubed-up with SSG and went to lie-down. No sooner did I start to relax that I could not keep the massager “still” within my rectum—-it began to move and quiver entirely on its own! At the same time I began to feel an intense pressure on my prostate and I honestly felt that I was “this-close” to a hands-free wet orgasm! It was that intense, that mesmerizing. I could only lie-there and try to absorb all that I was feeling. After 15 minutes, I felt that I should end this “milking session”. When I took a look inside the cup, I was amazed to see a pool of very clear, non-sticky fluid that had collected at the tip of my penis. I felt much better and knew that, while only in Day 5 of SR, I needed this prostate milking! If it makes any sense, I now feel sexually satisfied without sex! Plus, I don’t have (yippee!) a refractory period! Read more »

“Underwear, Unmasked: A Sexual Fetish Meditation”

Introduction
Yes, a most unusual meditation. But it developed quite naturally. Here are the details…

I awoke early morning with a stiff erection and decided to put-on my Mueller “chastity cup”. I went back to sleep but awoke again, this time near the PONR which felt so good. I really felt close to an ejaculation. That feeling lasted perhaps 15 to 20 minutes. Then the erection subsided and I decided to listen to some soothing, erotic tracks. As I began to listen, I seemed to fall into a most unusual meditation…

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Meditation
As I seem to have a fetish for jockstraps and now, hard cup jocks, it seemed only natural that this would become a topic of meditation. I began to dwell on the concept of jockstraps as underwear. And it dawned on me that, yes, both of these mundane objects are really nothing more than underwear!

A jockstrap is nothing more than a flexible “pouch” of elastic material that is designed to support the male genitals. It resembles male underwear in the way it is designed (give-or-take a few elements) and the way it is worn. But it is in the wearing of it that it becomes an object of sexual stimulation. A lot of guys (myself included) probably can’t help but get an erection while wearing one. And that tight, stimulating “support” only intensifies the feeling. Read more »

An “Active Listening” Aneros Session!

[Disclaimer: My use of “active listening” is not related in any way to Carl Rogers and Richard Farson who coined the term “active listening” in 1957]

Background
I awoke around 4 AM and wanted to listen to some tracks. I also wanted an Aneros session. So what to do? Obviously, combine the two! Let me explain further……

Session
I was wearing my XO cup from early this morning and, in Day 4 of SR, I am starting to feel the effects of a T-boost. Thankfully, my day-long refractory is now a memory! Since I would be lying-down, I opted for my HIH 950 massager which does not have any extended P-tab and nestles-in quite deep. So when I am in a prone position, it would not pose any interference.

So with everything in place, I put-on my headphones and began to listen. I selected one of my favorites:
“Erotic Lounge & Luxury Chill Out Collection Vol. 1 | Mixed By Johnny M”

This session was very good. One thing I noticed right away is that I didn’t have to do any deliberate PC contractions; the musical “beat” did that for me! It almost was automatic! The sensations just continued to build; at one point I began to experience whole-body spasms and I distinctly felt “something” tingle up-my-spine. When I felt that I couldn’t take any more, I ended this session. I was surprised to see that about 30 minutes had passed! Read more »

“Oh, That Dreaded Refractory Period!”

Introduction
Of course, I am referring to the “down-time” following a male ejaculation, either through sexual intercourse, edging, or masturbation. This non-sexual time is generally caused by a release of hormones, namely prolactin and oxytocin. There are various ways of coping with the refractory period (available online) and I suppose that some of them will work to shorten that time. But it is an inevitable reality for most of us males. For young guys, that time period is rather short, but for older men like myself, it could stretch-out to a full 20-24 hours!

Feelings
Simply put, I feel like **** during this period of time, which lately for me seems to last an entire day. Getting an erection and a ready-to-ejaculate feeling is the farthest thing from my mind during this time. I wish it could be different—it is amazing how I can go from super-sexed-up to feeling like a wet sponge just from an ejaculation. It is like a roller-coaster: the highs and the lows. My recent edging session proved that reality.

How to Maintain That Sexy ‘Feeling’
For me, it is just a matter of doing things that energize and revitalize me sexually. I usually swim every day; that activity naturally accentuates my maleness and gives me a mental awareness of my sexual apparatus. Some nights, I sleep in a “chastity cup” and that activity is naturally arousing. It helps too when I experience the night-time erections (NPTs). My diet is good and I eat a lot of nuts, which are supposed to help counter-act the refractory period. And best of all, I look forward to my Aneros sessions, which are the best way to revitalize my prostate. They keep me ‘sexed-up’ , leaking precum and ready for another ejaculation! Read more »

“Sheer Heaven: Helix Trident and Edging Sessions”

Background
Now in Day 8 of SR, I awoke early and decided on an Aneros session. But which model to choose? It didn’t take long for me to decide on the Helix Trident. I like the larger head and the ability for auto-contractions.

Session
I lubed-up with an overly-generous amount of Slippery Stuff Gel and got underway. I purposely was not wearing a “chastity cup”: my erect cock was exposed during the entire session. An ample amount of precum was visible and I began to experience some nice auto-contractions. I could feel my heartbeat through the Aneros.

After-Session
Should I or shouldn’t I? That was the question and I answered it with a resounding “Yes!” Of course, I am referring to the possibility of an edging session to induce a well-deserved ejaculation. I thought about binaural beats stimulation but instead opted for an online X-rated edging challenge. After about 10 minutes, however, I switched to ‘edgemeplease.com’. I did not use any lube for this edging session and it was fine. I generated quite a lot of precum and after about 35 minutes, I was ready to cum. But on the first attempt, I got a “No-Cum” notice. Since I needed to cum due to the probability of blue-balls later on in the day, I decided to queue-up once again, this time begging to cum. It worked and I ejaculated with a hearty orgasm that left a large white cloud of semen on my stomach. I never felt better! Read more »

“A New Tease-and-Denial Fantasy”

Background
While in semen retention, there comes a time when an ejaculation is necessary. In Day 7 of SR this morning, I thought that time was here. I was wrong! Let me explain…..

I decided to sleep in my SD Ultra Pro Carbon Cup overnight; it is quite supportive and arousing yet restrictive. I awoke about 4 AM with a PONR-feeling caused by the slight rubbing of my frenulum against the inside of the cup. This is a wonderfully-erotic feeling and I believe it went on for perhaps 25 minutes or so. I was not in the mood for an Aneros session so instead I opted to listen to some nice, relaxing tracks. I expected to edge and ejaculate. What came next completely blew me away!

Fantasy
I settled-in on my comfortable couch with headphones on and began to listen. At some point, I fell-into a fantasy. I am laying with my chastity “keyholder” and she “allows” me to remove my nylon shorts and chastity cup. She proceeds to lightly caress and stroke my balls, perineum and cock. I feel relief that I will now be allowed to cum. But something is missing! She deliberately and deftly avoids touching my frenulum! I know that light touch on this part of the male anatomy can induce an ejaculation. I don’t yet feel that unmistakable “almost-there” feeling of being near the PONR and an ejaculation. All of that is now missing! Read more »

“A Dose Of Chastity”

Background
Have a headache? Take an aspirin!
Have acid reflux? Take an antacid!
Have constipation? Take a laxative!
Have an aching, ready-to-go-off erection? Take some chastity!

Analysis
Now, why do I draw this comparison? I am a regular proponent of wearing “chastity cups”*. They aid me in my regular Aneros sessions. They also feel good to wear and they help me when I want to avoid an ejaculation. With my regular practice of semen retention (SR), I am used to the testosterone build-up caused by this activity, typically at Day 7. As I get closer to an eventual ejaculation (either through the manifestation of “blue-balls” (to which I unfortunately am subject) through a wet dream or through a deliberate, “wet” edging session) it seems that my full attention is on the discharge of my semen. And my erections seem especially arousing at that time. I suppose that is the way nature intended it to be.

Technique
I find lately that rather than going to bed wearing a cup, I retire for the night just wearing regular pajamas (short or long) and expect to wake-up with a stiff one. Due to the NPTs (nocturnal penile tumescence erections) I can be guaranteed of at least one stimulating erection. I am circumcised and I believe that my frenulum was “spared”—there is a lot of sensation there; too much stimulation can trigger an ejaculation. The “chastity cup” prevents some (but not all) of this stimulation and so helps to quench that “ready-to-cum” feeling near the PONR. Read more »