Well, that’s not exactly truth. I’ve found out that the best toy for me is a finger. For those interested I’ll give more specfics at the end but let me give you context, which is more important. In a series of events I’ve been trying intermittent stimulation. I’ve confirmed to myself, that sphincter is very important and I’ve used the tips of bigger toys to do it. It was no longer handsfree, introduced hassles, silicon lubricant, in short – it required a lot of attention and activity and grew tiresome. The strategy was somewhat successful though. I was reluctant to get into the practice of using my bare hand because it never seemed perfectly hygienic but I restricted myself to external stimulation and found out that it’s good enough and felt almost hygienic. I’ve found the perfect toy and it’s not just because it’s more convenient, I think the sheer amount of nerve endings that are engaged is important. This can explain some other things that coupled with arousal would trigger waves in me – the actual principle that can be reused for new approaches and as a guide towards success. Now for the actual practice, I’ve come to appreciate putting my hand on buttocks with middle finger right in the crack but the most important thing is to use tip of finger touching and lightly pressing. Not fast, not hard and making shorter or longer breaks to relax, I feel the pauses are important too. I don’t have any set strategy yet, there are so many possible variants. Easy to change positions, some feel better than others. As opposed to toys there’s huge amount of variability and precision – where and how and how long you touch, and you can feel it on both ends. It’s been very effective.
Author: rewirethr
Progasm tip
I’ve had a really good first couple of experiences with Progasm but then I’ve been very busy, didn’t have time for it and have not been in the right headspace and even had wet dreams. I knew not to expect much, I’ve experienced this with and without toys before, now it pressed too hard and was actually working against me.
I wasn’t going to switch to anything else so I quickly thought of spinning it around 180 degrees so the flatter side was against the prostate. Progasm is not angled and does have symmetric tabs so it fit well. I didn’t have a problem with that. Suddenly it was not going dead, it was just nice. I think I’m going to start with this next time.
The great Aneros massaging shootout
After new aquisitions I decided to re-test most of what I have. To make it as objective as possible (YMMV), I’m only judging on how effectively I was able to massage – that means the intensity of the response in a short time.
I am experienced in the feelings department but haven’t used toys much because they didn’t really feel worth my time. I am tight so pretty much everything including Eupho sits tightly. I used just enough lube to get everything in.
The setup: Position on my knees for greatest control, elbows proped up on a higher surface (more comfortable and less straining) and using my hips to gently control the angle and pressure. Usually a short break to clean and replace toys. Playing bland but nice porn, can’t ensure objectivity throughout time here, torn between focusing on the mental notes, massaging and trying to let go by watching it.
So in the order of appearance (and reappearance) short review for each one:
Eupho classic. Never quite liked it but I was able to get it going, being able to control the massage. I guess the time I chose was not bad.
Peridise – small and big. It’s not a massager, it’s something to put in, the control is not great. At least the smaller one might be able to move on its own (yes, that’s how tight I am). Haven’t been able to do anything significant in the short amount of time. Sill, it can be worked better than a small plug.
HFWO
So I’ve been lurking here and after some discussions and deliberation I tried to aim for HFWO. I already mentioned that it feels pretty much impossible to me, at least without toys and without a deliberate attempt to go over the threshold.
Now I managed to do it in 30 minutes of Aneros massaging after some unrelated experimentation without toys during the day… so peak arousal long gone by then but the whole setup may or may not played part in the success. It was both what I expected and not, because it did trigger refractory period but felt like a very mild ruined orgasm at the same time.
What’s your HFWO experiences? How did you do it?