Posting for other first timers….: it does not have to take months!!!
Lurking here for some time, married man with kids. I explored manually a few times but felt this was really not getting anywhere. Eventually I figured out that walking into a sex shop and buying an Aneros would probably be worth it and would certainly save me the embarrassment from receiving a « special package at home » that I can’t explain to anyone: it ain’t Christmas time yet. Went ahead did It. Also bought a douche following « unexpected results » after manual stimulation. I don’t have alone time often: 5 kids, one wife. But I did this weekend (with only the younger kids around, I waited until bed time). Timing seemed right.
Prepped, showered, and got started. First I put it in backwards and ended up stimulating opposite to the prostate but switched it. Not much although I could feel that there was something to be discovered. Not particularly exciting aside from the novelty and like many others, I am not into gay sex and I had to overcome the « shame ». Well, let me tell you, it was worth it.
What happened is that after 30 minutes I though this wasn’t working so I smoked some weed (legal here). Not much, just a few puffs. I don’t smoke often, only a few times a year. Went back to my room.