Last night my wife and I talked – I reminded her we last made love in March and here it is late October. She reminded me of her perimenopause into menopause phase that she has been stuck in for the last 5 or 6 years, and that it could last another five years, maybe more. She said to be honest she has no interest in sex other than private masturbation. I told her from my perspective the connection was the most part, and she agreed. So I made her an offer. We abandon sex altogether indefinitely in exchange for kissing and cuddling. She is allowed to masturbate her labia and clit in private but no vaginal or anal penetration with toys, fingers, objects. I am allowed to use my prostate toys in my rectum in private but no touching or rubbing of my penis or scrotum for arousal purposes. If I want to acquire a chastity device she will supervise the installation and hold the key, but it would need to be something wearable 24/7 as she does not want to be involved taking it off and putting it back on me. We discussed me seeing my doctor to review the cholesterol and blood pressure medications she had previously suggested as erectile dysfunction would be ideal for us.
“Portable Chastity”
Background
I decided to sleep in my Mueller cup overnight. When I awoke early this morning, I wanted to chill with some relaxing music. I set myself up on my sofa, put on headphones and started listening. At some point, I wanted to remove the cup and just relax in my PJs. So I did….
Thwarted by the Cup
When I settled-in wearing only my PJs, of course my hands began to wander. As sure enough, they found my rising cock and began to play. Since I am only in Day 4 of semen retention, I did not want to run the risk of ejaculating so soon. So what did I do? I took the cup out of the jockstrap and placed it over my PJs and my groin! And with my hand holding the cup, I was unable to continue the stimulation on my cock! Problem solved!
Waking-Up
At some point, however, I must have dozed-off. When I woke-up again, I could not believe the erection I had. It was so strong and I began to lightly “pump” the cup. Oh that feeling of being near the PONR was so strong, I honestly knew that I could ejaculate at that point. But I held-back, and kept the cup in place with my hand until the erection began to subside. At one point, I remember placing my hand inside the pouch of the jock and that was stimulating in itself!
Losing its lustre
This wasn’t a bad session just not as good as some I’ve had especially with the Progasm. Think I’m going to take a week off and see what happens next time.
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first aneros toy for an experienced bottom?
I’m very comfortable with having things in my butt from small to very large. however I’m still looking for that anal orgasm, super, prostate or otherwise. I’ve been reading alot of reviews and they all seem conflicting. some people say that the smaller toys like helix and trident are better some say they’re too flimsy. on the other end I’ve heard some other people say the progasm is a great pick but others say it’s too girthy and long to really get much play out of it. I really don’t know what to do and I’d like to (fingers crossed) pick it right the first time.
I’d be exceptionally to get any advice but especially from other experienced bottoms would be wonderful, many thanks in advance!
“Wear Underwear? You Can Wear A Cup!”
Background
I am only in Day 2 of a new “run” of SR and I slept almost through the entire night without wearing a “chastity cup”. Towards morning, I noticed that I was “grabbing” my swollen package a little too much. I couldn’t believe how stimulating it felt, but I wanted it to stop! And that’s when I got the urge to put-on my SD carbon cup and quench the fire!
The cup goes on easily, like putting-on some underwear. And as soon as I had it on, I had a great relief knowing that my “private package” was again off-limits to my wandering hands. That is the essence of male chastity, whether by an athletic cup or a more traditional cock cage. The feeling is the same.
Male Chastity
Male chastity is not as much about a sexy, stimulating feeling (although that is a great side-benefit!) It is about control. In particular, in my case, it is about someone (or something) being in control of my sexual response, in particular, my ejaculations. When that control is given-up, strange things happen. At once, I am not in control of my ejaculations. (Yes, ultimately, in this game-of-one, I am). But temporarily, I have given up that control to an inanimate object. And that object I can wear! That hard piece of plastic, perfectly shaped for my male anatomy, cradles and protects my package perfectly! If I play by-the-rules, I can’t cheat!
“At Day 7, Anything Can Happen!”
Introduction
I made it to Day 7 of SR and I slept in my Mueller “chastity cup” overnight. It could be a coincidental T-thing, but I seemed to have multiple erections during the night. Towards morning, I was awakened by the usual “PONR” feeling within the cup. But this time, I felt like I was further-along towards an ejaculation. Somewhere deep in my mind, I knew that an ejaculation was forthcoming. But I didn’t know when and where. I must have stayed in this realm for perhaps 20 minutes or more.
Binaural Listening Session
Still erect within the cup, I wanted to augment the PONR “feeling” by retiring to my comfortable couch and start listening to some binaural beats for orgasm and ejaculation. I was ready for both. The one I selected (and the one that worked) was:
“DOUBLE ORGASM – COME TWICE – Binaural Audio Stimulation – Hands Free Beats + Isochronics Tones”
I listened twice to this 14-minute gem; the first one got me wet with precum and the second one finished me off. I almost didn’t need my hands to finish the job! But towards the end, I was so ready for the ejaculation that I “helped” to accelerate it! Man, it felt ever so good to cum!
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Note (from WebMD.com):
“Erections depend on testosterone, but the relationship between the two is complex and not fully understood. Some men have healthy erections despite testosterone levels well below the normal range.”
PS-New first time
One, I need to take a break. I’ve had a session every day for the past four days.
This is an interesting device. Definitely applies more pressure than the Helix, not quite as much as the Progasm. You can definitely tell the PS-New is there. It seems to reach higher than the Helix too. Not sure about the Progasm. Good device.
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“Not Into Male Chastity? Be An MLB Player!”
Introduction
I sometimes wear a cup supporter to refrain from masturbation and ejaculation, usually when I am regularly practicing semen retention (SR). But there are other times when I just like the fit and feel of the cup against my groin. During those times, I like to envision just being a regular guy and perhaps an MLB player. Of course, most MLB players need to wear a cup, either in a pair of compression shorts or in a jockstrap. I don’t know what brand many of them wear, but I would believe that Shock Doctor is a regular contender. So too could be Under Armour, Nutty Buddy and some others.
Are the MLB players into male chastity? Probably not! But they all experience the satisfaction of knowing that their precious “family jewels” will be protected in any circumstance out on the field! So during every practice, every game, even every World Series (!) you can be sure that those guys on the field will be wearing their cups!
Fantasy
Now how does all this talk about baseball players and cups factor-in to my practice of male chastity? I believe it is just to draw a comparison between something completely normal and something with a more sexual “flavor” to it. After all, it is exactly the same “hardware” we are both wearing. Nothing more and nothing less. But it is in the interpretation of their use that we differ. I can pretend to be an MLB player once-in-a while, can’t I? If I’m not into baseball, then I can become an NHL or an NFL player who wears a cup. We are all men and we all have our “goods” to protect! So choose your sport and go for it!
How to avoid frustation in a session?
I bought the helix trident 2 months ago and used it 1-2 times a week. The first sessions were great and i enjoyed the new experience but now im getting frustatated mid a session. After 30 min in im getting frustated that and bored. Also i have the problem that i have to much expectations which lead again to frustation. How can i get the proper mindset for a session? How do you guys do it?
Normal to cum?
I’ve had an Aneros for a while and use it on and off. I hadn’t cum in two weeks so I thought I’d use it today, while watching porn. At first I felt nothing but then things seemed to get pretty intense, culminating in an actual orgasm with cum. Is this normal? I thought the goal is not to cum? Not sure why my body decided it would. What do you guys think?