This is my first blog ever. I had nerve sparing radical prostatectomy about 2.5 years ago. A great deal of time is spent talking about erections, but I was at a loss when it came to information on pleasure and orgasm. The only results I got from Cialis or Viagra was partial erections while urinating while sitting down, for a few days following. I also tried pumps but was not a big fan. Through it all my wife has been supportive, but I was left feeling that she was more on the sidelines waiting for me to figure it out leaving me frustrated and unjustifiably angry with her. The stress on our marriage has been extreme. I was given very little support from my doctor other than erection pills, penis injections or surgery to put a pump in my testicle sac to pump up an erection. Nothing addressed sexual pleasure other than being told the only kind of orgasm I could have would be a dry orgasm. “WTF” does that even mean.
After 2 years of trying, failing, and doing my own research to address the fact that there seemed to be some correlation between my erections and stimulation of the internal nerves that were spared during the surgery. I researched prostate massagers to if any might stimulate the spared nerves even though the prostate was removed. I discussed the possibility of benefit with my doctor’s office and had a very difficult discussion with my wife. I was so relieved when she responded that she loved me and would work with me to figure it out. I settled on the Helix Syn V and Progasm. I found the Progasm comfortable enough to wear while slept. Within a week or so of leaving it in all night every night I started getting erections while peeing sitting down even though I hadn’t taken any erection medication.
I have been able to give my wife orgasms without having an erection, but I was denied any form of physical pleasure myself. One night lying in bed on my stomach facing away from my wife, my legs spread and the Progasm inside me, I asked her to roll over and put her leg over mine. When she did I my body responded and did it ever. Every muscle in my body was contracting, my toes curled, I started panting and maybe even whimpering. This built up for several minutes until I was able to catch my breath and relax, but not for long before I started to blast off again. I not sure but I think this rolling orgasm lasted more than 30 minutes. We were traveling the next day and that night it happened again. So much of my frustration and anger was feeling that sexual pleasure was something that I would never experience again. I can honestly say that I have never had an orgasm as intense or satisfying. Any more my wife can roll over and rub my ankle and get me fired up. I feel the sensations when on my own but never to the extent as I do when my wife is with me.
At this point I’m looking for some counseling. I’m still frustrated with the medical community for their lack of help finding quality of life solutions for their patients. I shouldn’t have had to spend the amount of time I did in pornography to find medical information that the medical community is to squeamish to talk about. Grow up already!
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Success?! (Aneros Progasm Ice)
So I’ve been playing with my prostate every now and then for a few months, I tried the Aneros Helix, but I couldn’t feel it when inside me. I’ve had p waves before but nothing more.
I bought the Progasm Ice on sale last month and tonight was the first time I got to use it.
Once I got it in I just laid back and put on some porn to listen to. I have a small bullet massager that I was using on my nipples that was like okay, but nothing crazy.
After about 10 minutes of just laying there on my back with my legs up doing kegels, I had my first p wave, shaking, heavy breathing, the whole deal.
This happened a couple of times, it was going like how all of the other sessions went, p waves and leaving me questioning what the next steps feel like.
Then, I started moving my hips up and down, I remembered that I liked this motion and that it got my going last time.
Then, I started to feel intense pleasure in my head. I could almost feel a line being drawn from where the toy was touching me inside to my brain.
There was a buildup of pleasure in the front of my head, just above my forehead (idk if that makes any sense, but that’s where I felt it lol).
Progress?
Hi all. Familiar story for me with use of the aneros line. Picked it up and put it down off and on for years. Only about 6 months ago did I get serious about training and practicing enough to create pleasure. That lit the spark and I’ve been feeling some very nice sensations though nothing mind blowing.
Tonight’s session though was a different story. I used my Syn Trident on my back with feet flat and did the usual relaxation and doing nothing at first. I’ve just started to really work on PC muscle strengthening so though I’d give some tug-o-war a try tonight.
The usual nice fluttering took place but then a VERY slow change started to take place. I held the toy in the middle of a slight kegel contraction and almost imperceptibly slowly I began to feel the toy draw up. Once it felt it was as high as it could go I could feel my body closing in on it. Next, again extremely slowly, my abdominal muscles began to contract. I held everything in the region of the Aneros steady. The abdominal contraction continued to build until I was in a full ab crunch (hard) and my ass was off the bed. My body has clamped down extremely hard on the Aneros. After two minutes my body slowly relaxed from this contraction and after 30 seconds (and catching my breath) another ramp up ab crunch came. This cycle repeated for probably 30-40 minutes.
Do you feel your prostate activating when stroking?
Recently got into this habit of letting the PC floor going as wild as it want.
At first it helped engaging back to back, dry orgasms, i had to stop completely or only rub the shaft to stay in that zone. At this point i would only stroke to find the spot or when my penis needed blood flow to get fully hard again.
It sort of got boring and i don’t think i could’ve reach any leg shaking p-orgasm without toys. So i redirected my focus over stimulating the head and shaft again.
Now the weird thing almost any spasms or throbbing can easily tickle those deep spongy squeezes i could only feel during dry orgasm before.
When going up and down the shaft while the automatic reflexes are still in action it growls for dozens of strokes until a stronger automatic reflexes takes over to pushes more precum, like the spasms are constantly present to some degree and feels delightful. The deep squeezes usually comes again after one breathing cycle or less.
I’m curious if you guys work like that too. Do you think it’s possible to reach a p-gasm with no toy?
Do you moan during your sessions?
I find this curious. My last session felt so amazing pleasure wise. I was moaning and yelling, but it was all in my mind. Aside from the deep breathing, body spasm/shakes, eyes going completely wide and sharp exhales every now and again, I was mostly silent.
Like, the pleasure was enormous, but it was all… internal? Does this make sense?
I used to read a lot of how many users consider dry o’s and super o’s mostly a mental thing. Whenever I masturbate traditionally, I ALWAYS edge and I usually can’t hold myself back from moaning during.
First HFWO
Hi guys, today I just had my first ever HFWO and it was amazing! I’ve been away for about 3 weeks so I haven’t been able to jack off which has made me extremely horny, so when I got home, I could barely hold back from the temptation of jerking one out.
I decided that I would try my Aneros and see if anything good would happen, and boy, am I glad I did! I’ve been using the Helix syn for about 2 months now, and apart from the odd tingle hear and there, and a bit of precum, I haven’t had much success. Today however was different. I did the usual practice of putting the aneros in and just laying there on my back, with my feet flat on the bed. After about 5 mins I noticed some tingles, more than which I had ever got before which continued to happen, with some more intense tingles appearing here and there.
After what must have been 30 mins, my body started to twitch and jerk back and forth, making my legs shake wildly and my hole body convulse. This was the first time experiencing this so I was a bit surprised, but just let my body do what it wanted to do. (After research I knew that people’s bodies and legs would twitch, but not this harsh and for this long) After about 5 or 10 minutes of this, it got even more intense, and I noticed that it felt like I was gonna orgasm. I started breathing a lot quicker and began moaning from the pleasure, and I was feeling closer and closer to cumming, but my body had other ideas and stopped twitching. I lay there in awe of what just happened, especially after a solid 2 months of barely any feeling.
my first successful session where I had rolling orgasms over and over.
Hi bros, first time posting here but i felt I had to share my experience the other night and get some feedback. Its probably guna be a pretty long post but please bear with me.
First a bit about me.
Im 31 years old and been on the journey for over 2 years now with little success. Ive had a few sessions where things feel like theyre heading somewhere but they sort of fizzle out. Ive had the racing heart, slight moaning, tingles and muscle spasms at different times.
The toys i have are the aneros (helix trident, peridise, mgx, eupho trident, maximus trident and progasm ice) and the lovense edge vibrator. Ive used all at some point.
My typical session starts with cleaning up and then going upstairs and laying on the floor on some towels near to the warm radiator. Im laying down with my head proped up on some pillows and my legs laying to each side with my feet pulled up close to my ass. I then put in my earbuds and put on some good biaural beats or mindgasm. This is usually where I’d lube up my hole with coconut oil and rub a layer of water based lube on my chosen toy.
Then i try to relax for a bit listening and deep breathing and after a while i look at some hot pics on reddit whilst hitting my weed vape at a low temp.
I’d usually have in the helix or the maximus for a while until swapping to the progasm where things kinda get nicer. This nice contact feeling doesn’t usually last or progress but recently i found that if I push out (like a reverse kegel) instead of doing kegels and manual contractions I feel strong pushing contractions in my lower abdomen which feels kinda nice. Now if I start slowly thrusting the progasm the faster I go the harder my body pushes ( and i mean really pushes) until its so intense I can’t take it and il leak cum, pre cum and finally squirt clear slippery liquid…this feels really good but not what I’m looking for.
New progress
About me: 37 year old male who has been playing various anal toys for about five years.
I own the Helix classic, Mgx syn , Eupho trident, Njoy pure wand and Progasm . I’ve had varied levels of success with each of the toys and have always had fun while learning.
I recently had some extended alone time and decided to purchase a Helix syn v for the vibrating patterns and a small dildo with suction cup.
With the freedom to enjoy the time alone, I spent lots of time to relax and get in the mood reading on literotica and listening to gone wild audio.
Once fully aroused, I started running my hands all over my body, focusing on my inner thighs, neck, stomach and nipples. My nipples get overly sensitive really quick, so I used some body oils to keep everything slick and pain free. I was oozing a fair amount of pre cum before I inserted and found myself desperate for more.
I started with the Helix syn V and a healthy amount of aneros sessions lube. Once inserted, I concentrated on the feeling of being opened up by the toy and how my deep breathing was softly grinding the toy against my prostate. I absolutely love that sweet feeling of first noticeable contact when the prostate starts to engorge.
Had some progress and need advice
I got the Aneros Helix Syn V a couple of months ago and have been occasionally playing around with it working towards a prostate orgasm. I’ve had mild success before; a little bit of shaking during long sessions, but nothing to crazy and definitely no hands free o / super o.
I saw a post here saying that before your session it helps to edge for a little bit so I did just that. I jerked off for maybe 30 min and brought myself close 10 or so times.
I did this late at night and was in a very relaxed state, which probably helped a lot. After a bit of fun (no cumming, though) I decided it was time to start with playing with the toy. I took 10 or so min before starting to hit my weed pen and to make sure it had been a bit since I touched my cock.
Laying down on my bed, I lubed up the toy and after rubbing it against my hole for a bit I gently pushed it in. I started the session with the vibration off and just trie to focus on contracting. I also made sure that I tried different types of contractions; I saw a post saying that they didn’t have to be big ones and found that I had the best results with little contractions.
First Aneros Session Recount
Massager: Aneros Helix Trident
Lube: Coconut Oil (Lubed toy, hole, and used a lube shooter)
So, before I started I read a lot about common techniques and practices. I even watched a couple of videos of people having prostate orgasms and super orgasms (or so they say) with the aneros to have a frame of reference.
Once the toy was in, I laid flat on my back and started to do some deep breathing exercises. After a few minutes of this to get relaxed I remembered that in some of the videos they say that stimulating your nipples can help. So I started with that and rubbing other parts of my body (never touching my penis) and this did feel good, especially with the deep breathing.
After a bit of this I started to do some kegel exercises. I was having a tough time of actually feeling the massager inside me, I didn’t feel pressure or full or really anything. But I tried visualizing the toy inside me and that helped a lot, I got a clear picture of where the toy was and what it was doing.
While doing the kegels I felt what I could only describe as “wisps” of pleasure, like tiny little bursts of a pleasurable feeling I felt move from my prostate area upwards. I tried focusing on that feeling like some guides say, but I couldn’t really hone in on it. I went back to my deep breathing and nipple play and kinda just reset the situation.
Then, instinct just kinda took over, it was much less cerebral. I started moving my hips up and down while doing the kegels, it felt good so I just kinda rolled with it.
I knew I felt something, but I didn’t know what. It didn’t feel like anything I’d experienced in sex or masturbation before. The best way I can describe it is when you see sheets of water going down a window, but the water was small bits of pleasure and the window was my body (from my ass to my head).
At this point I don’t really remember what I did, I was just continuing what I was doing (the kegels, the moving my hips up and down, the nipple play, and the breathing) when suddenly my breathing went shallow and fast, and after a few seconds my torso was having uncontrollable spasms. My breathing got very heavy and fast, and my torso was shaking for about 10 seconds. Then, nothing.
I just remember feeling thirsty, my lips were dry, so I grabbed some water before looking down. The towel under me was dry and my dick was still soft, so I knew I didn’t cum, but I did feel a good amount of pleasure. At this point I wanted to reapply lube (I probably didn’t have to, but I’ve never done ass play before and I don’t want to take any chances of not being lubed enough). This was a natural break point anyway. I checked the clock and it had only been about 20 minutes since I’d started, so I knew I was gonna go back in for more.
After my quick break, I put the toy back in and got ready again. I watched one of the videos again to see what the success stories looked like, and I noticed way more leg shaking than torso shaking, so idk.
Anyway, I went back to what I was doing before, breathing, kegels, nipples, worked my way back in over the next few minutes.
Then, my breathing went shallow and hard again. I could feel myself quickening my hip movement involuntarily. Then my whole torso and legs went into spasms, the waves of pleasure were more intense this time (still not really that strong though, any penile orgasm would be much stronger), but I couldn’t really focus on them at all, I was just experiencing them. My knees eventually bent and were shaking vigorously. This time the shaking went on for about 30-45 seconds (at least so I think, it was much, much longer than the first time). Then, it just stopped all at once.
The upper part of where my quads meet my hips were sore and I just kinda laid there catching my breath. I can only describe what I was in as a trance, I didn’t really have too much conscious control of my body. Again I hadn’t cum or even gotten an erection.
I’m not really sure what happened, not much of the pleasure was deliberate and it wasn’t really comparable to anything I’ve experienced from sex or masturbation. I don’t really know what to make of it, but I did like how relaxing it was and I see that there is definitely potential there.
I’ll probably give it another go sometime this week.
Is there anything I should be doing differently? How do I have more “conscious” pleasure, like something I can definitely feel, not something that’s like in the background?