Tag: Do nothing

“Our Male Sexual Reality: Imagining The Possibilities”

Introduction
All of us healthy men have NPTs, that is Nocturnal Penile Tumescence erections at night. These night-time erections come like clockwork. In my case, I am frequently woken-up in the middle of the night with one. Just this morning, I awoke to an NPT. While I was awake, it lasted perhaps 20-25 minutes. A constant, throbbing, pulsing erection. But that NPT was soon followed-up by another one! That one lasted another 20-25 minutes! So I was lying in bed, with an arousing erection lasting at least 45 minutes; all the while, I could do nothing but lie-back and try to relax as best I could. Since I am in Day 4 of SR, there was no possibility of an ejaculation for me. My sexual reality was fixed for about an hour.

While in this state, I began to “meditate” or fantasize on the possibilities of alternate sexual realities for us males. Here is what developed…..

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DPTs
Instead of nightly erections, what if our bodies were programmed for daily penile tumescence? We would have absolutely no control over these daily erections. They would come like clockwork. How would our lives be different? Well, for one thing, men would have to expect more “bulges” to develop at any time during the day. Our wives and lovers would know this and would probably look for them. Some guys (like me) may begin to wear our jockstraps (and perhaps cups as well) to contain our pleasure. More daily sexual encounters would be happening for sure. Atheletes’ attire probably would be affected as well. Read more »

Very very slow progress sure beats no progress

If you’re not having progress with your Aneros, so long as it isn’t hurting, do keep giving it a go from time to time. There’s a comment in the sidebar that “some guys have spent years getting there”; take that literally.

I suspect I got my Aneros back in 2005, give or take a year. I bought it at the point believing there was only one model and was surprised to receive one called a MGX – this might help people be able to place it in time. It probably took me several years and a lot of effort and exaggerated clenching to get any sort of reaction, and for the longest time I would try the “lots of deep breathing, fifteen full clenches then hold it quarter-way” routine. I might get one pleasant sensation, though not always, then that would be it in terms of anything pleasurable for the session. I would keep trying and trying and get nothing further. There were two occasions, years apart, where I clenched so much that for several (5? 7?) days afterwards I felt like I had bruised myself internally and felt like I was buzzing inside, in a not-at-all pleasant way, to the point where sitting down was uncomfortable. Ever since then I’ve taken it more easily. Read more »

A New Technique: “Do-Nothing Edging”

Background
I slept in my Mueller “chastity cup” overnight and awoke about 2 AM quite aroused. I wanted a session and I had to decide between the HIH 950 and the MGX Classic. I selected the MGX. Now, although this session was good and I expelled some prostate fluid (not precum), in hindsight, my rectum was not as empty as it should have been. Hence, this session was less than refreshing and ultimately, disappointing. Fast-forward about an hour. I decided to “retire” the hard chastity cup for a while and replace it with a regular jockstrap. I selected my Omtex swim supporter and defly placed it beneath my long PJs. Well, before too long (as I have said many times before) I can’t keep my hands off my male package when it is so accessible (not in a hard chastity cup). But this time was different. Let me explain…..

A New “Edging” Technique
Instead of “stroking” and “kneading” my package through the soft knit pouch, I began to “press” and “hold” my finger(s) against my frenulum. Then I did the same thing to my scrotum. And then down to my perineum. And something amazing happened…..I slowed things down to the point of “do-nothing” edging! And as I began to feel an incredible power building-up, I sort-of fell into a meditation as well. Here is the essence of it, to the best I can remember. Read more »

“A New Direction For My Sessions?”

This blog post is not related to any particular session lately. Rather, my sessions seem to be taking a different direction. Let me explain…..

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The past two sessions have been good. I generally start aroused and wearing a “chastity cup”. Nothing new there. But lately, my sessions have been shorter and less eventful. My most recent one with the SGX was only about 20 minutes long. But in that time I had one quite large full-body contraction (was it an orgasm?) I am beginning to think so. That one large contraction came on the heels of a basically do-nothing approach to the session. This session with the SGX started out very nice and relaxing. But before long, I could feel it starting to “tickle” my prostate which started to swell.

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I believe that the key to enjoyment of my sessions lately is to just relax into them and have no expectations. And if the session is short and only filled with one orgasm, then that should be good enough for me! I should not try to lengthen it or expect multiple orgasms. Perhaps when my body is ready, it will give me another Super-O! It will probably build-up out of a “do-nothing” start! But until then, I will just savor the sessions as they come and enjoy every brief moment of them! Read more »

Out of a relationship, into a new journey

I’ve been using an aneros since I turned 18. I’m turning 25 this year, and I think only now have I really understood my body and how it responds to the prostate and the aneros. I’ve used a good amount over the years but I had long stints of no anal play. I’ve had a ton of dud sessions but I’ve had a ton of amazing sessions where I learn so much about myself but also life kind of. I have never yet had a super o, but I feel like I have small dry wave like orgasms, but I feel like I am getting closer.

I’ve been in a relationship for nearly 4 years, but we broke up a couple months ago. Before that I was single for a year and in a 3 year long relationship before that. Way too long for a young person. I’m not going to go into details, but I think only just now have I been realizing that I need and WANT to be able to do what I want more often. I feel so free and able to do whatever I want. Especially since I don’t want kids. I have also come to the realization that I am bisexual. All of these things together have really put a hamper on my aneros use. For months I would jerk off like normal. I’ve always wanted my prostate and ass to be my only source of pleasure. Because I am single now, I feel like I can be me now and I can do what I want. Read more »

Waves?

So a couple more sessions with the Helix Trident and some neat shit has happened. I tried a bit more of a “do nothing” approach with deep breathing and some porn playing in the background for ambient seconds. Light contractions at most. The first time I tried it I accidentally fell asleep, which kind of derailed the session, but for the last one…

After maybe thirty minutes after getting relaxed, I started to feel some warm “waves” start washing over me, from toe to head. They weren’t pleasurable, but definitely a novel feeling that I’ve never felt before. After 20 seconds or so they fade, and I couldn’t recapture them for the rest of the session.

I’m reasonably sure that they were prostate related and that I didn’t imagine them. I’m stoked!

“She Respected The Cup: An Aless Sexual Fantasy”

Background: I had finished a sweet, relaxing session with the Eupho Classic. I wanted to lie-down for a while and savor the Aless, so I found a nice, erotic track on YouTube that I remember: “SEX MUSIC – 10 Passionate Melodies for Erotic Moments”. I began to listen…..

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After a short while, I began to fall-into a sexual fantasy. It was quite real and quite intense. Here is the essence…..

I am lying down with my female lover and she begins to caress and cuddle me all over. But she sees that I am wearing a “chastity cup”. She tells me matter-of-factly: “You’re not going to touch your cock and neither am I!” You see, she respected the cup. She proceeded then to caress my body which was close to hers. My nipples were already quite engorged and firm and she proceeded to gently caress one, then the other. I feel it very strongly down in my prostate. Her nimble hands deftly made their way to caress my pecs and then my underarms and finally my arms. But she didn’t stop there. She reached around my back and down to my waist. She went further on down as well. Read more »

Definite success

Just had my first mini o, either that or it was a really intense p wave. Laid on my back, legs up, and did a mix of do nothing and matching contractions with my breathing, relaxing while breathing in, and contracting while breathing out. I felt it, very specifically wash over me, like a wave at the beach, like it wasn’t just an all over feeling that got more intense, it was the same intensity all the way through it, but it spread from my bum, up my stomach, and down my legs. It was over in a half second, but it was euphoric.

Session 3, New Sensations.

Started off really nice, tried the “do nothing” thing again, and got some really nice p-waves. Although they were more immediate, maybe 2 or three minutes after inserting, and were way more intense than the last time. Also tried holding a contraction for as long as possible, this seemed to do the job for me. Definitely felt a full body wave of pleasure, made me feel like I was just starting to float out of my body, and felt something building in my ass, right at the tip of where i imagine my helix sits, it definitely felt like the beginning of an orgasm… And then my family came home and fucked it. Just my luck. Rode for about an hour after that and never quite got back into the swing of it but i did move to lay on my side, and my helix started rubbing against the side of my rectum and for a second that was this EXPLOSION of pleasure, but it fizzled out. Wanked off. I await the possibility of the same “buzzing” in my prostate that may start up later.

“Therapeutic Prostate Massage or Sensual, Erotic and Pleasurable Prostate Massage?”

[My friends, Ron and Bill are fictitious. They are used here to prove a point.]

I have two friends, Ron and Bill to whom I recommended Aneros prostate massage. Ron uses his massager to control his BPH symptoms and he tells me that it does a great job! Bill, on the other hand, doesn’t have BPH but uses his prostate massager to achieve wonderful, sensual anal and prostate pleasure. Which one is using his prostate massager correctly?

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The answer: They both are! Prostate massage is an activity that can have therapeutic benefits (such as control of BPH symptoms) as well as sensual, sexual “side-effects”. Thanks to @rumel for an important clarification that both aspects of prostate massage are valid. We are free to interpret our prostate massages any way we like.

Using prostate massage for therapeutic purposes is beneficial to me. I have seen a marked reduction in my BPH symptoms since performing almost daily sessions for 3-4 days now with my HIH 950 massager. Just last night, I didn’t get up once!

This morning, following the recommended “routine” of 15 minutes “do-nothing” followed by 30 cycles of slow PC contractions/releases, I began to get a feeling like I was going to ejaculate. I kept performing some PC contractions when all of a sudden, I began to “cycle” the massager very quickly. It seemed like it was on “automatic-pilot” and I really didn’t have any control over what was happening. But it felt so good, I didn’t want it to stop. This went on for perhaps another 15-20 minutes. It was time to get up so I ended this nice session to get ready for the day. Read more »