Tag: Relaxation

Day 6 of 5th attempt

Almost a week since I ejaculated. I’ve felt largely the same as I did before I ejaculated. Here’s some observations:

– Thurs and Fri night had a solo session with various Aneros toys in. The sessions felt good, but didn’t result in more than 1 or 2 small orgasms – but over the hour I was feeling a buzzing and enjoyed it. To be honest, I wasn’t trying that hard either. I was just watching TV and enjoying having someting in my butt 🙂 But it’s the first time I can remember in a long time 2 back to back sessions that didn’t really work out.

– Pretty calm energy. No big spikes in horniness. I’m interested in sex, but don’t feel like it’s a primary thought going through my head like it often is.

– I have blue balls today. I suspect it could be because of the two sessions I had the last two days that didn’t result in very much orgasmic reactions, and hence not a lot of pre cum released.

Probably going to have sex this afternoon, but going to focus a lot on relaxing and staying at an 8/10. Hopefully get some blue ball relief from that, but the blue balls right now are pretty minor. I had it on my 1st attempt at this, but didn’t on the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th.

“First Ride: The HIH Pro-State 950 Prostate Massager”

Well! My new prostate massager arrived yesterday. It was the High Island Health’s newest model, the Pro-State 950. My first impression was that: this thing is smaller than other Aneros models I have used. First off, it is thinner, shorter and has a newly-designed perineum tab. I was eager to try it out but frankly, I was a little disappointed.

OMG! That all changed once I inserted it. It went in so easily, without a struggle. Before I knew it, it has nestled-up against my prostate and was starting to work. The instructions say just to relax for 15 minutes before doing any contractions. What they didn’t say is that this device seems to work so well, I was doing auto-F contractions only after about 5 to 10 minutes. I couldn’t help but start the contractions sooner.

Did it work? How about 6-8 drops of not precum but prostate fluid on the first “ride”? I had the HIH PS-NEW which released prostate fluid but I was always a little sore. The 950 seemed to hit my prostate perfectly with absolutely no discomfort (except the good kind!) After I removed it, I had a wonderful Aless for about another 30 minutes.

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Fast-forward to this morning (early). I guess I was prostate-horny because I needed another 950 session. Lubed-up and away I went! This time, I managed to stay still for the full 15 minutes but it wasn’t easy. Before I even started contractions, I had an additional ~5 drop or so of prostate fluid expelled from my penis. I almost forgot how prostate stim feels after a long absence from Aneros. Now I know better. Read more Â»

Some Progress!

So I decided to try an a-less session a couple nights ago and honestly I’m kind of shocked!

I had great subtle pleasure flowing through me at times, and I think I felt a wave or two that felt almost as good as a regular orgasm!

Unfortunately it didn’t last very long, but it’s gotten my hopes up 🙂

I’ve recently been feeling these ‘pleasure bubbles’ that feel like a bubble is sitting on or just near my prostate. Earlier today I thought I may have felt a fart coming on and – with my libido being high due to abstaining from masturbation for a week and a half – confused that fart for some kind of prostate pleasure.

However, about an hour before I began my session I noticed that same feeling happen twice in a row, but they felt much bigger and honestly if I relaxed myself into them I think I would have instantly came. That’s just conjecture though, seeing as I’ve been on this journey for a few years now and am just beginning to understand the intricacies of it all.

Has anyone else felt something similar on their path?

The unavoidable ejaculation

My sex drive keeps being as low as ever. With a possible change starting only in September things keep dragging.

Most of my sessions end in nothing.
When I have a lot of time sometimes I can get to somewhere.
In the last productive sessions I ended up with another old friend, the unavoidable hfwo that ruins my sessions.

In the first session it came out of nowhere, and it was fast.
I had just inserted Aneros and I was viewing some porn to get some arousal.
I was like 30 mins in with nothing special then suddenly I feel the orgasm coming, with no previous warning.
It went from nothing to ejaculation, and the weird is that I had only the background pleasurable feelings before it came sudenly.
I’ve never experienced this before (the sudden out of nowhere ejaculation/orgasm).

In the second session as usual it took some hours until I felt something.
I was getting the feelings of general pleasure and I was relaxing and letting it continue, always with the do nothing approach.
Sometimes I fell asleep and kept waking up, the session contnued and eventually it reached a part where I started to feel more pleasure and, as also common for me, eventually it was too much and it triggered the ejaculation.

My third session was long but nothing special happened. I was again in the plateau and nothing happened for hours. Read more Â»

Day 1 of 5th attempt

Had a slow long, but not very intense ejaculation yesterday after 13 days. It just drippled out of me with not much force, weak contractions. I was trying to relax instead of tense up to stop the ejaculation.

Anyways – still feeling very different today than the other failed attempts. After the other failed attempts, I wasn’t all that horny or aroused for a few days after and felt a pretty good drop in energy. I feel pretty much the same today, and am actually hornier than I have been in probably a month. It’s not like I’m walking around with a hard on or anything (maybe I do feel a bit less pressure down around my groin area). But mentally, very aroused and horny.

I’m thinking of giving up the challenge. My 3rd and 4th attempt made it to 16 days and 13 days respectively. So basically a month now of ejaculating every 2 weeks aprox. So maybe that explains why I still seem to have so much energy today? It’s been building up over weeks, and it takes more than a single runied orgasm / weak ejaculation to deplete it.

This might be my final attempt. Going to try to avoid masturbating too much, and just be more careful during sex (although it was yesterday by myself that got me into trouble with having my dick in a masturbator, Venus 2000).

Day 13 – last day of 4th Attempt. Day 0 of 5th attempt

Was having a good session with my eupho syn and Venus 2000 masturbator all setup. Was soft most of the session, but getting close quite quickly. Was probably hovering too close to the point of no return for too long. Eventually, when I turned the masturbator off (I turn it off and on every few strokes as I get close) I was tight and couldn’t move the energy up my body. I thought it would be better to turn it back on to get it back up to the highest point of the stroke to sort of “let go” of my dick, but that made it worse and the stroke just caused more tension and contractions. I slowly spilled my load into it, and didn’t try to hold a contraction to stop what I knew was too late.

The ejaculation lasted about double the length of what a normal ejaculation does. And the contractions seemed a little slower and not as strong. I wasn’t that hard either when I ejaculated. In the minutes afterwards, I actually felt almost no loss of sexual energy. Like my head wasn’t a bit cloudy, I still felt kinda horny (although pissed off at myself for slipping up). In fact, it’s been about 15-20 min since I ejaculated, and typing this I’m getting horny thinking about the session and thinking about touching myself again (so will probably go try to play a bit after I type this, just curious what that feels like). Read more Â»

“An Unexpected Aless Session”

I had awakened not too early and was still wearing my “chastity cup”. It has been 8 days without a release. I decided to relax and listen to a couple of binaural tracks for prostate relief. I have had some issues with BPH recently and wanted to help it. I had listened for about an hour or so and then I decided to stop and just go lie down again.

When I did, I began to relax thoroughly. I felt just a slight “whisper” from my prostate but didn’t pay it much attention. But then, something strange but wonderful happened! I began to get an unmistakable “quivering” feeling from my prostate and around the same time, my cock began to get semi-hard and then flaccid and then semi-hard again. I knew something was up! I also began to get an unusual “paralyzing” feeling and felt that I was embarking on a “roller-coaster” of prostate pleasure. I was right! For the next 15 minutes or so, it was an almost non-stop orgasm. I began gently moaning with every wave of pleasure. It just wouldn’t stop! I began to perform just very slight kegels and distinctly felt three different sets of muscles at work. I was paralyzed with pleasure and just couldn’t stop it. The roller-coaster ride was not over yet. I began to get some whole-body quivers and continued to lightly moan.

The “ride” came to an end but I knew that it could have lasted longer. The feeling was almost identical to that during an Aneros session. Amazing Aless! Read more Â»

Day 28 of 2nd SR-Challenge

Hi everybody, on my 28th day of SR I can report about a five hour lasting session with wonderful heights. Left alone for quite the whole day I found some time for myself. Staying in pyjamas and gown I liked to use my primary search words “edging cumcontrol tumblr” to find some porn and some incitements for my session.
First I was into using my Magic Wand vibrator, but as its battery was low I searched for a replacement. In her bedside cabinet I made a find. A tiny vibrator slightly thicker and longer than my middlefinger. It was of super smooth silicone and felt like a worry stone. First I thought of the frequency as too high to enjoy but still wanted to give it a chance. I started my discovery route with some pressure on my perineum. First I felt nothing and already wanted to give it up, when I suddenly found some spots that gave me pleasure and already induced sudden involuntaries. That’s it, I thought, and sticked to it for some time, slowly driving me in to a frenzy. When feeling it could become too much I resisted to take it away, risking my SR-challenge, still wavering to end it up or to continue for another 12 days to cope with the famous “40 days and 40 nights”. Thus I heightened up my arousal more and more until I was so close I had to give it up. Resting on the couch I calmed down and out of a sudden, when nearly fully relaxed, a Super-O came over me like a breaking wave, sending me into several wonderful minutes of tremendous Aless.
After a while I decided to take up the vibrator again and put it on my frenulum. Quickly I got rock hard again and ran up the hill to the PONR. It was a very risky play as I often thought I couldn’t bear it any longer and would ejaculate. But I only drenched my underwear with precum. Finally I had to end up again, while the clock showed that already three hours had gone by. Now I got my Tempo ready, prepared myself and put it in with some vaseline. Having the vibrator with me it came to my mind to put it on the metal handle of the Tempo. It was overwhelming. Because of the massive steel body of the tempo the vibration felt even stronger inside me than before while in direct contact to my body. I had my fun. It was fantastic. Nevertheless I stopped the vibration and lay down doing nothing. Now my Tempo took over and as if it had saved all the vibration it shook me into another frenzy. Summarizing I can say this little vibrator made my day.
Have a good weekend!

Day 11 of 4th attempt

Have felt pretty consistent for the last few days.

Good mood, a little bit more outgoing, less anxious. Haven’t generally felt horny at all this week, except if I am intentionally trying to get horny. For example, wasn’t really in the mood for a session last night but had some time to myself in the evening. So I set things up and did have a session, after a minute or two I’m totally into it and really enjoying it. But I also find it really easy to stop and then the sexual energy goes down pretty fast. If I start up again, it comes back pretty fast.

Actually a good thing I think.

Also finding it a lot easier to not reach the point of no return. I got a little closer to it than I usually have in my other attempts at the 21 day challenge, and took a few more risks (eg. stroking harder and faster while orgasming and feeling close). But it was easy to relax and be aware of where I was. When I was close, it was easy to slow down and back away from it.

I’m finding that stopping suddenly is almost as worse as speeding up and going harder in that it can make you cum unexpectidly. If I’m close, I’m finding it way better to just slow down a bit, relax, keep orgasming, and the feeling will pass.

What are you supposed to do mentally?

I’ve been trying off and on for a few years now and I’ve gotten few worthwhile results. I’ve tried several different strategies and none of them work well for me. It seems like I have to do all of the following at once:

1. Stay physically relaxed

2. Don’t get overhyped and start thinking about what it might feel like later / stay in the moment

3. Enjoy the sensations

4. Be mindful of the aneros’s movements

5. Breathe steadily

I’ve been using the “do nothing” method because anything else would require even more concentration. I’ve tried just focusing on relaxing and doing nothing else but most of the time I do that I just fall asleep. I’ve tried porn but that distracts me from staying in the moment / feeling the sensations. When I don’t focus at least a little on 3, any pleasure that happens is somehow distant / unimportant and I don’t get any enjoyment out of it.

I do have ADHD, so that’s part of the problem. I can get it in comfortably and it doesn’t hurt at all even manually pulling it in all the way. I can stay relaxed. I just can’t seem to juggle all the right mental tasks at the same time. What am I supposed to do?