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Straight bros using Aneros – experience & tips ?

Hi,

I have been exploring with the Aneros MGM for almost a month now. I’ve had approx 4 sessions, never got to the super O but definitely improved relaxation, middle/lower muscle contraction and now I get to have pretty good hands free orgasm.

One thing that is still difficult for me is keeping focus / arousal thougths. I can watch porn and get super hard, then when I put the Aneros, I go soft – I usually like to have sexual thoughts related to the feeling I’m getting but here, its a bit tricky lol. I’m mostly straight (a bit curious/bi with experiences in the past but never anal). So far I’ve gotten aroused thinking of m4mw thoughts but get confused/overwhelmed with other thoughts forcing theur way in my head…

Question for straight guy:
1) what is your trick to get horny while having Aneros in your butt ?
2) any tips on how to maximize pleasure ? (Do you do it when wife/girlfriend is home ?) – I smoke weed before and it helps, but I get sooo in my head and start overthinking. I know prostate play is physical and has nothing to do with sexual orientation…but would like to hear a straight’s opinion on this.
3) how did you get to relax mode ? I’m trying Mindgasm, but everytime, I start focusing to much on technique and movement as if I’m in a yoga class or something lol 😅
4) how the hell can people keep both pc muscle and anal muscle contracted for more than 30 sec ? When I do, after 30 sec, I’m no longer sure if both are contracted at all or contracted as strong… and when I force my self to keep them contracted, my body starts shivering (not in a good way, lol it shivers just like when you go for a 2 min planking exercise – like my body wants it to stop) – also not sure what is 20%, 50% , 100% – I mean, should I go strong until it really hurt to consider a 100% level contraction ? Read more »

Squirting, good or bad sign?

So around Feb, I’ve tapped into the ability to achieve what feel like, or what I think are multiple prostate orgasms (dry ones). What I’ve been doing is done combination of nipple play and relaxing all my muscles to let the Aneros slowly do its thing while I focus heavily on how good it feels.

My dry O’s are basically almost as good as a traditional orgasm and it does feel like liquid is constantly shooting out of my dick and at times I’ve had to check to be sure. Usually to get to this point I think I need to do a little more than just relax and it feels like I need to be “pushing out” very slightly.

The ‘problem’ is around a week or two ago I began to feel like I was holding back or not relaxing enough when I was having dry O’s and there were a few brief seconds in a couple of sessions where it really felt like I would pee or cum hard so I would abruptly kegel to try to prevent that. When I first tried letting that feeling pass without attempting to stop it I was surprised to find that I had squirted what mostly seemed to be precum. Then I tried it again and squirted some more, though it was more watery. Since then, whenever I relax in that way I end up squirting and very rarely it’s more precum-like in consistency. Even though it’s a headache to keep towels on hand I’m not complaining because it does feel as good as a traditional orgasm that lasts minutes long. Read more »

can have mini-o a-less but not with aneros

I got my first toy 4 months ago (helix syn trident) and have since then being using it regularly. About a month ago I started doing a-less sessions and on the first session I had my first ever mini-o (it was incredible). Ever since then I have been able to consistently have at least one mini-o per a-less session.
However, I’m unfortunately unable to have mini-os with my massager, at all. I’m really unsure why. (if it’s the toy, if it’s me or what) Everytime it feels like i’m about to have one I try and relax into the feeling and it immediately goes away. Is having a p-gasm different with the massager than without? Any help would be appreciated.

Think I found my Prostate!!!

…at least I think I did… It felt great and my dick was leaking a LOT of pre-cum. (Keep in mind I have MS and have not cum in over a year…Most strive for a dry orgasm…. my goal is far from that! I want the cum!!

So it’s been months since I got my Aneros Progasm Jr and I have read and tried everything. For the most part I now just wear it during the day or when I take walks. Walking with it in me is pleasurable… just it’s not hitting the right spot.

So how did I find it? Read more »

any favorable position other than lying on back?

So, I had a interesting session yesterday. Sorry for the long post, but I feel like it is important to describe it in detail.

TLDR: ass in the air made me feel pleasure. VR Porn helped.

I was listening to Mindgasm lesson 2 again with earphones in (connected to the Quest2 VR headset I was wearing) while the Helix (the white one) was inserted. I was using Pigasus VR Player, it’s the only player so far that supports odd viewing angles and images and comic-files (hentai/furry one-pager are kinda working mostly).

As mostly I was getting involuntary contractions kinda early, but i tried to relax everytime the audio told me so. The contractions stop everytime at that point. Aside from the contractions (despite trying to concentrate on it’s feelings) I got no pleasurable feelings from it. I was on my back, pretty much spreadeagled. After the file ended I switched to some 2D porn that got me decently horny, and I noticed a buzzing. Though while it felt nice for like 20mins nothing changed. In between I also closed my eyes for minutes, but the porn wasn’t too distracting I think (just some repeating cowgirl-riding stuff, nothing with alot visual change). Read more »

Grabbing the Tiger by its tail…

To preface, I (30M) have experimented with prostate stimulation on and off for years. I’ve used my fingers, various massagers (just upgraded to the Helix syn), and I’m even lucky enough to have a fiancé that likes to get involved (she’s used her fingers and we also do pegging from time to time). For all this time I’ve only been able to achieve better “traditional” orgasms and have been okay with that (and so had my fiancé 😉.

I stumbled upon this forum back towards the beginning of the pandemic. My hours at work were cut way back and I had a lot of time on my hands. Over these last few months I tried and I tried but could still only achieve those “Super T’s”, which was fine.

Then last night it just clicked… and to be honest all this time I’d been doing two big things wrong.

The first was I had been flexing “backwards”… I’m no expert in anatomy but, to put it simply, all this time I was keeping my anus loose and flexing my “don’t pee muscle”. After spending the last week or so reading through this forum I realized my mistake. Last night I tried “rolling”… flexing both the anus and “don’t pee muscle” and then loosening the “DPM” but keeping the anus flexed. Read more »

Can prostate fluid “run out” in a single session?

Had a 2.5 hour session, fell into a rhythm of pulling the aneros in and building it up fluid, then relaxing and pushing out, releasing prostate fluid. It felt SO good, I just kept doing that over and over. The orgasmic feelings rose and fell, some more intense than others, but the leaking was continually satisfying as its own sensation. I began to wonder if or how I could ever stop. Can the prostate ever run out of fluid? Some of the biggest leaks I had were near the end. Or can you increase how much you leak at once with practice relaxing the right muscles?

How did you first hear the whisper?

I often see a metaphor on here that learning to have prostate orgasms involves first “hearing a whisper.” In other words, that the pleasure from prostate stimulation is incredibly subtle and easy to miss. I also see this used as the logic behind avoiding prostate vibrators at least to start with.

I’m still new to prostate stimulation. 2-3 Aneros sessions, a handful of sessions with a loki wave. But the only time I ever felt prostate pleasure was from a partner’s manual stimulation. When I’m on my own I just can’t seem to find the whisper. I’ve done mindgasm, and I’m really working on relaxing and letting go of expectations. I’m just soliciting any helpful tips, tricks, insights that you all may have had at this stage in your respective journeys.

Aless-session with Mindgasm files

Hi, I had a interesting aless session last night. I couldn’t sleep and put the 6th Mindgasm file on my earphones. Despite the file tells you to relax completely while feeling for those fluttery feelings, I felt involuntary contractions. After a while I got into warm tingly feeling territories but I noticed I kept tighten the belly muscles kinda hard despite trying to stay completely relaxed. Breathing in deep and relaxing those muscles and the feeling was gone.

So far I can easily get involuntary contractions to start. But even while being horny I can’t find a way to get into the pleasure zone….

Another thing about the Mindgasm files: I still can’t find that imaginary “top” muscle above the penis. Any secrets to share? It really drives me nuts to read that people who got this, can reach orgasm easily and far more important repeatedly and prolonged.

Oh and btw: shivers down my back (like if it is cold, but without low temperatures) are a kind of pleasure wave or not? I had that a few times in different sessions at normal room temperature. Just wondering if that could be atleast the beginning of a pwave?

What helps you guys stay relaxed and aroused at the same time?

I’ve heard multiple times on here that relaxation is key and that you don’t force anything, I’ve also heard that arousal is important too so that the prostate is enlarged somewhat. What I’m sort of struggling with is trying to balance the two, my best sessions have been from me thinking about other random stuff throughout the day, and honestly I’ll sort of just forget about the toy for a while. Even though these are good sessions I feel like it’s a wrong sort of approach