Found it, then lost it! Has this ever happened to you?

Last month, I arrived at my first prostate orgasms ever, after a month or two of really working at it. It was amazing, 10 in a row and all dry. The day after I didn’t have to even try to find the spot, my body just knew what to do. I was even having dry orgasms during sex, it was incredible!

Since that time though it’s like I lost it. Had mild success here and there but I’ve had to fight it. Now I went on vacation for Christmas and returned to find that I couldn’t find the spot at all! I don’t seem to be responding like I did, not feeling p-waves and I’m trying to retrace my steps. Earlier on I could even feel p-waves just during the day while a-less, and I’m currently struggling to feel anything at all.

Could I just be out of practice, that I forgot the common signals? I know it wasn’t a fluke, and I know I’m capable now, but I’m admittedly a little frustrated. I have noticed that I haven’t felt my arousal connect properly, and I have to wonder if that’s part of the equation. But how to become physically horny, and not just mentally horny? I’m not sure. I can get excited from penile stimulation obviously, but it’s difficult at the moment to get excited just by thought.

Wisdom and feedback are welcome. Help me reach that peak again!



  1. Same. All I can say is that whilst I’ve not gotten back to super-O territory again, I’ve definitely gotten close again. I don’t understand the intricacies of it all, but I’m positive that I’ll get back there again (which is important – I’d really started to wonder if I’d imagined it happening!)

    A recent post just before Christmas (taken from the Aneros forum) was useful to me in a session about a week ago, so I’d recommend checking out that.

  2. Yeah, it happens. Dont put too much pressure on yourself. If will come back when you least expect it!

  3. I’m on the same boat…
    I had my first Aneros orgasm a couple of weeks ago. I thought I could then start doing it more often, improving technique, finding new positions, etc. However, I can’t reproduce.
    Circumstances my first time were perfect: home alone, all the time to relax, no expectations, very aroused. I think since then I thought I could squeeze in some sessions, and obviously it doesn’t work that way. I guess I should wait for the right opportunity again…

  4. I had my first dry 18 months ago and I’m yet to replicate it. I’ve felt like I’ve come close again a few times but just can’t seem to get back to that place. I think part of it now is that I sort of know what it’s meant to feel like but keep getting anxious and both mentally and physically try and push over that edge.

  5. Wanted to update since this was a post about work in progress. Just about 2 weeks later now and every day has been an improvement. Went from no feeling at all to at least feeling it down there, to feeling a nice (but single) p-wave, to feeling real contact. Had it in last night, I started shaking for the first time since break, and I could make my entire body have a small seizur by just clamping down on the toy from the inside. Even now I’m noticing that flexing without anything in is starting to feel nice.

    It’s the mind association. Needing to acknowledge that the sensation I’m feeling is 1) actually there, and 2) pleasurable. When I feel something tiny I tell myself “hey, see? It’s working, and that feels nice!” My mind is starting to convince my body again and vice versa. Feeling positive again!

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