Trying To Put It All Together: Where To From Here?

Months ago I brute-forced my way into my first prostate orgasm by using a vibrator externally along with my Helix Syn inserted, which then turned into my first full session of multiple orgasms. It was amazing. Next day I was even able to have prostate orgasms during PIV. Since then though, I went back to basics in order to try and learn how to get there *without* being so rough. I feel like I’m making progress but I can’t seem to put everything together. I have a bunch of notes that I’ve been keeping and hopefully it will help when pointing me in the right direction.

**Sensations I’m Feeling:**
*Shaking/Shivering*: Happens often, much in the lower body and sometimes in my torso. Sometimes feel like something is going to happen, but it just can’t quite get there.
*Involuntaries*: I’ll get a few seconds of feeling something like a pulse inside. Other times I get a sudden PANG that feels really nice.
*P-wave*: If I relax enough, I can get that pang of pleasure to stick around for a few seconds before it dissipates.
*Certain Contact*: Definitely have times where I feel like the Helix is sitting right where it needs to.
*A-less*: Usually I’ll leave the toy in overnight. When I wake up in the morning I’ll take it out, and typically I can get small yet nice sensations for an hour or two afterwards. Pretty consistent.

All said and done, I just can’t get everything together before I lose concentration/relaxation!

**Troubleshooting**:
Relaxing all the muscles in my ass takes a certain level of concentration. It usually comes about by thinking of something really sexy, and then I can feel something release inside my rectum, possibly my sphincter fully relaxing, very distinct. Once that happens, I’m almost guaranteed to get a small p-wave. I feel like this an important key.
Following this I’ve been attempting the “contract very slightly” method described here, but that makes all pleasurable feelings stop; I realize that I’m tensing up and need to relax again.
The one thing that seems to distract me the most is the stem of the toy coming in contact with my anus. It gets uncomfortable and distracting after awhile.
Definitely can feel my arousal level increase during sessions. Enough that I know the toy is doing something and it makes me really want to continue.

At this point, the good news and bad news is the same: I know my body is capable and that I absolutely can do this, but the problem is between my ears.

Any thoughts or advice on where to go from here? I know I’m progressing, but I want to get over that hump.

Thanks!