How do I increase my arousal enough to use the Aneros, rather than vice versa?

I know this is a strange question, but I’ve gotten a lot of advice saying I need to be moderately aroused before inserting the Aneros inside me.

Problem is, I think I am so focused on achieving pleasure and proving to myself that I can get there with a prostate toy, that it’s more like a “mission” to experience pleasure, rather than just enjoying the moment. So this leads to me beginning every session without any real arousal, just watching porn to increase it during. This, instead of being aroused already, and masturbating for the release instead of simply the boredom or pleasure.

So is there any way to escape this mindset and make myself aroused enough to masturbate, instead of vice versa? Do I abstain for a few days, watch more porn?

Thanks guys

Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/k352dw/how_do_i_increase_my_arousal_enough_to_use_the/

3 comments

  1. I have given up masturbating for the last two weeks and focused only on prostate play. It may help, but honestly I couldn’t say.

    I don’t play every night. Only if I feel like it, when I look forward to the next session. I don’t start sessions horny with an erection usually.

  2. Thats a hard to answer question. But maybe you should look at it from another angle. Your idea was to watch more porn. Break it down to “what is porn?” Pornography is a visual and audio based stimulation targeting your arousal. That’s how humans work: we get aroused by watching sexual acts. But again, it’s just a stimulation of some kind. As with every type of stimulation, the more you consume, the less effective it becomes. So you hunger for more to achieve the same result as before. Does that ring a bell or two? It works the same way as other behaviors.

    If you insist on using porn, which is totally fine, all up to you. Try using it in situations where you might benefit from it, use it, don’t let it use you!

    Porn can numb you away from your own body. If you pay more attention to porn, compared to the attention to your own body, that’s where things become a literal crutch. I mean, your body gives so much pleasure in various ways shapes and forms: you just gotta listen

    Good luck 🍀

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