I just got my first aneros. So far I haven’t been able to get anywhere, I mostly just lay and clench the muscles am with very little sensation. From the sound of it it seems like I need to be turned on before starting but shouldn’t masturbate or use porn. For the time I was turned on when I started, I ended up just being in meditative state and relaxed (and not turned on any more) as I focused on my breathing, muscles and body sensations.
Any advice would be great
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/nahd1u/getting_and_staying_turned_on_without_porn_or/
One of the most powerful sex organ is your brain. If you however thought yourself to just view porn instead of using your own fantasy well, then you might want to critically analyze your consumption of porn in general. Given you are a beginner with aneros – don’t worry, first sessions are hit or miss (well they are not – but that’s not of importance right now).
I strongly suggest forgetting everything you think you know about masturbation and go into prostate play with a clean and fresh approach, because traditional jerking has nothing in common. The sensations are different and the orgasms are even more different. Go into it with curiosity and excitement.
Let your body do it’s thing and you will progress eventually. Each session will teach you a lesson of some sort, don’t analyze them during the session tho, keep that for afterwards. I’d also suggest some sort of journal where you keep track of elements that work good and get rid of habits that do not work.
Besides all that – read aaaaall through reddit for guidelines, there is plenty of stuff to read.
Good luck 🍀 it’s a fun journey
Audio porn is a real happy medium from what I’ve found, not too distracting but also still arousing enough to amplify things
Im a tad rusty at the moment but I have found that really just focussing on the pleasure from pwaves helps.
Also, and this may be a bit avant garde, but I find reading erotica actually better for building a mental spank bank. It’s easier to replay the scenes you’ve previously read and constructed in your head. Also, the fiction can get way crazier than anything you can see in conventional porn 😉