Writing this mostly to vent really, and also for help and advice. I go into some gross details so read at your peril. Hopefully the nice people here can pick out the problems or what I’m doing wrong.
To keep it short, I have been using my Trident on and off over the past 12 months for little to no results. My sessions often have days to months in between due to lack of motivation or not wanting to commit the large time investment to it, but as of recent I’ve been going at it more and more. I have only had one truly pleasurable session, but that was so far in the past now that it might as well have not happened.
I’ll section my process and shortcomings to make it easier to write out.
Currently I try to make time for a session after returning from the gym (I treadmill daily) and showering. I make sure to have a bowel movement 30-60 min before I douche with warm tap water using a rather large bulb I bought for the job. I used to fill this bulb as much as I could before douching which was a very big mistake. I would have an unpleasurable session, then find out when removing the Trident that I had residual poo water inside me. It was as gross and messy as it sounds. I figured that out, then started filling the bulb with very little water which ultimately stopped that from happening. Trident removal is now very clean aside from some lube.
I hear that some prefer not to douche, but I can’t see any good coming from this in my case. When I wait then douche, I always find at least some fecal matter was still there. I also sometimes have a problem where I’ll wait an hour after a bowel movement, only to have a smaller one after, which makes knowing if you are clean much harder and delays the whole process. Straining to “empty” yourself out also seems like a bad idea.
I try to refrain from masturbation for a full 24-48 hours before a session. I have no idea if this helps, but it usually just leaves me frustrated during that timeframe. Right now doing all the prep work for a session is a turn-off in terms of arousal.
**Lube & Insertion:**
I think I have this mostly right. I use coconut oil that I solidify in the fridge using some round ice cube trays. Insert that, give it a moment or two to melt, then lube the Trident with more coconut oil and insert that while standing up. Insertion doesn’t feel painful but it’s certainly not comfortable either, and remains that way for a good while. I don’t really know for sure if it’s inserted properly, but it doesn’t fall out when I use it and seems secure. I try to push it up to the hilt, but it then usually moves itself out a tiny bit which I assume is the natural position it should be in.
After insertion I quickly go to lie down on my bed, pillow under my head and another under my back for some elevation. Doors are closed and lights are off for minimal distraction. I lie on my back with raised knees and feet flat on the bed which has personally been the most comfortable position for me. I then try to relax, loosen my muscles, and focus on the sensation in my prostate area. I don’t do any contractions or any movements at all really. If things are going well, I’ll be able to focus on the area and feel a wavy “rising” sensation near the prostate. The feeling seems like a very minimal, barely noticeable form of pleasure, but also a step in the right direction. If there is distraction or if my mind wanders, it’s very easy to start “falling” away from this feeling and lose it entirely. I usually end a session if it’s been around an hour and I can’t regain that feeling, also my legs get tired. Dirty thoughts or watching porn doesn’t seem to help, seemingly switching my mindset back to penile pleasure instead.
My “truly pleasurable session” described above was from a long time ago when I was starting out. I was overcome at one point by a deeply pleasurable and long-lasting sensation that made me feel like I just discovered arousal for the first time again. A feeling that I can only match to when I first found out about this stuff as a teenager. That alone was incredible enough to let me know I didn’t waste my money buying a Trident and that this journey would be well-worth the investment. How did I do it? No idea.
After a session is over I’ll clean up then masturbate like normal due to wanting at least something to happen. I’ve masturbated one or two times with the Trident still inserted while sitting down, which resulted in heightened pleasure, but is probably a bad habit to form so I avoid using it that way for the most part.
I’m as of now trying to use it at least once a day (it’s been 2 in a row so far) in order to lessen the discomfort, otherwise I feel like I’m at a standstill. Will also continue to try and abstain from masturbation for now as it’s a personal goal of mine and may be lowering my mental sex drive. Any advice, questions, or feedback is greatly appreciated! Writing this past midnight so I might update this later if I missed something.Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/o6625w/one_step_forward_dozens_of_steps_back/