This is more of a vent post but also curious if anyone else runs into this issue. Since the pandemic hit I have not been able to have very much “alone” time where I have the entire house to myself. With two teenagers (older teens) and wife there seems to rarely be a time when everyone is gone at the same time long enough to prep and have a real sessions. Mentally, I need the house empty and know I have time to really get into a session. I think I have had 4 total sessions. I do have aneroless sessions later at night at least one a week. It never fails, when the the last person leaves, another one is due home any moment. Its actually quite frustrating.
So today, I get a chance to have a session as my wife was taking both kids out to run some errands. I prep and start my session and get into it for about 15 minutes, getting into some really great pleasure, getting into a zone. Then the phone rings. It’s my wife needing me to go to the safe and get some info that she needs. Ugh. all pleasure gone now and after sorting out the info with the wife I start up again but just could not get back into the groove at all. Just lay there with some minor pleasure for the next 30 minutes or so. Just could not get my mind back into it. The morning is ruined.
Does anyone else ever have an interruption during a session that is going great to only end up not being able to get back the pleasure? Or its just off from what it was prior to the interruption?
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/omdei9/finally_got_some_alone_time_and/
When I get interrupted, I feel rushed and my session has a lusty feel to it. If I hadn’t planned to before, I always end up masturbating with my penis.
So yeah, not having lots of good quality alone time makes it harder. If I were you I would keep at the aless exercises, hey provide me incredible pleasure these days, and I can so them when lying in bed with the missus and shes none the wiser!
That’s all part of Life, Dude… you’ll find a way, which makes it even more exciting… you can always tell your wife that you are on a sexual journey and see if she’ll help… if not then try not to get caught… lol…
I totally understand! Two young kids and spouse at home never any time for myself. When I do have time for a ride it Has to be super fast and I have to be super quiet. I like to moan and be loud the energy gets me going I cannot do that when there’s people at home. Does your wife know you ride?
Yeah, I know how it feels to live with no alone time. I share a flat with two flatmates and during pandemic they rarely leave the house both at the same time. I too have to be totally alone for my aneros session to be most plesurable. Though, I started to have my sessions early in the mornings, like at 5 am, while everyone are still asleep. Not the best thing, but at least a chance of being interupted gets greatly reduced.
Fortunately, on the rare occasions when I was interrupted, I was able to continue the session as if nothing had happened.
The interruptions were brief, I remember a phone call I couldn’t refuse and a resolution to an IT problem when my wife was working at home.
Been there only my “crash” was result of fedex ringing the doorbell.
I literally had that yesterday! My sister knocked on my door although i didn’t entertain, instantly took me out of the zone….and became one of the worst session so far. Still mad.
Yes i can definitely relate. And the solution is that you should incorporate your wife while you guys are in bed. I know shes not into it, but what exactly is the issue? I mean we are talking about a piece of plastic. A piece of plastic that provides you pleasure, i don’t see any problem with that. So….Find it out (together – you are a couple!) You stated that she does not care if you do it alone, but she does not want to partake in it, have you asked her why that is? Maybe talking about the problem instead of ignoring it helps you to get what you want. Her becoming or being “asexual” is something that needs to be addressed too i feel like, or do you not want sex in a relationship? Does she masturbate? Sex is very healthy, as it reduces stress and promotes connectedness between couples. If everyone in a relationship does their own thing (sexually) i feel it’s not even a relationship anymore, it’s being friends in a weirdly and forced obligation kind of situation. Because really, do you think that it’ll be better in the future? Or will you be forced celibate? I feel like the problem of distractions and not enough alone time is just the tip of the iceberg, I’d care about the causes, and not necessarily the symptoms. It’s your “right” to experiment and explore your sexual side, you only have this one life, don’t let it go to waste because of obligations that your wife loaded on your shoulders. I’m sorry for your situation, but you can change things.
Everything is exactly the same