I had a major turning point on Session #4 so have lumped the first three sessions together. These sessions didn't move very far through the Wiki list of milestones. But I smoothed out a lot of basics and learned what a contraction was.
Aside from the nuts and bolts of "session management" the big project was getting my wife OK with the idea of 'female orgasms for men' So, she is OK with it but, without penis work, she sees her role as 'non-existant.' Eventually I want her involved in nipple and torso work but that's still several sessions away.
Session #1 (the basics)
SGX then Helix. Pre-lube: 10cc K-Y jelly Tool lube: K-Y jelly 75 min. 5/7/09
For session #1 I skipped the shower/mood-adjustment and focused on running through the 'basics' in the instructions and in the Wiki. The prep was pretty straightforward but I over-did on the amount of rectal rinse. That left several ounces of excess water in my colon which later diluted the K-Y lube. (this, was to become a recurring theme — I just don't discharge the whole 4 ounces). I started doing basic contractions with the SGX to see how it played with my bph. While it did produce a generous amount of pre-cum, I didn't sense any major prostate pressure or stimulation during contractions.
Swapped to the Helix. Sensed definite prostate contact. Anal contractions produced a 'jabbing' feeling. The 'pleasure-to-discomrfort' (P2D) ratio wasn't great but was liveable.
With the SGX, I had good sense of the amount of my contraction. It was easy to find the "1/4 base contraction level" mentioned in the Wiki. I could smoothly go from minimum contraction to 'max' in one smooth move or by using a series of discrete steps. p-tab contact with the SGX was 'intermittent' during each contraction.
With the Helix, I'd jump from a partial contraction (maybe 10 or 20%), then jump to nearly full contraction (80 or 90%). The Helix was definately a heavier load to 'fine tune.' I believed though that the Helix was an OK tool for me even with my mild-to-moderate bph. The p-tab on the Helix really 'dug-in' to my perineum. Will try covering it with the bulb off a medicine dropper (mentioned in the Wiki).
With pre-lube (I'd not done that for the previous two months), insertion was a piece-of-cake with either tool. The SGX slid right in. The Helix was more of a two-step process and it needed a couple of tugs to really drop into the 'right' place. SGX yielded more pre-cum than did the Helix but the Helix put more pressure on my prostate.
Neither tool had any seams, nicks or molding ridges that can feel like knives. Nice QA Aneros!
Worked on sphincter contractions, got tired and recognized that I'd need some muscle building. As I tired, I got a couple of anal pulses were remminescent of pulses I'd experienced during butt-stim in Asian flesh-pots of years gone by. Those gals were good! (might make a good fantasy picture for future sessions !)
Tentative impression: the MGX with it's ridged stem and size might have been a better choice as a beginner's training device. Will know more later on. OTOH, I'll probably get more months out of the Helix before moving on to the Eupho or Progasm. The SGX (purchased just in case my bph acts up) will be used to validate my ability to restore base level contraction (BLC). Might take the suggestion by <Maxiumus> to use it in a kneeling position. (note the fixation I had on the amount of contraction — perhaps that's all that beginning users sense because they are told to do just that.)
Overall: No hits, no runs, no fatal errors. Mystery: How can I take this much stim and not erect or even have a 'chubby ?'
Tips to other first timers: Keep the volume of anal rinse small, 3oz is probably OK. Use plenty of lube and don't sweat insertion of either the SGX or Helix.
Add to the bedroom list:
A small plastic trash bag to dispose of wipes, soiled Aneros tools & other stuff.
A roll of toilet paper or a box of Kleenex.
A dry washcloth for hand wiping.
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Session #2: (Hmmm, some tingling and twitching)
Helix (modified with a rubber bulb covering the P-tab) – – 5/9/09 – 100 minutes.
Medication: 7 oz wine five hours earlier. Also Niacin + Plavix. – no enema – no shower – Pre-lube w/8cc ID Glide – loose shorts – warm waterbed – w/sleeping spouse.
Did right & left side contractions and relaxation. Also did spread eagle on back & belly – Best position: spread eagle on belly – Results: sensed prostate pressure, good movement, smooth prostate rubbing with less 'jabbing' (probably from better lube). (later note: At this point I didn't understand what "good Aneros movement" was nor did I undestand what good prostate rubbing was either). Practiced resting, slow contraction cycling, fast anal cycling (3 pps), able to identiy BCL, maintain it and return to it – Contraction range was again zero, then 80 to 90%.
Good Fantasy. (Ceiling decor in room #3 of White Cloud Resort, Sasebo.) Hint of 'something' when spread eagle: Twitching eyelids and forehead then a few mild thigh twitches during fast, voluntary anal cycling. One or two pulses of involuntary anal cycling. Lube failure before two-hour point – felt a bit raw for last 10 minutes or so. Done.
Only hard erections were at start of session then flaccid for two hours. Strong 95% erections following session when I was close to my spouse's scent. Hadn't taken any E.D. med. I wonder: Is this a substitute for Viagra ? Or, is it having some effect on the pituitary and the production of prolactin ?
Summary: Little prostate pain this session. Some anal pain. Lube note: ID glide is thinner than K-Y jelly. After this session, scrotum and penis were damp with contaminated lube. Can't use this combo during Missionary intercourse.
Following morning: some anal pain, less perineal pain from p-tab digging-in.
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Session "2-1/2" , 5/11/09 — Inserted Helix for mapped couples play. Pre-lube: 3cc of K-Y jelly. Tool lube: Crisco shortening. 90 minutes. Medication: Trimix. No significant leakage but no major contractions. Good feeling of 'bulk' in butt. Asked wife to not manipulate handle–that used to be her plaything. Typical Trimix erection. More pre-cum than usual. Ejacs at about 1-hr and again at 90 minutes. Failed to get good g-spot stim. Note: This was probably our seventh venture at intercourse when I was carrying the Aneros. I've not been generously lubed during any of those prior sessions.
Lube much better during this session and I didn't leak.
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Getting my wife involved:
Once I personally commited to an Aneros journey I knew I had to involve my wife, sooner or later.
One thing that helps is that, for several years, we've invited each other into the bedroom or bath for most of our solo work or self-mb. I look forward to her involvement where she can really help. Particularly with torso-stim and nipple play.
The "overture:" I asked how she was doing on her own g-spot work. Turned out to be very little. I asked if I could help (even though I'm the village klutz when applying a vibe to another person.) I got the usual, "sure."
Selling it: Explained that I wanted to try for an MMO using the Helix. Repeated it, "I really want to try for an MMO." She was only casually interested until I said I thought it would improve my understanding of her orgasm(s) and how to help her build orgasms. I told her I would need her expertise on nipple stim, lip stim and to play around my torso surfaces. She brought an aversion to anal play into our marriage so I assured her that the Aneros wouldn't involve her in any anal play.
Agreement: Each of us have a continuing right to private meditation or masturbation. We also ask that the other person be 'on call' to come in and help the solo player over a hurdle or out of a bind. This is just our way of living up to the, "better or worse" vow.
Note — I'm a neophyte, having just worked through Sessions #1 & #2 I know it's a long journey ahead. My wife and I must not stray from one another during all this learning. And, I think she can speed me along the path. I can learn more about her needs and desires during all this.
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Session #3 (Price of a session = $ 300 ): Helix (rubber bulb covering P-tab) – 5/12/09. Pre-lube: 8cc ID Glide, Tool lube: K-Y jelly. 35 minutes.
This mid-morning session was no doubt doomed as we'd had a good roll in the hay the day before. While not drained dry I wan't 'overflowing' with desire or up to my tonsils in the makings of semen.
Out of the shower and got the Helix in place. Knock on bedroom door — my wife invited friends for lunch and she needed my to help set the table (Grrr). Suspicion was that she was reacting to my Aneros session was getting her way; but, that proved to be wrong.
I had wanted to try for the 'twitches' again. No chance. Just a few contractions and relaxation periods. Had the fantasy ready (A mineral pool at Johnny's New Life, Beipou.) Never got the movie going. No hits, no runs, one error.
After the guests left, we talked about it. Turned out the neighbor owed her three-hundred bucks and asked to come over and repay it. Wife didn't want the $300 to get away so offered lunch.
Looked in the mirror to check out my paranoia! Then, will fight the battle another day.
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Summary of #1 thru #3: Marriage isn't an easy environment for addition of new tricks to your bag of solo pleasures (unless your wife has selected them in advance). However, spouses should understand that there are far more dangerous things, some deadly, for a guy to do with his spare time.
Some tips and thoughts for beginners came out of these three sessions:
— keep the volume of the rectal rinse small
— my twitches and tingles hint that this journey isn't "snake oil."
— consider thinning ID Glide pre-lube w/some H2O.
— ID Glide pre-lube seems to marry with water better than does K-Y jelly.
— Crisco seems to be a good choice of tool-lube when you're planning on Missionary position sex.
For guys who know the number on their Medicare card and who have little recent butt-play experience:
— Going into session #1, I had lousy muscle tone in both my sphincter and my PC (pubococcygeus) muscle. The sphincter tended to take care of it's own rebuilding but I must re-dedicate to Kegels to re-build up my PC. That's still a work in progress. (Suspicion is that I won't get good accupressure stimulaton from the p-tab until I get the PC back in shape.) Bad news is that us old-farts build muscle very slooooooooowly.
— If you are feeling a lot of p-tab pain or you sense that the p-tab is "digging-in", read the Wiki on padding it. This is a PC muscle issue and Kegels will eventually help but in the meantime, remember that the crus is right there and the penial arteries and nerves travel this region (where bicycle seat and cross-bar injuries occur.) Protect yourself, do no harm!
— If you are getting irritation, occasionally consider a thin coating of prep-H Ointment (not cream or gel) around the lower 1/4 inch of the Aneros stem. Good healing stuff. But, check the contraindications, particularly if you have Coronary Artery Disease or have E.D. resulting from vascular disease or diabetes. <Rumel> and I have communicated on this and we agree that any prep-H use is an unwise choice for younger guys since some retinoids and fish oil prodcuts have been carcinogenic over the long term. Note also that the prep-H formulation varies by country and what might be OK for you in the U.S. product might not be OK with the Canadian product (or vice versa).
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