Author: goldenboy

“Different Types Of Chastity?”

[This blog was inspired by @OntheJourney]

Introduction
A recent forum comment by @OntheJourney alluded to a new term for me: Aneros Retention (AR). He combined this with Semen Retention (SR) for a 10-day period. His “experiment” successfully yielded A-less orgasms, some approaching Super-O status!

My experience
I guess you could say that I have been practicing Aneros Retention for a couple of months now, without really knowing what to call it. I have noticed an increase in A-less orgasms perhaps daily. I really didn’t have to do anything: no kegels, no anal contractions, nothing. The orgasmic feelings down in my prostate just continued. They ended (usually) when I ended my semen retention “run” or decided to initiate a “regular” Aneros session.

New Developments
While on the Aneros website this morning, and perusing the blogs and forums, it dawned on me that perhaps there are in fact different “types” of male chastity? Sure, I know about “chastity cups” and practice that kind of chastity now regularly. With “Aneros chastity” added to the mix, this is an interesting way to boost arousal as well. But are there still other forms of male chastity? An intriguing concept….Let me explore further…… Read more »

Self-Imposed Male Chastity: A “Divided Highway?”

Introduction
I have often written about my experiences with self-imposed male chastity, specifically, wearing a “chastity cup” for masturbation/ejaculation control and a build-up of sexual energy. There is more involved here than just putting-on an athlete’s jockstrap and cup. It is a little complicated and I thought I should try to explain it. So here goes…..

The Split-Role
Usually, in “traditional” male chastity, the male is willing to be put into a “submissive” role by a more “dominant” female. He allows himself to be locked-into a cock cage and relinquishes the key to his “keyholder”. She then can tease and deny him according to her whim and will actually control when he is able to have a sexual release (orgasm/ejaculation). This entire process develops a different kind of relationship between the two. It is sexually frustrating yet at the same time sexually satisfying for the male.

Self-Imposed Male Chastity
When I use “chastity cups” in the same way, it is necessary for me to “split” the thought process—in essence, I must play-out both the ‘submissive’ (male) role as well as the ‘dominant’ (female) role. How is this accomplished? In essence, what is required is a “split personality” (if you will). Of course, I do not hold a “key”. So how does this work after all?

The Answer
What is going on here is (in my opinion) a sort of “divided highway”. Let me explain….. Read more »

“Year-End Encouragement”

As 2018 draws to a close, I would like to express a few thoughts. I have been actively pursuing my Aneros “journey” about 3 years now, although it feels like yesterday when I had my first Super-O. Since then, I have explored my sexuality in various, stimulating ways. I am amazed that at my age now (67) I still have the sexual vigor and stamina I did when I was 30 years younger! Was Aneros responsible for this change? I believe the answer has to be a resounding “yes!”

I have made a lot of anonymous “friends” over the years through this site. And that leads me to the thrust of this message. Whether newbie or expert, all of us have our lives, our sexual passions to share with one another and I encourage all to share that knowledge that has been personally gained through Aneros. Yes, there are many erotic, perhaps tawdry elements that creep in, but the basic male biology remains unchanged. For the most part, we males need to ejaculate regularly. We need to exercise our prostates regularly. The process by which we arrive at our destination will certainly vary from man to man. It is in the variety of choices that we are able to share our mutual experiences here in this forum.

I for one am grateful to have this platform in order to express my individual path to sexual fulfillment. I encourage all of you to participate as well. I wish all of you to experience a happy and sexually healthy 2019! Read more »

“This Is Why There Are Different Aneros Models!”

Introduction
Back-to-back sessions from last night to this morning. I was still “feeling it” at Day 7 of SR and decided on another session. Somehow, I KNEW that my prostate wanted the MGX! So I quickly lubed-up with SSG and started.

Session
The MGX is designed differently from the Helix; it has a different profile and also the ribbed stem which facilitates anal stimulation. Both work to give an amazing ride! I felt p-waves almost from the beginning and, like yesterday’s session with the Helix Trident, I felt “more” when I re-positioned myself in bed. I began to switch from light kegsls to some deep contractions and everything felt amazing!

How long did this session last? Not sure but probably in the order of 30 minutes. Since I’m already at Day 7, I’m hoping that these back-to-back sessions will propel me to Day 10 or beyond!

Conclusion

Directly from the Aneros website: “Aneros prostate massagers might look very similar but each one has been designed to produce exciting and different effects.”

Yes, this is why I currently have five Aneros models: SGX Classic, MGX Classic, Helix Trident, Eupho Classic and HIH 950. And I intend to keep all of them! Since each one has its own “signature”, there is really no reason to “favor” one over another! But I recommend letting your prostate “tell” you which one it wants! Your brain will tell the difference and will reward you with success in your sessions! Touche’. Read more »

“A Different Point Of View”

Background
Day 6 of SR, wearing Mueller FlexCup overnight. Not especially aroused, but feeling a strong desire not just for a session, but for one with a specific Aneros model: Helix Trident! How could I not oblige? Here are the details…..

Session
I got-out the HT, lubed-up with SSG and began the journey. Now in the past, the HT has not been especially fruitful, so my expectations early this morning (about 2 AM) were low. And at first, although it felt nice, I did not feel anything. But little by little, I began to feel a stirring in my prostate and around the same time, a ‘pseudo-erection’ as well. I just kept at it for a while and eventually, I felt some nice p-waves combined with some strong abdominal contractions as well as some whole-body convulsions. I had not experienced these in a session in a while. They felt amazingly good!

New Position
For this session, I was lying on my right side like I usually do. Around mid-way during the session, I decided to rotate my hips and actually lie face-down. (Since I was still wearing my cup, there was no chance of stimulation from my cock, and so I proceeded.)

Almost IMMEDIATELY, I felt such a surge of pleasure from my prostate that I nearly screamed! I had been moaning prior to this, but the (slight) additional pressure on my prostate by the HT was unbelievable! With every little contraction on my part, I was rewarded ten-fold! I began to convulse all-over again and my toes were “twitching”! I could not stop the movement generated by the little Helix Trident. Read more »

“Would You Shake Hands With Gloves On?”

Introduction
While wearing my XO “chastity cup” overnight, I began to dwell on this concept. What do I need to fully participate in an activity? Of course, one generally would not want to shake hands while wearing gloves. But why is that? I began to meditate….

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Feelings
In any activity, one wants to feel immersed in the task at hand. The glove example: one want to feel the other person’s human hand as part of the gesture. It is only natural and normal.

So there are myriad other examples too. Here are a few that come to mind….
[Some of these are of a sexual nature so reader discretion is advised.]

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Wearing a condom for sex – Really? Skin-on skin sexual contact is the epitome of the male/female bonding.

Cuddling while not naked – No way! Is this the way mother nature intended?

Wearing a “chastity cup” for a masturbation session – You kidding? You need access to your erect cock and the personal “touch” of a hand (your own or a partner’s) for fulfillment.

Not wearing a “chastity cup” with a full-blown erection – Not in my book! These types of erections can lead to an unintended ejaculation. If that’s not what is intended, better to wear one!

Not using a prostate massager – Get out of town! Your prostate needs to be properly massaged; a massager like the Aneros gets right in there and does its job all by itself. It needs no other help from you other than some gentle contractions. Read more »

“A Matter Of Degrees”

Introduction
I have been thinking about this lately. Let me explain it…..

Many things us guys do, particularly of a sexual nature, involve varying degrees of action. Here are some examples:

Masturbation/Edging – I can masturbate forcefully and elicit an ejaculation in probably less than a minute. Or I can take my time, go slowly, and extend the pleasure for perhaps 15 or 20 minutes or more. It is up to me how far I want to go.

Semen Retention – I can practice SR for just a few days as I have done. Or (barring the infamous ‘blue-balls’) I can extend it to perhaps 8-10 days or more. My most recent “run” was to 10 days and I had to end it, not due to ‘blue-balls’ but due to the extreme horniness that was generated.

Male Chastity – I can wear a “chastity cup” all night, or I can wait until I am aroused by a night-time (NPT) erection. The resulting feelings are similar but yet different.

Prostate Stimulation – I can do (and have done) daily Aneros sessions regardless of outcome. Some sessions are short, others are longer. I can do these sessions for therapy, e.g., control of BPH symptoms. Or, I can space-out the sessions as I am doing now. I use my arousal level as a guide to when I feel my prostate is telling me that a session is needed. Usually, those sessions are the best, as I can feel the immediate effects throughout my prostate and perineal area. An ejaculation usually is not required to appreciate all the stimulating effects of prostate massage. Read more »

“Day 9 and Rolling!”

[Thanks to @darkbond for the inspiration and positive success!]

Introduction
I reached Day 6 of SR and began to think: will I need to ejaculate soon due to blue-balls? I read a post from @darkbond recently giving a “Cool Draw” breathing technique for control of blue balls. I was a little skeptical at first, but decided to give it a try.

Well, three days later I am now at Day 9 with absolutely no hint of blue-balls! I have been performing the “Cool Draw” technique every day and it seems to be keeping the blue-balls at bay! I hope that it will continue to work.

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Here is some additional information I got from Reddit on this subject:

“A Technique for Aiding Unwanted Erections, Blue Balls and Wet Dreams”

“I have mentioned this before, I hope some find this useful.

Upon pressure in testicles (blue balls) or unwanted erections, perform technique right away. For wet dream prevention, perform everyday before bed.

Sit down and sit up straight, spine straight, do not lie down. Suck in your gut as hard as you can while simultaneously breathing out. Suck in abs, exhale, do this forcefully. Let go and inhale, relax abdomen and then repeat, suck in abdomen and exhale forcefully. Hold the hollow position of sucking in the gut and hold the breath exhaled for as long as you can in between cycles. Visualize energy going from below the waist, to up higher in the spine. Read more »

“Snow White Chastity”

Background
Well, here I am at Day 7. I wore my trusty Mueller FlexCup overnight, woke up with a strong erection and am ready to ejaculate! But, not so fast! Let me explain…….

What Color Is Your Chastity Cup?
Of course, I am not referring to the actual color of the cup. What I am referring to is the reason why you wear a cup? In my case, it is for masturbation and ejaculation control. Since I am now at Day 7 and probably close to developing the blue-balls feeling, is there any reason why I shouldn’t ejaculate?
Of course there is! I should not get a ‘free-pass’ and relieve my frustration just based on a number! I remain in chastity and the ‘extra’ erections I am experiencing now (due to a peak in testosterone) will just have to be endured.

No Easy-Out This Time
Yesterday, I was experiencing a lot of prostate orgasms throughout the day. I found myself performing kegels almost all day. I felt like my prostate was nudging me into some kind of action, either through ejaculation or a session. I did neither. I began to leak some precum too.

Guys that are locked-up in cock cages have to endure the same feelings. Some of them leak profusely. In their case, a lot of them don’t know when their next orgasm/ejaculation is coming. So neither should I. I feel the frustration building but shouldn’t take any action. How much can I endure? Read more »

“Not So Easy, Is It?”

Introduction
I slept in my XO “chastity cup” overnight and was awakened about 4 AM by a super-strong erection. I have made it to Day 5 of SR. Usually about now I begin to think about ejaculating so I can avoid a case of the ‘blue-balls’. But this morning, I’m thinking…..why not extend it? Well, let me explain……

Erection Mechanics
I have discussed this before. While wearing a “chastity cup” with a night-time erection, my erect penis makes contact with the frenulum on the inside of the cup. This creates a ‘ready-to-cum’ feeling all down in my male groin. It is a wonderfully-erotic feeling but without an ejaculation, it creates something akin to mental anguish. Of course, it is not painful nor is it dangerous. But it is quite debilitating (in a sexual sense).

Comparison to Cock Cages
I have worn a cock-cage for a while in the past, but not anymore. My CB-6000S got worn too when I experienced night-time erections and that feeling is similar, although no visible erection occurs. Most of that occurs near the root of the penis which is unseen. But the feeling is there, nonetheless. I did not have a keyholder but the cage was locked and I was not eager to retrieve the key during that time. So I just endured the anguish as best as I could. Eventually, the erection subsided and I remained locked-up in chastity. Read more »