Always building, never getting over the edge

Basically I’ve been having a lot of really good feelings while using my aneros, and it feels like I’m going to have an orgasm. But I never go over the edge. I just feels like I’m constantly in that building state, or that point right before you go over the edge with a normal orgasm. But it never comes. I never have the orgasm.

Should I just keep practicing and hope that one day it happens? Am I expecting the wrong thing? Any advice would be helpful.

Any reason to switch toys?

I’m currently using the Progasm ice and I feel like just recently things have really started to pick up. I’m getting a lot more pleasure than I had before and I’m pretty happy with my progress. Feels like I’ve gotten close to orgasm a few times and there’s been a lot of spasming of the sphincter that feels really good. No orgasms yet though.

But I’ve seen a lot of people recommend the helix trident and the eupho trident lately, and it’s got me doubting that the Progasm is the right to my to train/rewire with since I’m still a beginner. Is there any reason to switch or is should I keep going with the Progasm?

How do you deal with the urge to clench?

When things start feeling good I have a very natural urge to clench my PC muscles and hold that clench. This is what normally happens during penile stimulation, but it seems to lead nowhere with the aneros. Do you guys just fight this urge and try to stay relaxed?