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A POV from a beginner

I have no idea what to do, I think I’m overthinking things. I just got my helix trident and I feel nothing I’ve used it about 3 times over the past 2 weeks.

I feel like I’m looking through a window everyone is having so much fun and I’m just left here. It’s really frustrating to start and learn. I’m feeling really unmotivated to do this

There’s so much information to take in, everyone says so much stuff and I have no idea what to do anymore. I want a nice step by step guide on exactly what to do but that’s really difficult since everyone is different.

I have no feelings in my prostate at all. I know they will build in time and I have to “enjoy the journey” but it’s rather difficult to enjoy it if I can’t feel ANYTHING

More results from going Aless than I’ve had in the 15 years I’ve been using Aneros

For reference, due to a flare up of GI issues, I’ haven’t touched my Aneros in about 7-8 months. I’ve also been doing meditation lately, so my drive has been higher than it’s been in a long time.

I’ve been following the Mindgasm lessons for the past week or so and have gotten more consistent and better session results than I ever did with the Aneros. Aneros has always been very up and down for me, where one session might be really good and showing progress, but the next session will basically be a dud. I know it’s only been a week but the fact that I’ve gotten good results 3-4 sessions in a row has me excited.

Has anyone else had a similar experience?

A few questions for experienced beginner

I have been using my aneros off and on for the past 6 months or so, with more frequent use (and progress) in the past week or two. I have achieved what I believe to be full body waves a couple times but they seem to only last 5-10 seconds before disappearing. I have a few questions that hopefully can help me progress with my journey.
1: how often should I have a session? I have been doing every night with a day off here and there. I am always excited to have a session to see how close I can get to a super o but I wonder if too frequent of sessions can impede progress.
2: lube… I have tried astro glide and coconut oil. Coconut oil seems to work better but I still find myself having to reapply every 10 minutes or so which totally ruins my session. Any advice on this would be much appreciated!!!
3: is it important to not have a traditional orgasm in order to preserve sexual energy/horny feelings?
4: when doing contractions, how hard should I really be squeezing? I find myself trying to squeeze too hard and then I get sore and/or tired too fast.
5: any advice for what to do when I start feeling p waves? I have had good luck getting them to arrive but it’s almost like I psych myself out and try too hard to get them to stay which makes them go away. Read more »

helix syn just arrived and I feel nothing?

I have an njoy wand already. Did it desensitize me or something? I haven’t done any butt stuff for a few days though. I never had a purely prostate orgasm from the njoy so I thought this might work. I’m contracting my pc muscles but I barely feel anything.

Position suggestions?

I’m new using Aneros. I want to know some recommendations on the best position to enjoy my Trident helix.

Because prostate is located in front, isnt it a good option to lying face down or lying with your chest on the bed and your knees on the floor? Is it not easier for the aneros to touch the exact spot? Reading the forum, many messages recommend lying on your back with your legs bent, but would not the Aneros move away from the prostate?

thanks for your answers

tab modification?

i read i should try to put papertowels under the p-tab but more than 5mm and it pops out…

i noticed though: if i pull on the k-tab backwards i get the need to pee which is a good sign. but i dont want to cut it off…. any recommendations? i feel like the helix isnt reaching my prostate…

[A first report after 3 months] Today I came twice in 15 minutes (using my hands)

I’d like to share what happened to me with the Helix Syn, I’m writing this after my most successful session.

I bought the Helix Syn about three months ago and had around 10+ sessions. I’m not completely new to anal play but I’m basically a beginner.

The first session were quite enjoyable but nothing special. I tried Mindgasm, I was listening to Binaural Beats, I tried to focus on the sensations and followed many different approaches after reading this sub. All the time I ended the session with a traditional orgasm because somehow I was aroused and the feeling was definitely more intense that normal. Therefore I knew that I was going in the right direction, tho very slowly.

The game changer was trying weed. I’m not a fan of it, I usually avoid it because it never relaxes me mentally, nor phisically. But as soon as I smoked half a joint, the sensations changed. For the first three or four sessions I was definitely feeling something new, they were probably pleasure waves but in the heat of the moment it’s hard to understand what is going on. I noticed that, when laying on my back, I tended to raise my legs and make them close to the chest and that definitely had an impact of the intensity of the feeling. I was moving my middle and base muscles, but I have the feeling I was more in control of them rather than the other way around. All these sessions were quite good and I enjoyed them all. I haven’t rally leaked any pre-cum, tho, so I’m still wondering if there’s something that I should do differently. However, since it’s vastly agreed that you need to focus on the pleasure rather than its effects, I decided not to worry about it and go on with this modus operandi. Read more »

Damage to your bum

I used my aneros every day for about a week and freaked myself out last night because I had some miner pain for a few hours. I’m fine today, how much risk is there for doing damage to your bum? I know the soft tissue is very delicate. What are some warning signs to get things checked out?

Experienced beginner recap and questions

Crossposted at r/prostateplay but since I’m now officially an aneros owner and user I wanted to post to this community as well for insights.

Hello everyone,

Longtime lurker on this sub and longtime player of my prostate. I started my journey with external stimulation, followed by a stretch where I built the confidence to use fingers inside. It took quite a while for me to realize that I was actually reaching up too far past my prostate, but really wasn’t until I bit the bullet and got a proper massager to understand how it would swell and shrink over the course of a session.

For the most part, I’d feel a periodic surge in pleasure before a pretty epic, wet orgasm for the first couple years of playing.

The first toy I got was a cheapo from Amazon that was actually pretty short and I never felt did a whole lot once inserted without manual manipulation of the handle. I’m a relatively big guy (6’2” and 200lbs) so I always wondered what a longer toy could do for the exercise.

Fast forward to today, I finally got myself an aneros helix syn trident and just finished my first session. I should note that I combined the toy with an episode of mindgasm, which I have found to be by far the most useful audio accompaniment to my journey. I also went with a thicker lube than the typical ky, specific for anal fun. Read more »

Those that own a progasm, do you recommend it?

I’ve had a syn for probably a little over a year now, and am wanting an upgrade and something larger sounds exciting. I have my eyes on the regular progasm but want to know if there are certain drawbacks I should be aware of.