I have tried the Helix six or seven times so far. With each practice session, I discover a few new sensations. Still, I'm not anywhere near achieving the involuntaries or the Super "O." I have, on a couple of occasions, experienced a very intense ejaculation without any penile stimulation. But alas, I know that this is not the object of my desire.
I have a few questions for any successful guys who might have the time to answer.
1. I seem to be most relaxed on my back with my knees bent or on my stomach lying flat. I can achieve movement of the Helix keeping my hips perfectly still, but there are times when I want to move my hips, which seems to contribute to the Helix's movement within me. Should I rely solely on the Helix's movement through contractions, or is this hip movement ok?
2. It appears there are four different kinds of contractions. The easiest for me to perform is the Kegel. However, I've seen recommendations to do a rectal contraction simulatenously or an anal contraction simultaneously with a rectal contraction. I can't seem to even figure out how to combine a Kegel with a rectal contraction or an anal contraction with a rectal contraction. Doing one (to me) seems to make it impossible to do the other simultaneously. Any suggestions? Also, any suggestions on the length of contractions and how contractions might interact with breathing would be appreciated.
3. Thus far, I never get an erection while using the Helix (even when I enjaculated — which was achieved without penis stimulation). My assumption is that this is just fine. Am I right? Am I correct in thinking that I'm to focus more on what's happening around the anus, prostate, abdominal muscles than on what's happening with the penis?
4. People talk about breathing from the diaphragm. I guess I really don't understand what breathing from the diaphragm is. Can anyone explain? How important do those who have been succesful thinking breathing is as part of the overall experience. Any breathing tips would be appreciated.
I should wrap this up by saying I'm not anxious about any of this. I'm willing to practice as much as is required and take a rather laid-back approach. I think the concept of being able to create sheer sexual bliss for oneself is such a cool idea, it's what motivates me to keep going. I love the concept of exploring the inner reaches of my body and sexuality.
There are times I think I might benefit by actaully watching someone experience the super O using Aneros — seeing what they do to reach the climax, etc., but my hunch is that most everything is internal, and I wouldn't learn that much from the visual. Do you guys tend to agree?
Hello Yukonbob,
I'll try to answer your questions:
1. Hip movements: Hip movements are okay as long as you avoid penile stimulation. Go with what feels good for you.
2. Contractions: You are going to have experiment as you build up your muscles. I was clueless about the different types of contractions and contraction strengths when I first started and learned with experience. The simultaneous anal/rectal contractions are meant to create an equilibrium where the Aneros stimulates your most sensitive regions. This is difficult to describe to a newbie, but you will be able to perfect your technique with experience. I can tell you, however, that if you become fatigued from contracting, you are pushing too hard. Just give yourself time, and you will figure this all out on your own.
3. Erection: You are correct. You will only become distracted by focusing on your penis. You are right to focus on all the other sensations associated with prostate/anal stimulation. However, if you do have raging wood, avoid the temptation to touch it or rub against the bed. You will probably short circuit something really awesome you are about to experience!
4. Breathing: Rythmic breathing is very important for a newbie to relax your body and mind. Try deep breathing before you insert your Helix and try to continue as you feel the new sensations in you nether regions.
You are correct about videos. They cannot show you how to achieve a Super-OP. Every man is different. Heck, every session is different. The important thing is to relax and take your time. Do not expect too much too soon. Your patient approach will certainly pay off. Good luck. You have plenty of help just a keyboard click away.
Take care,
Charlie
Excellent post. I like your slow go approach — how has it been going?