Am I doing something wrong? Nothing is happening.

Bought a Progasm a few days ago, my first anal toy ever.

No problem getting it up there. I did all my research, practiced breathing and sphincter movements, etc. but nothing. Left it in for about twenty minutes before moving on. It wasn't uncomfortable but it just felt like "there's something up my bum." No pleasure.

Tried again a day later. This time put it up there, kept it in for about 50 minutes, and watched TV. Nothing again.

I know there is a learning curve and I wasn't expecting instant pleasure, but I fail to see how this is going to become pleasurable down the road.

What do I need to do? Completely eliminate distractions? Harder sphincter movements?



  1. You’re probably not going to want to hear this but I’d suggest you get a Helix. I started with the Progasm Jr and then moved to a Helix Syn. The smaller size frees up more room for it to move and stimulate. With the Progasm Jr it didn’t seem to move as much because it was larger. I can only imagine what the Progasm is doing, or not doing for you. Also, there are some audio files floating around the internet where they help you meditate and kind of walk you through the process of relaxing and contractions. They helped give me a good starting reference point on what I should do and expect. Good luck!

  2. First, I’m really sorry that this post is basically a novel and if you don’t want to read all of it, I won’t be offended. The Progasm is typically for folks more experienced with anal play (and specifically with Aneros toys), but that said, it’s not a *terrible* place to start. One of the most important things about having Aneros sessions is to start them aroused. Maybe spend 15 or 20 minutes watching some porn, reading some erotica, or doing whatever gets you horny before inserting. Perhaps try taking a warm shower or bath, relax, and explore your body (while leaving your penis alone – trust me, it’s counterproductive). Once you insert it, just leave it alone and don’t start contracting immediately. Let it be for a good 10 minutes or so, until your body is again relaxed and that "there’s something up my bum" sensation has begun to fade. It’s also important to maintain arousal at this phase, so watching TV probably isn’t the best idea (unless you have porn playing). Aneros toys are not going to force you to orgasm. It’s actually more of a mental thing than it is a physical thing IMO. Once you’ve relaxed again, do a few test contractions. Since you’re new to the Aneros, try to learn the difference between contracting your sphincter and your kegels. It’s one of the best things you can do, IMO, is learning the difference and developing the muscles so you can flex them separately. For reference, you can identify your kegels by stopping your pee mid-flow next time you have to take a leak. Once you’ve kind of gotten yourself accustomed to the contractions, do a full contraction as deep as you can go, and think of that as your 100% mark. You generally want to hold something in the 20-40% contraction range as your baseline contraction. You don’t generally want to fully relax during a session, so holding it somewhere between 20 and 40% is a good starting place. From there, focus on some deep breathing from your diaphragm. The expansion and contraction of your diaphragm helps the Aneros to make some subtle strokes against the prostate, and having a slow, consistent deep breathing routine will definitely help you out. The last important thing to do is, even if you’re watching porn while having a session, try to keep your mental focus on the sensations you’re feeling. That’s how they grow, and if you lose your focus you can lose all your sensations. Aneros sessions are very meditative. And finally, in reponse to your concern about how this can become pleasurable down the road – from when we start masturbating and experiencing sexual pleasure during our development, we typically learn that the way we have pleasure is through the penis. It wires you mentally to think that way. As such, when your prostate begins being maniuplated, your body isn’t used to it. Give your body time to adjust and adapt to the pleasure it can get from another place. Prostate pleasure is not the same as penile pleasure is, and prostate orgasms are much different than penile orgasms. Penile orgasms coalesce as one quick boom and typically ends in a few seconds. Prostate orgasms are usually slow to build up and are more like an intense pressure that doesn’t subside instead of culminating in one quick, intense burst. I hope some of this info is helpful, and I’m more than happy to help you out in any way that I can. I’ve been doing this for 8 years, and while this by no means makes me an expert, I have tried almost everything and am always willing to share what I know to help you out. Drop me a response or a PM if you have any more questions.

  3. It’s no problem. Just remember that your experiences can and likely will vary. Edit to clarify: I just mean that everyone progresses differently. Some folks get it in a few weeks, but it took me years. It’s totally worth it though. It changes your perspective on sex drastically.

  4. I started with the Prograsm like you, but it was terrible for me. I’ve used dildos, butt plugs, you name it for years, so I thought the largest sized aneros was what I needed. But it was so big I wasn’t able to move it with my sphincter muscles, and movement is really the name of the game if you want to ignite your prostate. Anyway, i quickly realised my mistake and downsized to the Maximus. The results were much better and within a couple of sessions my prostate was singing. After about 6 months I kinda reached a plateau of pleasure, so I bought a Eupho, which is a lot thinner still and meant to be for advanced users. I’ve been using it for 4 months now and have incredibly intense sessions with it. My advice, for what it’s worth, is don’t give up with aneros just downsize and see if that helps.

  5. I wanna reply and thank you as well, kind stranger. I was about to make a new thread with the exact same problems OP is having. I’m having the same thing. No problem inserting it, but it feels like I wanna take a crap and my big problem is videogames. I like to play videogames, but that’s counterproductive, right? I’ll follow on this advice. Start with porn or audio erotica, (maybe erotic ASMR might help me) then go to town. I certainly feel these toys are a meditative experience that unlocks your true potential. Meditation is something I wanna try to have out-of-body experiences, but again, I get bored if I sit in one position for a long time, I need to do something else while doing that. Sorry I’m rambling. Bottom line is, I will follow this post. But I do have a question: I am overweight, does that hinder the experience?

  6. Hey, it’s not a problem at all. The way I see it is that if I can take some of the time and money spent on this hobby (for lack of a better word or phrase) and turn places where I roadblocks into nuggets of information others can use to keep moving, everyone wins. As far as audio erotica goes, the folks over at /r/GoneWildAudio put out some amazing content, so that could be a good place to start looking. Hypnosis tracks aren’t awful either as they can really help with relaxation. And in regards to your final question, it won’t. While being overweight does change a person’s body shape, things like where your prostate are located still fall in the same general area. You will still likely see a lot of the same things everyone sees – finding the right Aneros for you, learning how to distinguish which muscles are which, etc, but it shouldn’t affect your ability to achieve prostate orgasms in the long run. Hope that info is helpful. Let me know if I can be of more help.

  7. Thank you so much again for the reply and info. I’m the same mindset, I want this investment to pay off and a lot of the reviews, for all their products are 5-stars all around, with the exception of a very tiny few. Thank you again, have a fantastic new year!

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