Not getting results, please read, need some help

Pretty much every post here is positive, or is just series of instructions that wont work for everyone. All the “craziest orgasm of my life” posts seem to have some element of luck, and more often have had some form of anal play. These people usually achieve the super o in a very short period of time and they really dont say anything specific that has helped me. I have read countless articles here and on the forum and it seems like there is no silver bullet. I get strong involuntaries that can feel nice but its rare to feel any sort of pleasure for more then a second.

All this talk about letting go of expectations was helpful and I have made headway, but after a certain point you gotta ask yourself, is this actually getting better or are am I just telling myself it is? There is definitely some kind rewiring definitely going on, and I see some kind of potential, but standard penile pleasure is still better by far.

I have tried abstaining from the aneros which has helped before, but I just had almost a week off and had a dull session. I have tried not masturbating for extended periods and honestly it doesnt help, I think I get closer when I have been mastubating more often to be honest because of a higher baseline libido. When I go without ejaculatory orgasms my libido drops noticeably.

Water based lube makes me have to go the bathroom. Silicone didnt work initially and then I tried olive oil, but no matter what, I start to get sore at the 40 minute mark. My back and legs start to get tired and the sensations start to diminish. The first 20 minutes or so feel pretty nice and will get pre cum and erections, but it downhill at the 30 minute mark.

I have a Helix Trident and want to try another model before giving up for awhile. I was thinking the Eupho Trident because its skinnier and would be easier on my ass, and I have personally found the best sensations when the device is moving. The helix might actually be too aggressively angled for my anatomy.

What to do?

Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/hp4lz5/not_getting_results_please_read_need_some_help/

8 comments on “Not getting results, please read, need some help

  1. > I start to get sore at the 40 minute mark. My back and legs start to get tired and the sensations start to diminish. The first 20 minutes or so feel pretty nice and will get pre cum and erections, but it downhill at the 30 minute mark.

    I lie on my side (second pillow between knees) to relax at the start, much more comfortable and easy to maintain position. I’d recommend you don’t go onto your back until you’ve taken some time to adjust after insertion, if at all. (I have HelixT)

    > Water based lube makes me have to go the bathroom. Silicone didnt work initially and then I tried olive oil, but no matter what, I start to get sore at the 40 minute mark

    > and I have personally found the best sensations when the device is moving

    Try coconut oil (unrefined) perhaps, or find a water based lube without glycerin. Make sure to reapply it as needed. ‘Sore’ makes me think you’re moving the device perhaps more than necessary – no need to strain yourself. There’s not a whole lot of movement for me, more subtle. There are plenty of other devices that will get results from movement (more anal stimulation than they are hands-free prostate focused).

    > I have a Helix Trident and want to try another model before giving up for awhile. I was thinking [..]

    Here’s my suggestion, and what helped me the most in rewiring. Try some a-less sessions (no device inserted, clothes on/off whatever). It doesn’t require any preparation time (or lube), can do it anywhere relaxing/aroused in the spur of the moment, and there’s no pressure or disappointment (not trying unsuccessfully for hours with ‘sunk cost’). Keep it to extremely light contractions, the minimum possible (and as direct as possible, not ‘everything at once’) with gradual build. Focus on the ‘now’, no matter how subtle it seems.

    The device is only a fraction of the equation; just learning to use it on its own (in out in out clenches) will not get you anywhere. Your body needs to be listened to, and having a chunk of plastic inserted can be distracting when the signals are weak. Rather than the sensation that making contraction (both muscle and Aneros movement) yields, try focusing on the response your body **has** to it. Passive approach.

    Relaxation and arousal are key, that’s all you need. Keep it subtle and things will build. I’ve had a much more consistent success rate with no device inserted at all.

  2. You’re not alone. I’ve bought the Progasm, MGX and the Njoy wand that people rave about. None of them have done anything for me. I’m a bit jeaous of hearing about these amazing experiences that guys are having with them. No luck with any of them and I feel like I’ve been scammed given the money spent on all of them.

    I get the feeling that some guys are not ‘wired’ down there for this kind of stuff and I’m one of them.

  3. Some general anal tips from a gay bottom (waiting for my first aneros to be delivered but have learned some tips from bottoming)

    Have you tried smoking weed before using? I have found that a lot of my “breakthroughs” have been when I have smoke a little before. I have seen people recommend edibles but I have a low tolerance for edibles so I haven’t tried that.

    Headspace is almost everything. The more you are getting frustrated you are not getting there the harder it will be. I find I get more horny when smoking weed so this has helped me with that. I would also try jerking off while using it. I feel like it could send signals to your body saying “it feels good when this thing is in me” and then you’ll be even more horny.

    Related to headspace but try watching porn when you find yourself getting frustrated. This could stop the frustration and bring you back to your horniness.

    Be dramatic. Act like the stereotypical woman in porn who makes it seem like it feels so good when it really isn’t. I feel like you may be able to trick your brain into actually enjoying it. This is often a trick for confidence and may work in this scenario.

    Obviously use lube, which it seems you are. Also test out different amounts of lube. Maybe you feel better when you use more or less than you currently are.

    Again I don’t have a aneros yet so all of this may not apply or work but I think they are at least things to take into consideration. Good luck!

  4. Some times its not in the cards for a while. I’ve been at it for almost 8 years and havent had much success. Having a little more now but it has been discouraging to say the least. Just stick with it. It’ll come (pun intended) to us eventually.

  5. My aneros ended up in the trash. What a waste of money. No, Im not a troll , it just never felt good, or felt like much of anything
    For several years on and off I tried with little to no sensation. I tried the aneros forum/board and was given so much conflicting info about what to and
    Not to do that
    I closed my account. The whole pretending to enjoy, or practicing having orgasm idea was funny to me, as were the the guys telling me to get high before “riding” and the others telling me that k should be sober. It can be frustrating read about the experiences of others, but figure out what works for you and go with that. I was told the nipples were key in helping get the super o, my nipples are not sensitive at all, nor are my feet. It’s not for everyone, even though aneros will tell you different.🤷🏻‍♂️

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