So after realising weed and poppers were a short cut to the Super O I’ve been working on calming techniques and recently managed several super O’s with just meditation breathing and the do nothing technique… I was thrilled and amazed. Ok it takes longer than vaping a little weed, but it’s awesome to do this stone cold sober.
And now my wife say’s she finds the whole thing ‘ick’ and thinks I don’t want her. Which is odd given we still have an active sex life and she’s previously been supportive of my quest or at worst neutral. Kind of sucks to find someone you hoped to share this with finds something so wonderful (to me) ‘ick’.
So we’ve talked. At length. She isn’t asking me to stop. But she doesn’t want me doing it when she’s home (which is a major block on play time as she’s almost always home). She doesn’t want me to talk about it either.
I view this as controlling behaviour and while I am not angry at her I am deeply saddened by her U turn. And quite hurt. I really don’t want to wind up resenting someone I’ve given 20 years of my life to – and I also don’t want to give up Prostate orgasms.
This whole Aneros journey I have been open and up front about what I was doing and why because I thought it was important to communicate and be honest. Sigh. And now she has this sort of unspoken expectation that I should give up this joy and be solely happy with one and done penile orgasms.
Which is a big ask when you’ve experienced 90+ min of non stop PGASMS….maybe she thinks such multiple O experiences should be for clitoris havers only.
Sorry – I’m probably in the wrong forum for this. I just needed to vent a little.Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/ooal0v/just_a_little_heart_broken/