Very curious and excited about pgasms but concerned about developing a habit

I recently bought a Helix Trident Syn, have had three sessions, and on the third I had some real breakthroughs. I can tell that where this is headed is going to be extremely pleasurable. However, I am also a little scared.

For most of my life I had no idea the p-spot was a thing and I had no interest in anal play whatsoever. Like many straight men, I watched porn since adolescence and just went to down on my dick for years and years. Over the last year I’ve realized that my porn use was problematic (compulsive) and had been for a while. In researching how to live a porn-free lifestyle I came across reddit subs and articles about semen retention, tantric masturbation, etc. etc. which led me to learn about prostate orgasms, which appeal to me for a number of reasons (note that I’m not a true believer of semen retention):

1) If it’s the best orgasm a man can have, why *wouldn’t* I want to experience it?

2) I’m older and more experienced now and have way fewer sexual hangups about butt stuff.

3) It doesn’t involve porn.

My worry, though, is that it will be SO good that I won’t be able to stop doing it and will begin to prefer it to having actual sex. The word “rewiring” gets thrown around in nofap and pornfree all the time (rewiring your arousal pathways away from porn to sex with a partner/physical sensation) and I’ve noticed that in this sub it gets thrown around a bunch as well (rewiring your arousal pathways away from your dick and to your prostate).

For partnered people, have you found that prostate play has made regular sex less desirable? Do you last longer than you want to? Do you find that over time you get stronger and stronger urges to stimulate your prostate and play with your toy and that you spend more and more time doing it? Obviously I’m aware that not everyone will have the same type of impulse control/compulsion issues that I do – I think responsible porn use is totally possible for many people. I’m just wondering what types of experiences people with similar concerns have had. I guess sometimes it seems like some of this is a little too good to be true, and that there has to be a downside.



  1. You don’t un-learn something just because you learn something closely related. For example you won’t forget how to ride a bicycle, once you learned to ride a motorcycle. And honestly sex became even more enjoyable once super-o was discovered.

    I feel like the term rewire is so misleading, that’s just not how brains work. We form NEW neural pathways to perceive pleasure from different sources (not penis). We don’t overwrite existing paths.

  2. I can only speak for myself but as far as sex with your partner goes I have only found that it has improved our sex lives. We have sex 3-4 times a week and when it happens after a session I find it has really enhanced the whole experience. It has made me a more present lover and I don’t get lost in my own thoughts anymore. I think for me that has been a bi product of having to be present to enjoy aneros sessions and the practice that has spawned.

    I have only had more desire to have sex with my partner and I have also struggled with compulsion issues.

  3. It is totally different from sex and you won’t stop craving sex…

    I found it helped me to stop craving masturbation tho…. as I didn’t want to lose the Aless build up… so was either sex or aneros or aless… and only time will cum is during sex.

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