What should I be doing with the toy once it’s in?

So I have the progasm black ice, and to be completely honest I love it. When I put it in it give a very nice a pleasant “full” feeling. And usually only a minute or two after it’s inserted my butthole starts to twice and it feels great, then I get hard from just that, which feels great as well. But then nothing. The twitching stops and my hard on goes away and everything just kind of fizzles out (but the pleasant “full” feeling remains).

So when this happened last night I just tried to remember what I’ve read on all these forums where most people say just “do nothing”, so I tried that and then, I literally almost fell asleep. So I woke myself back up and tried doing kegals. Little flexes weren’t doing much so I tried to flex as hard as I could for as long as I could (these flexes are a “pulling” flex, like trying to stop my pee stream. Pushing it like a poop didn’t really do anything at all). Which felt great when I was flexing, but it wore me out very quickly and if I wasn’t flexing the feelings faded quickly.

So I guess I’m just asking for advice. I feel pleasure with it in. But it’s not a building pleasure like everyone seems to describe. What should I be doing?

Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/rxhekp/what_should_i_be_doing_with_the_toy_once_its_in/


  1. It takes time to “awaken” the pleasure (often referred to as rewiring here) so try to be patient. This takes different amounts of time from person to person. Please also read the wiki if you haven’t and check out the mindgasm.net lessons. Other random advice I can give you…

    * make sure you have enough lube
    * when people talk about clenching, it’s not forceful, be subtle with it… think of it more like tickling that thrusting or something. You probably don’t need to go past 50% effort here. In addition, this also requires practice since most aren’t used to using these muscles so much. As you discovered, it actually takes training.
    * instead of trying to “stop” the pee stream, try “pushing” the pee stream
    * try different positions laying down. try some hip thrusting
    * as a last ditch resort (not to become habitual) try moving the toy with your hand .. slow and subtle. Sometimes repositioning it can help find the spot or make things easier

  2. When you are with your lady… when you try get her to cum do you jackhammer or go gentle and slow….

    Prostate is the same…

    Slow and steady… do not force anything

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