SevereCircle, Author at Super-O blog

What are you supposed to do mentally?

I’ve been trying off and on for a few years now and I’ve gotten few worthwhile results. I’ve tried several different strategies and none of them work well for me. It seems like I have to do all of the following at once:

1. Stay physically relaxed

2. Don’t get overhyped and start thinking about what it might feel like later / stay in the moment

3. Enjoy the sensations

4. Be mindful of the aneros’s movements

5. Breathe steadily

I’ve been using the “do nothing” method because anything else would require even more concentration. I’ve tried just focusing on relaxing and doing nothing else but most of the time I do that I just fall asleep. I’ve tried porn but that distracts me from staying in the moment / feeling the sensations. When I don’t focus at least a little on 3, any pleasure that happens is somehow distant / unimportant and I don’t get any enjoyment out of it.

I do have ADHD, so that’s part of the problem. I can get it in comfortably and it doesn’t hurt at all even manually pulling it in all the way. I can stay relaxed. I just can’t seem to juggle all the right mental tasks at the same time. What am I supposed to do?

Which one should I try next?

I have a Progasm Jr and the tabs are too “stabby” for me. No matter how I pose myself it gets uncomfortable. I’d be willing to put up with slight skin irritation but that’s more than enough to distract me so that pleasure is impossible. I’m not sure if height matters but just in case I’m 6’1″.

I want to try a different one. Which should I get?

After two years I got there but I’m having trouble getting back

It definitely felt better than I thought it was possible to feel. I had many (dry) orgasms, even one that lasted about 20 minutes. At its best it was so good I could barely think. If it were too much better I’d worry about it becoming seriously addictive and ruining my life.

The only advice I’d add to what’s out there is that the “do nothing” strategy works pretty well overall and is the best way to start. Once you get close, the “try not to orgasm” strategy makes it more and more intense the longer you can hold it off.

TL;DR: 30/10, was mindblowing.

Anyway, that was a week ago and I can’t seem to get back there. I took adderall the time it worked but I’ve tried taking it again and it doesn’t seem to be enough. Maybe it helps, but I’d like to be able to do it without of course. It’s pretty frustrating because I know the more I want it the harder it is to get it. Hopefully I’ll get the knack of it and learn how to do it reliably.

I had my first "good" session a few days ago and I thought I’d share an insight that helped

You don't have to pretend to be super enthusiastic about every little bit of pleasure that happens. It's ok to think it's completely underwhelming as long as you stay patient and don't get frustrated.

Just one problem

I've had 20 or so sessions feel like I'm close. I just figured out that when I pull my helix syn in just slightly, the smallest amount I can, it helps, but it's hard for me to concentrate on breathing, relaxing, enjoying myself, and pulling it in slightly all at the same time.

Has anyone else had that problem? Is there a position that would work better for me? I've been lying on one side mostly. I'm tall so maybe it's just slightly too short for me.

Sorry for the clicky-baity title. I wasn't sure what to write.

Lube Recommendations?

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