Tag: Relaxation

Starting Notes

Figured I'd put my notes on my blog instead of in a Word file. These may be disjoint. Some just random.

Got a Helix about a week ago and just got a Vice (BEAST) yesterday.

I'm not sure yet what can be called a Mino/Micro-O, but I think I've experienced some of those. Am SURE I haven't seen any Super-Os yet!!

My Notes:
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My first Orgasm type Experience )Just with Perineum Massage alone(

When I started chasing the big SO, I started out with prostate massaging for like 20 min then perineum massaging my sweet spot for another 20–30 min. Best I can tell, there’s a spot ON the north rim of my anus sphincter (my Button) that connects movements there straight to the prostate. And after a while of massaging/twiggling it, the whole ring of nerves there engorges and gets bigger and stiff (like the penis erecting, but of course on a much smaller scale..) Also there’s a point on the top of the perineum cord about an inch or so north of the “Button” which if pressed, greatly magnifies the connection to the prostate. So I end up doing a two finger salute to twiggle there.

So that was my perineum massage. Twiggling those two spots. Got lots of great feelings from the perineum massage, almost nothing from the prior prostate massage, and definitely nothing I could remotely call an orgasm let alone Super–O. So after getting nowhere that evening, I just stopped, rolled over and went to sleep. Read more »

Runaway Freight Train

In the 8 years that I have been a practitioner, I continue to be amazed at the continual learning process involved in anal / prostate orgasm. There seems to be endless opportunity to experiment with stimulation, erotic imagery, and breathing to climb to new heights of pleasure. Each session as I learn more and more I get greater skill at coaxing serene ecstasy from my anus, cock, and perineum.

The key seems to be getting the pleasure to a level that is intense enough that it can fall back into latency, requiring only simple encouragement to get it to reemerge, blossom and express excruciatingly divine euphoria. For me performing A Less it can take me 20 minutes to get to that point; with my Tempo inserted or an N Joy Phun Plug …. It can take 10 minutes.

So after between 10 – 20 minutes of pleasure waves my anus will be primed. In that state I can stop urging the orgasms to rise and fall and leave the erotic sensation to just idle quietly. I can leave the orgasmic ecstasy laying just beneath the surface of my awareness, where it waits for me to release it. When the super o is loaded deep in my anal tract and ready to fire, I can experiment and manipulate it causing indescribable bliss. The hardest part about being poised in that mental – physical state on the verge of super o is maintaining mental clarity and focus and remembering to breathe. I will also sustain erotic images in my mind to keep the pleasure teetering on the edge of an ecstatic precipice. It is all too easy to become totally passive and let my body do what it wants as opposed to being relaxed and aware and consciously controlling what I am doing to keep the orgasmic fire stoked and make pleasure flares soar to yield agonizing orgasmic euphoria. Read more »

Older guys, what worked for you?

I am a 45 year old straight guy who suffers from occasional hemorrhoids. I have up until this point never really done much anal play. I have experimented here and there with fingers but never got anything out of it and thought it just was not for me. I am fairly open about sex but just never got much from anal play. Recently though I ran across the Aneros site after reading about it while browsing /sex, which, by the way, not sure you younger guys realize just what a treasure having all this info at your fingertips is. Wish I had that resource when I hit puberty! At any rate. After reading about the therapeutic effects of prostate massage and it's benefits, that it helps with prostate health, hemorrhoids, and the awesome pleasure, I decided to give it a try. I bought a few cheap massagers but none of them did much of anything. After browsing Aneros for awhile, I decided to try one out. I bought a Helix Syn and have had 10 or so sessions with it in the last month or so. I am in a relationship and have not shared this with my wife yet, though if it goes well, I will. Just not ready to share this yet. That does limit the times I have to play around with it. The first session I immediately got mild P-waves, which, while not close to intense, was a result I had never gotten before. Second session more P-waves at about the same intensity. Both times it started off well and then tapered away as I tried to control things or focused on form too much. Some sessions not much of anything happened, then the last few sessions things seemed to progress a bit. One session I had my first involuntaries, which were interesting but not necessarily pleasurable. Then the last session I seemed to zero in more on which muscles to use and which ones to relax and felt the first stirrings of good sensation, including Pwaves, involuntaries and the tingling. All were fleeting and only happened a few times, but I see progress. reading this sub, the forums on Aneros and the Wiki really helped. The Tug of War method from the Wiki was what helped with the correct muscles to use and I noticed that the less is more approach really helped. I am just fighting a lifetime of muscle memory from traditional orgasms and sex but I can see where the rewiring comes in. Quite awhile back I discovered nipple play and that has been fantastic and the wife takes full advantage of it as do I. That definitely seems to help. My usual method is to wait until after a BM, then get out the Helix and lube up with Vaseline, Coconut oil and water based lube. I do plan on ordering unrefined Shea Butter to see how that works. I have tried lots of positions. The best results seem to come from being on my back with a pillow under my butt, knees straight up with feet on the bed. Standing, walking, sideways or on all fours did not seem to do much of anything. I can tell that I need to strengthen muscles that have seem little use ever to get further down the road. I am excited about the journey. I would love to hear from other older men on their experiences getting started with prostate massage and what worked for them. I wish I had come across this when I was younger and orgasms were still mind blowing experiences. As I have gotten older they have lessened in intensity and I find myself trying to find more and more ways to turn things on, though things are still quite enjoyable. Looking forward to the path ahead!

Third session – a quickie

Wow! What a difference a day makes!

After the disappointment of my 2nd session, I wanted to give myself some time before I tried again. But my anus had different ideas. The prostate soreness that I had experienced during the 2nd session was completely gone, and in fact it was feeling pretty good. My anus wanted, nay, it demanded something to fill it, NOW! So we compromised; a short session of only 30 minutes on the very next day after the frustrating and long 2nd session.

Expectations – 30-minute time limit; hands-off )like every other session(; quick and dirty; start with voluntary contractions and then back off

TSLE – about 8 days

The only difference in preparation between this session and the previous session was that this time I didn’t inject any glycerin-based lube.

After bowel movement, enema, and insertion of the Helix, I went straight to a 4-on-the-floor position; on knees and elbows, head down, ass up. I considered that by waiting/relaxing I was letting my arm tremor start to dominate my attention. So, after a few deep breaths, I start slow-rolling sphincter/PC contractions. Bingo! – instant perineal contractions progressing to full-body involuntary contractions, lasting 10-12 minutes. Again, I just observed, watched the spasms grow, recede, and return spontaneously. Purely involuntary. It was awesome. The spasms would recede until they were just in my groin, and then the sphincter/PC involuntary contractions would escalate, amplifying each other, until they set off another round of full-body contractions. Is this auto-f*cking? A definite pre-cum feeling, but without an erection or any actual pre-cum. Read more »

Fourth session – some lessons learned

I tried for another quickie session )30 min( like yesterday, but it wasn’t quite fantastic. I did learn some things, though, so I call it a success.

First, after a long, hot bath to relax, I inserted the lubed Helix. Drips of pre-cum for the first time. Just a few drips, but all I did was insert the Helix. No erection, just an electric feeling emanating from my groin and drips of pre-cum. This is new; something’s changing in me.

Second, the whole-body contractions weren’t nearly as strong or long-lasting as yesterday, and I stopped after about 10 minutes. I felt weak. Which leads to my theory – I’m thinking that the prostate glow I feel after a session is analogous to the muscle feeling you get from weight training. We’re exercising muscles, and the underused muscles are just getting sore. They get weak and tired, so they need time to recover, just like with a barbell. This was the 3rd session in 3 days, so maybe my muscles got overworked yesterday. It’s my theory at least. I should allow more recovery time between sessions.

Anyway, I stopped the session, but left the Helix in and went about my normal business of cleaning the kitchen, etc., for about 30 min, just to get used to it inside me. While the Helix was not arousing, walking around my home nude with a toy up my lubed ass was. I masturbated, but again didn’t notice anything different about the quantity or quality of the ejaculate. Read more »

Second Session – ugh!

Well, that could have gone better. Underwhelming on almost all counts.

Expectations – Wanted to get warm and really relaxed, get aroused, and then sit back and see what happens with minimal contractions.

TSLE – about 7 days

I had more time to work with, so I could spend a lot more time prepping. Heated the room, pre-washed all the toys, pre-rolled a shea butter bullet )stored in a glass of cold water in the fridge(, pre-lubed the Helix with shea butter, filled a plastic syringe with about 3 ml of I.D. Glide, and spread some towels over the sheets in bed. I liked all this prep work; the self-nurturing felt nice. After a bowel movement and a long hot bath, I felt very warm and relaxed.

After the bath, I gave myself an enema )3 x 4 oz; definitely necessary(, inserted the bullet, inserted the syringe and injected the Glide )I wanted to try a bit more lube(, and retired to the prepped warm bedroom, where I lay down on my side and comfortably inserted the Helix. This was the high point of the session.

• ROOKIE MISTAKE – For some reason, I could not get aroused with my imagination, which usually works pretty well. It was just one of those days )tired, sick, out of sorts, whatever( where I couldn't feel any sexual arousal. I could feel this malaise earlier in the day. I should have just removed the Helix and gone to sleep. But I kept going . . . Read more »

Vice Vice Baby!

The Vice has been an absolute champ this week. I used it 3 times since my last blog post, and all three times I ended the session saying to myself that THAT session was the best session I've ever had so far with the Vice. Can't wait until tomorrow! :(

The 3rd of those three sessions was especially remarkable, since it was SO much better than the previous session )and former 'Best Session Ever' champion(. I actually had a bit of a headache and had intended to lay down for a bit and let the headache pass. I figured while I was laying there, I would insert the Vice and see if anything came of it. I didn't really do any breathing exercises like I normally do. I just laid down and relaxed the best that I could. I actually fell asleep for about 20-30 minutes and when I woke, I felt a bit of a tingling down there )and the headache was mostly gone!(. Did some contraction which felt nice, but nothing really came of it. After about an hour )from the time I laid down(, I turned on the vibrator. Read more »

Newb's First Session

First session notes – wherein I expose my newb-ness

The Helix Syn came in the mail a few days ago along with the other supplies. I had about an hour and a half of uninterrupted privacy to look forward to, so I grabbed the chance to play.

Expectations – I just wanted to practice getting the Helix inside me and feel what it was like. I like CrimsonWolf's write-up about the do-nothing approach, but this time I just wanted to experiment. This was about 4 days after my last ejaculation.

• ROOKIE MISTAKE – A mistake even before I began? Yes, and I knew this going in. I wasn't aroused at all. I've read that the Aneros amplifies arousal, and if there is no arousal, then you can't really expect to feel anything. That was fine for this session; I just wanted to go through the mechanics.

I'm going to add some details so other newbies can follow along –

1. First, I stripped, and then had a bowel movement followed by an enema rinse )2 @ 4 oz warm water(. Probably not necessary, but I felt more comfortable this way.

2. I lubed my finger with some I.D. Glide, and smeared some around my perineum and into my anus. I scraped about a teaspoon of shea butter off the chunk I'd purchased, quickly rolled it into a bullet shape with lightly lubed fingers, and shoved it into my anus. Read more »

Awesome Session

Started the day with a sexy text to her telling I couldn't wait fuck her wet pussy. Sent a cell shot of my semi erection to her cell to entice her for the afternoon. She responded that she was "biting her lip".. Got home and took a relaxing shower, washed away the day.

The phone rang and it was her sister. She knew we had plans and after a bit she motioned and suggested I went ahead and get started with a Vice session.

I went and prepared the Vice and coated it with coconut oil. I lubed myself as well. I had not cum in 48 hours so inserting the Vice was marvelous. Every milimeter made me cringe as I pushed it in deeper. The vibrations and sensations were almost overbearing and extremely pleasurable. I continued inserting it slowly savoring every inch of penetration from the device until it was fully seated causing me to arch up from the bed.

I began the Kegel exercises and held it firm for 20 seconds or so. When I released the squeeze, it was a totally different sensation, yet wonderful. My prostate was buzzing and warming up.

20 minutes later , she comes in still talking to her sister on the phone and takes my cock in her mouth… I am right on the edge of orgasm at this point…not so much erect but so ready to cum! Read more »

A rest stop adventure

I wrote this a year ago with a series of 3 porn stories to use as aids to my arousal when riding. They were all remembrances of real events. Turns out they were fun to write! I didn't intend to post this here but by popular request )thank you @Neros( I am finally posting it. Enjoy…

I heard about how sex goes on in the woods behind rest areas from friends. This was in the 80s when no one heard of AIDS or safe sex. I had just come out at 32 yo and had sex with a few men and liked it. My boy friend showed me a lot but I couldn't relax enough to let him fuck me. He was very gentle and considerate but couldn't penetrate my tight ass without me complaining of pain. I guess he gave up and we drifted apart. Not because of that but I had other issues, too needy, etc.

So back to the rest area. I was feeling horny and scared driving into the suburban rest area off of US 84 in Connecticut. I had seen men entering and leaving the woods on a path many times before and taking too long to be just peeing. I had tried to imagine what went on there, Tom of Finland fed my imagination. It was summer and warm and the sun was shining. I watched several men go in while I sat in my car. No police in sight. Didn't see anyone resembling Tom's men either. Just ordinary men. I sat there for a while feeling queasy. I swallowed my pounding heart, emptied my mind as if I was just going to the woods to take a leak and shambled vacantly into… Read more »