Tag: Relaxation

Advice for a noobie

Hi, I have been using Aneros Helix Syn for months now, attempting for a handsfree orgasm – yet so far unsuccessfully. I practice kegels regularly, work out a lot, eat healthy and still not there… Basically, I can feel some sensations when I focus on flexing my prostate, but I am clueless about what to do to actually reach the O. I tried so many tactics on this, relaxing my prostate, flexing my prostate(on various speeds) for 10%, 30%, 50%, 100%, holding it on 100% for 20s(kegels), repeatedly. I abstain from masturbation, I tried using enhancing substances, watching porn, listening to ASMR porn… so it is not about me not being horny enough, my testosterone is through the roof…I just try to follow the sensations whenever they start feeling a bit better but they last just a while before disappearing, but I simply cant reach the end.

Also, I have grade 3 bilateral varicocele clearly visible on both testes, so that might affect my endeavor, too.

Will be glad to hear any advices from more skilled than me and from the pros as well

Thanks a lot

Most Recent Session

A few things of note…

Had family in town so took a few days/half a week off. Not much time for masturbation other than a nice HJ from the wife.

Last night, smoked half a joint and relaxed for a nice aless session. The first climb and peak was SO INTENSE…I felt like I was going to fly away…I think the time off definitely contributed.

Do you guys have similar experiences where some O’s build slowly and you nurture them along till they peak, feels great, nice release…

Then there’s the other type…that builds and peaks SO FAST, you get that roller coaster/falling off a cliff feeling 🤤…all I can do is hang on and enjoy the ride.

Getting and staying turned on without porn or masturbating

I just got my first aneros. So far I haven’t been able to get anywhere, I mostly just lay and clench the muscles am with very little sensation. From the sound of it it seems like I need to be turned on before starting but shouldn’t masturbate or use porn. For the time I was turned on when I started, I ended up just being in meditative state and relaxed (and not turned on any more) as I focused on my breathing, muscles and body sensations.

Any advice would be great

My adventures so far

Hi everyone,

28 year old virgin here. Thought I’d share my journey that I have had with prostate play over the past two to three-ish months. No guarantee that any of these steps will work for you. it is just my personal experience. Also I really hate labeling super-o’s or prostate orgasm. As I believe some people miss out or not realize they’ve had one. As they expect them to be exactly like other peoples experiences. My reminder to anyone struggling; just go with what feels pleasurable don’t try to label it.

I first got interested in prostate play because I was disappointed that supposedly only women can have multiple orgasms. I was raised in a very conservative religious home so it has taken me a while to discover things. I am still learning sex related things to this day. I came across the fact that the prostate is the male equivalent to the female g-spot. My Interest was piqued but of course it had the taboo of mostly being accessible through the exit only hole. After mulling it over in my head for multiple months and seeing a reddit post about how its natural to pleasure ones self via anal. I went for it. Read more Â»

Where are my sensations on a scale from 1 to 10?

I have a question on where I am at in the journey?

I inserted the Helix and watched TV for about 1/2 hour. Once in a while I would do a mild kegel and get good feedback but mostly tried to ignore it.

Next step was to turn the TV off and lay on my stomach. Started holding half strength kegels. At some point my body took over and I started shaking. Weird feeling. After a bit, my body fully clinched on the Helix without any effort on my part to tighten. I mean really clinch, my innards and my core muscles were as tight as I can imagine. I would force myself to relax and catch my breath. After about 5 seconds I would go into another half strength kegel and hold it. My body would take over and go back into the fully clinched mode. It was great. I did that over and over until I was to exhausted to keep going.

When I was in a fully clinched state, it felt great but I don’t know what condition I was in? Body O, Supper O, Just feeling great?

A Tale of two sessions. An Example of mindset importance.

Exhibit Saturday Lunchtime.
Backdrop – Much work with a carport build still to be done.
Son is stressing out about meeting his GFS parents.
But I do have 90min to myself for some playtime.
Smoke half a joint. Try to relax. Sniff some poppers.
Small PGASM results, but it’s weak and I struggle to get
the next three PGASMS. After thirty minutes I give up and have a
short nap as there is too much on my mind to relax adequately.
In short – I can get to PGASM but it’s a struggle and nothing
much is developing from them.

Exhibit Sunday afternoon.

Son is at girfriends and things have gone well. Carport all done.
Wife has gone shopping and will be some time.
As she left she handed me a towel and put my hands on her breasts saying ‘enjoy, you’ve earned this’ a wink and she left me and my prostate to well.. go mad I think.

Because I am now very horny with an achy grumpy prostate that is making it’s presence felt – a quick brush of a nipple is all it takes
to tell me that things are more than ready back there.
Smoke a full joint. Meditate for 10mins. Get out Progasm and Mason Jarfor poppers. Mini PGASMS are occuring non stop at this point. Lube up with liberal amounts of cocunut oil. Insert very slowly. PGASM on insertion. Another on lying down. Both knee wobblingly strong. One long inhale of poppers from Jar. Focus on relaxing everything. Touch nipples lightly. Read more Â»

What’s your technique?

I’m a straight man trying to have pgasm for a number of years on and off and all in secret when I get a free spare hours on my own.
I’ve got a small slim dildo
A longer but still not too girthy dildo
A thick long girthy dildo
A prostate massager
Anal beads
And a few other.

I’ve been putting plenty of lube on and trying to relax and whilst I feel like I may have got close in the past I’ve never actually orgasmed from it.
I’ve had a lot of pre cum leaking which I’m guessing it where the milking phrase comes from but no physical pgasm and I’m jealous of everybody else..

I know I have a good few hours tomorrow so wanted to know your Techniques.. ive seen some people so don’t get yourself all horny (which I have been doing) and just relax .. and other day making sure your horny first so your prostate is swelled..

Any help would be appreciated

First Super-O…my god…

Been using the trident syn for a few months now with mixed results. Until last night had better success and achieved multiple prostate O’s Aless, but I knew there was more to be unlocked with the toy…boy, was I right…

I started Aless with no real intention of inserting the toy (I think this “lack of expectation” that everyone talks about is key). I had a few drinks earlier in the night and smoked some weed. The Aless was going pretty well, but nothing mindblowing, so I decided to take a ride.

Fingered myself with some lube and the toy seemed to slide in alot easier than usual. It wasn’t a crazy active session from the start. On my back, feeling most of what I usually do…some good vibes, things building, trying my best to stay relaxed and not “scare” the feelings away. This went on for an hour or so and I figured I was on my way to another decent but not great session. I decided to change positions and lay on my side on the couch….

The next part is when things got interesting and my mind was blown…let me start by saying there’s alot of talk on these forums about labeling feelings and how to tell a wave, from an O, from a super-O and how to tell where you are in the journey…when you reach the super, you will know…there is no mistaking what my body went through… Read more Â»

Major progress and first taste of prostate orgasm

I’ve been practicing prostate play on and off for about 9 months now and last night I had a breakthrough session. I’m gonna give a shout out to everyone who helped me get this far too.

Usually I edge first for quite a while before I put my toy in, but I feel like that was maybe a crutch to help me identify the pleasure in the start and now I can have a session without it. I had this breakthrough without edging, so I think that’s probably important.

So as strange as it may sound, recently I noticed the feeling of what I call a ‘prostate boner’ haha. When I allow my body to clench lightly, it can feel like my prostate is getting hard for a few seconds, like a little wave of pleasure. I’ve usually either been relaxing entirely after that occurs, or tensing too hard and killing it. I followed my body and allowed myself to tense lightly if it wanted to. Then I would relax a little and then follow my body again to clench lightly.

Often this ‘prostate boner’ (or another pleasure wave in the past, I used to get a more general feeling of pleasure in the pelvis) would cause my heart to suddenly beat really hard and fast and this would be so intense that it would scare me and cause everything to end. This has been coined as ‘terror at the gates’. Read more Â»

I wish had more time.

I didn’t have a lot of time I know need to relax more, but I was so horny and had a free 2hrs before, I knew anyone would be home. I had time to prep a bit and inserted Aneros with in minutes I was leaking watery cloudy pre cum. I know I can’t help but to taste. Then I got into my groove feeling it build maybe 10 minutes my first small dry P-wave then hit me with a bigger one felt deeper than orgasm and thicker pre cum than before. I didn’t realise I moaned out a little loud. I had to carry on I need more another slow build I had to grip the covers. I wanted to moan out and as a lot of per cum leaked out it was so tasty. I then a big one that didn’t want to end felt like could of ridden it till passed out. I had to stop as worried about the time. As I removed Aneros my legs where shaking I am left more horny than before.