TLDR; Aneros toys only feel good when I wobble them around with my hand. Why don’t my muscle contractions make the same feelings?
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So I’ve been using Aneros toys for over a year now – I’m quite confident that I’m using the correct muscles and stuff to control the toy.
I’m also gay, so anal stuff is not new to me.
Yet a couple of times recently I’ve had sessions that fizzled out very quickly and went nowhere.
But, when I wobbled the toy around physically with my hand, nudging it from side to side, it felt AMAZING. Like getting fucked in just the right spot.
REALLY good.
I can never get the toy to feel so pleasurable with my muscle contractions – only if I physically nudge it around against my prostate.
Same is true with my NJoy Purewand and other similar toys.
Am I doing something wrong? Have I been using the wrong muscles after all?
I feel like this pleasure I get from physically wobbling the toy is the pleasure I’m supposed to get from my muscles, but it’s nowhere near the same 🙁
Help!
Source: https://www.reddit.com/r/aneros/comments/jtffgr/what_am_i_doing_wrong_here/
There is an important difference between muscle contractions forced by yourself and involuntary spasms of the muscle. The last will probably feel much better than wobbling the aneros with your hand. If not the toy might be to small (which was the case for me) or you should use vibrations or weed 🤪🤫
I had a similar “problem” when i started, all the different approaches, that different folks promote, can be quite overwhelming and you keep asking yourself “am i doing it right?”.
Especially during a session this can and will be very distracting and can lead to a quick finish as the pleasure isn’t there.
At first i quickly tended to manipulate the toy by hand which resulted in “something” compared to almost “nothing” when i was not manipulating it by hand. Obviously we tend to do the things that work, although in the long run it might be not the best idea. Try to relax instead.
I’m pansexual and thus i know how nice it can feel if your partner hits all the right spots and things are just perfect. The trick is “letting go” and especially “letting go of control”. The same can be applied to aneros or any other toy. By taking control over the toy by hand – you don’t let go…. if that makes any sense?
More valuable tips: don’t try to orgasm, don’t try to make things feel nicer, just be in the very moment- cuz think about it- there is just THIS moment. The more you chase something, the more it’ll run away from you.
I wish you best of luck for your journey 🍀