Progress, and question regarding frequency of practice and sex in general

I’ve been an Aneros user on and off for a while now. Recently got back into practicing with my helix syn. I have a Progasm ice which imo feels better but isn’t nearly as manoeuvrable.

So each day this week I’ve been slipping in the helix and relaxing for around an hour at a time (sometimes longer) to see if I can make some progress toward p waves etc. I’ve avoided masturbating all week while I do this in an effort to build up my prostate as other allude to.

I seem to get the involuntaries by flexing/contracting my PC muscles (kegels?) to around 50-70%. Any less and there’s no effect, any more and the effect subsides and it’s hard to maintain. First question is, do I basically just need to stick at it by holding that position? I sometimes feel like I get flecks of pleasure, although I often wonder whether I am convincing myself of this as some kind of placebo. What can I do to step on from this? It feels ok but after a while my kegels get tired or I lose interest. I know that ‘chasing’ things is counter intuitive!

Secondly, back to frequency of masturbation / sex etc. I have a gf, she knows I practice with the aneros, she’s very accepting of all that luckily. We normally have sex at least once sometimes twice a week on average, I’d typically masturbate another two or three times in between. Does ejaculating, or indeed penile stimulation set back progress? Does it become more difficult to acquire P waves the next day or even two days after ejaculation?

What to do after getting involuntaries?

I’ve been trying to explore more feelings with my Progasm Ice. I seem to be able to get to a point where I’m feeling pretty relaxed and able to manoeuvre the Progasm around handsfree. I am able to trigger some involuntary spasms in doing this which I believe to be a step in the right direction. It feels ok but I can’t seem to break through to anything further.

After a while I get either bored or it starts to feel onerous in continuing moving my kegels. Then I find it tricky to maintaining flexing kegels and therefore can’t relax.

I sometimes feel like I’m getting some tiny flecks of pleasure, but I think this is more of a kind of placebo effect, I’m expecting pleasure so constantly looking out for it.

Can anyone help me move on from getting involuntaries?

Huge orgasm using Progasm Ice, was it an anal/prostate orgasm or regular from grinding?

Ok so I just had an incredible orgasm. I basically popped in my Progasm Ice and started watching porn. I was wearing some tights and a leotard over it as that’s my fetish. I had it in for upwards of an hour doing the contractions and not feeling too much, but I noticed after a while that sort of air humping / moving my crotch up and down felt nice.

I continued this until I decided to go on my front, at which point I found that grinding my crotch against the bed and clenching my butt felt really quite good. Eventually I end up seeing this girl in the porn I was watching masturbating, she was incredible, and then as I started grinding more I started to get the feeling I would normally if I were close to orgasm.

Eventually it peaked and I came really hard, the whole thing was completely handsfree. The clincher for me is that I have never ever had a handsfree orgasm. I was most likely getting a bit of penile stimulation from grinding against the bed but was certainly getting good anal feelings too.

Was this an prostate orgasm? At least I’m heading in the right direction. What should I try next?

My first big anal orgasm, helped by my Progasm Ice, but still having trouble using the toy by itself to get an orgasm

So I just had what I perceived to be an unbelievably huge anal orgasm. I’ve been an Aneros user for over a year now, and I know this is probably sacrilegious but mainly just using my Helix Syn as a buttplug. I adore my Helix Syn but it never quite did the trick in terms of hitting my p-spot, but it feels great to have in and I love using it when having sex with my girlfriend.

Since investing in a Helix Syn I’ve become more accustomed to anal play in general, using vibrating butt plugs of various sizes and even some dildos. So far as anal play goes the furthest to a prostate/anal orgasm I’ve found has been using a silicone dildo (around 6 inches long and 4.5 around). I’ve found by basically coating it in good lube and pushing it in and out works a treat, great internal sensations and I can hit my prostate well. I’ve had what I thought was close to an anal orgasm using this fairly standard method before but nothing mind blowing, until this evening.