Is more than one tool for the Journey a mistake?

Recently picked up a Eupho from our local leather shop but it didn't get "christened" for almost 48 hours due to time demands from friends, relatives, a charitable outfit I like and the dog. (and I thought retirement would mean more spare time … LOL)

I've also been playing with lube. This week it's shea butter cut with olive oil–VERY slippery stuff… mmm, mmm, mmm ! (As J4, SWW, and Love_is have noted, it's nice to not have "gastric distress" from a water based lube.) I'm gonna tag this mix, "SBOO." It defined, "Aneros suspended in the lube" (After a few more sessions of "SBOO" the lab-animal/AnoRat will switch to Shea Butter and Castor Oil, "SBCO".) 😕

Managed a mini-O with the Helix; then, 'dame-P' got bored with me. So, I switched to Eupho-the-Virgin. Definitely a well engineered tool! (Damn, 'twould be nice to be on the HIH R&D squad!)

I was expecting the increased mobility that everyone seems to report. Yup, got that. Then it dawned on me that, inside my anatomy, this tool works somewhat opposite to the Helix.

With the Helix, I get max prostate stim when I'm on my belly and more posterior wall and anal stim when I'm on my back.

With the Eupho it seems just the opposite, more prostate stim on my back and more posterior wall stim when I'm on my belly.

Rewiring at work ?

Session #5. Helix Time: 90 min. Pre-lube: ID Glide + H2O Tool-lube: Crisco & pH on stem 5/21/09 (Rewiring at work?)

I had planned to repeat the pleasureful approaches to orgasm that I'd had twice during Session #4. Then, rev them up a bit. However, I got sage advice from <helixbill> and <Love_is> … tone it down a lot. Both of these gents seem to have been where I am now so the message came with powerful 'sponsorship.'

So, this turned into a 'relaxation' session. Laid out all my stuff on the bed in advance. (Skipped my wife's perfumed oils and soft candles. I'm not that fem…yet! — LOL) Did the whole prep and shower. Took the advice and tried to ratchet down the Type-A spirit that had driven me quite hard in Session #4.

Inserted and started with simple contractions to seat the Helix and lightly massage the prostate, then assumed a BCL, relaxed, meditated and worked with a fantasy. No attempt at 'positional awareness' or any 'micro massage.' At 20 minute intervals I rolled from one side to back, to other side then to belly in spread eagle. Nada, discontinued at 90 minutes.

Lube note: Lube didn't seem quite as fluid as it was for Session #4. Perhaps Ultra-Gel is worth another try.

The Big Change (3 sub-sessions)

Session #4. (The "Big Change" session) This post is a journal of three 'sub-sessions' that alternated between the Helix (with a 'tab cover') and the SGX. Total time was 135 minutes. 5/15/09

Session #4a: Giving up on contractions Helix. Over an hour

This is probably what most guys manage in Session #1 or #2. I just move at snail speed.

I had planned this as a Friday afternoon adventure but was awakened at 2 a.m. by someone scratching on my arm (wasn't the dog!) So, being an 'all-american' gent I made the wrong assumption and asserted myself (she said, "not now and maybe, not anytime today.") So, there we were at 2 a.m., wide awake with fresh coffee and, sense there's little chance for sex, I'm trying to negotiate a time slot for some solo Helix-play. Also asking whether she wanted me to save some of life's essence to share after the Helix play. Or, should I just finish myself off after the session. Her answer was that my attitude appreared 'too academic' for her to get involved. She definitely didn't want an Aneros discussion and her tone was, 'testy.'

I decided to not 'shoot the wad' and would just enjoy the Aneros ride. Perhaps a couple of house bouquets in the afternoon would put me back in her good graces. (note to any reader under the age of 50: In a few years, skip long-stem roses and go for 'house bouquets.' Easy to get at a drive-through florist and the price is a fraction of what you'd pay for roses.)

Getting Started

I had a major turning point on Session #4 so have lumped the first three sessions together. These sessions didn't move very far through the Wiki list of milestones. But I smoothed out a lot of basics and learned what a contraction was.

Aside from the nuts and bolts of "session management" the big project was getting my wife OK with the idea of 'female orgasms for men' So, she is OK with it but, without penis work, she sees her role as 'non-existant.' Eventually I want her involved in nipple and torso work but that's still several sessions away.

Session #1 (the basics)

SGX then Helix. Pre-lube: 10cc K-Y jelly Tool lube: K-Y jelly 75 min. 5/7/09

For session #1 I skipped the shower/mood-adjustment and focused on running through the 'basics' in the instructions and in the Wiki. The prep was pretty straightforward but I over-did on the amount of rectal rinse. That left several ounces of excess water in my colon which later diluted the K-Y lube. (this, was to become a recurring theme — I just don't discharge the whole 4 ounces). I started doing basic contractions with the SGX to see how it played with my bph. While it did produce a generous amount of pre-cum, I didn't sense any major prostate pressure or stimulation during contractions.

Swapped to the Helix. Sensed definite prostate contact. Anal contractions produced a 'jabbing' feeling. The 'pleasure-to-discomrfort' (P2D) ratio wasn't great but was liveable.

How I stumbled in here

Blog, ground-zero. — how I stumbled in the door —

Early in 2009 my wife and I embraced the Oprah/Sue Berman/Dr. Oz approach to improve our g-spot batting average. That involved a set of Dr. Berman's training tools, maps, and techniques. Good stuff!

Then, at a 'Sex101' workshop for seniors, a local Urologist mentioned that the g-spot was just a "left-over chunk of prostate tissue common to both males and females… …both the g-spot and prostate had similar sensory characteristics and connections to the Central Nervous System." Soooo….., what was good for the Goose must be fair for the Gander.

Even though I have an 'itchy' prostate, my track record with anal-stim is poor. Most anal toys have given me a lousy "pleasure-to-discomfort ratio." All have settled to the bottom of our toy box or have gone out in the trash. Nevertheless, we searched the web stores for a new p-tool for couples. I chose a brand-name, modestly-sized p-vibe. It had a remote control so that my wife could occasionally goose me. (she thought the radio controlled model was…. 'tacky') LOL

Long story short: the 'p-vibe' wouldn't stay put. So, sayonara, vibe.

Then, off to the local toy and leather shop to find something that would stay in place and not have sharp edges. The counter person guaranteed that a Helix would stay put. Sold ! My wife gift-wrapped it.