Hi there, so first of all, this is not one of those posts which tells you of a certain technique. My advice is general. I believe it is more effective and would work for majority of struggling users here. It is a simple one, but not easy.
Let me preface by describing my journey. I’ve been using aneros for 2 years and few month now. But only very recently I managed to git my first super O’s. And they have been worthy. Only very recently I’ve realized what has been hindering me.
So first of all, let’s think about what an aneros session is? The way I see it, it is an intimate session with yourself, with your mind. The toy is just a tool to bring awareness. The more awareness you have, the better.
What has been the biggest distractor for me and my progress? It’s porn. Watching porn (or even listening to it) during the session completely destroys any awareness or concentration, so it will never be able to help (unless you are already super rewired, maybe).
But the problem is porn itself. Even if you watch it before the session to get aroused, it takes your brain into an overdrive, which stays during the session. That means your own brain will probably be unable to create “free flow” of fantasies and mental images that actually lead to the super O. At least for me, when the brain starts streaming images of arousing things, my body and my mind seem to align in the same frequency, which starts the super O’s. I also think that porn makes you over-aroused which basically means you block yourself from non-penile orgasms. It’s like peeing with a boner. Very difficult. If you want to feel the flow, you need to be in a natural state.