First I want to say thanks to everyone who contributes to this subreddit – your experiences and tips have been invaluable in my journey and I finally feel like I made some major progress so I wanted to share with you all since I can’t really share with anyone else.
Bought my first Aneros, Helix Syn, last year during my State’s initial COVID closure in March since I’d be home and finally have time to explore. Hadn’t had a ton of success since then: some involuntaries here and there but nothing I’d describe as pleasurable. That all changed yesterday.
Started off my session as per usual – with a bit of porn, nipple rubbing, took a few hits from my vape pen, the works. I really wasn’t focusing a ton on contractions but rather let my prostate dictate to me what it wanted. In the past Ive definitely been guilty of chasing the feelings, despite having read EVERYTHING to the contrary. There really is a mental shift that has to take place. Not just KNOWING to stop chasing/let it happen but actively forcing yourself to SURRENDER. When I finally got in that headspace I turned off the porn and instead of contracting, releasing, rubbing my nipples, watching porn, etc. I just decided to feel whatever happened in my prostate and to concentrate to extend those feelings as long as possible – regardless of whether those feelings were pleasurable or not.