Tag: Girlfriend

First experience with Trident Helix – wow.

I did some research as my girlfriend and I have been enjoying dipping our toes into anal play (especially involving tongue, etc.), and settled on getting the Trident Helix + sliquid silk for the lube. From my research I was a little worried it would take a while of effort of me just letting it happen, and such as people say to do in here. However, I thought maybe I’d get lucky as I have played with myself before with no toys, and so I’m loosened up to the idea of that play, y’know.

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Anyways, I tried it today in the shower for the first time, put lube in my hand and then just swirled the Helix around in my hand till it was properly lubed, inserted pretty easily, and damn – it was such a good experience. I actually came faster than I normally would, and it was for sure a more intense experience. I turned my shower setting to a less intense spray so I didn’t have to worry about lube being removed as much which was a good call. Tried playing with myself standing up at first, but quickly just laid down in the tub and enjoyed it.

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I must have lasted less than 4 minutes honestly. I think me doing kegels with it in helped warm me up to it quickly, and I also noticed that I got to the edge way faster than I normally would, and just let it happen. I think this is just the beginning of the intensity of it for me, especially since I haven’t involved my gf yet. Read more »

My First Prostate Orgasm

I want to take everyone back. Think back to the first time you discovered your prostate could give you intense pleasure or a mind blowing orgasm. Think back to the first time it was touched, was it your finger, a toy or a partner? Do you remember the unfamiliar feeling of feeling of having something internal touched? Im going to go back to the first time I experienced prostate play. Honestly for me its kind a benchmark I used as I began my journey.
My first time was with a former girlfriend, she was adventurous to say the least. She found an article written in cosmo or somewhere like that talking about how to give your man a prostate orgasm. She asked my about trying it out. My first response was no, you’r not doing anything with my butt. She gave me a little bribe and I said ok, let’s try this. We planned it out to a degree, mainly to make sure I was fully prepped down there. She bought one of those bulb cleansers they sell at the sex stores and some thick lube. I prepped according to her instructions, I noticed the prep didn’t feel bad, and wasn’t as weird as I figured it would be.
She did an amazing job of making sure I was fully aroused, relaxed and ready when the time came. We started off, making out, she put her breasts in my face and slipped me inside of her just enough to be a tease. I told her I was ready, and I was, at-least as ready as I could be.
The rest of this is going to be in fairly great detail. Read more »

Best aneros for piv sex?

Hello keepers of aneros, I would like to acquire one myself, but I have no idea which one to get, and I’ve been reading posts here about maximus, progasm, progasm jr, and still cannot do a decision. I have experience with anal play, I have a 10inch 4″ dildo that I can easily take, but I would like to have prostate stimulation while having sex with my girlfriend. So my question is which model is perfect for this? Because I read that with progasm you might loose the erection just because of the size, and movement might be uncomfortable, but how about other models? I’d like to add just a bit of spice of pleasure but not take over the show when having sex.

How many of you switched toys on your path to the super-O? Aneros toys give me pleasant, subtle sensations; Lelo Hugo (no vibe, just muscles) brought me right to the edge of orgasm. Should I stick with one, switch em up, buy something new…?

Hi all!

About a year ago, my girlfriend and I wanted to explore prostate stimulation. So she bought me some forward-curved buttplugs (FunFactory), and I bought myself a Lelo Hugo during a sale. So I’ve had some experience with prostate stimulation (wasn’t seeking the super-O – I only thought of it as a way to enhance sex).

A couple months ago, I learned about Mindgasm and the super-O, and decided to dedicate time to it. I have some experience with meditation and I’ve done strength training for years, so muscle isolation and “mind / body” connection come pretty naturally to me. I started with no toy, just Mindgasm. I started having pleasure waves, which was very nice, and I began to feel very attuned with my body and my sexuality. This was honestly a very “spiritual” few weeks for me. I felt very “grounded.”

Then I bought a Helix Syn. I had some nice sessions with it, and it did help me learn my pelvic floor in a new way. But I wasn’t getting that “oomph”/”hit the spot” feeling that I remembered from my first toys. Just some nice waves – but I could feel an itch for something with more “reach” or more forward curve. So I bought the Eupho Trident (no Syn). This one was better, for sure – the longer reach absolutely hits me in a good place, which the Helix Syn does not. But it’s still frustrating – the sensations are so light and subtle, it’s hard to get that “satisfying” feeling. Read more »

Spiral in the journey and thoughts

I suppose I started out with the wrong mindset just as many do… I thought prostate massage was as easy as rubbing one out.

Boy was I wrong.

I’ve been at it for about a month and I’ve already spent more than intended on various toys. I suppose my thought pattern was along the lines of making it easier. One could even say cheating…

I bought a dildo. Nothing special, just 5 insert able inches of artificial veiny goodness. I thought if I could coax an orgasm I might have a better idea of what to look for. Whether I was unable or unwilling to fuck myself hard enough is hard to tell. Out of a handful of uses, once I was pounding away until I just couldn’t, I pulled it out, and the sensations of all those veins coming out caused body wide tingles and I just had to sit there a minute as I felt a wave of peace pass over my body. Otherwise, I generally feel like the dildo just gapes me for another toy.

The toy it prepared me for most would be the first massager I purchased. A vibrating massager that also has a thumping motion. I originally ordered this online without taking the time to consider the most important thing… Circumference. That’s what led me to Aneros. I felt a need to open up a bit to better utilize the vibrator. Once, this vibrating massager had me on the cusp of something amazing. I was in thump mode and had the smallest amount of precum. Literally just enough to fill my cock to the tip… But I lost it. Didn’t go over the edge or anything. Maybe I focused too much? Read more »

Rumel’s Ruminations – Part VI

Hi Guys, the following was taken, several years ago, from the website -> http://electrostrapfist.tumblr.com/…/male-ass-fuck-and-ass-gasm, which, unfortunately, is no longer in existence or I would have just referenced it in my Rumel’s Ruminations – Part V blog entry. I’m glad I copied it because it contains some insightful information which users of this forum may find helpful. I’m sorry I don’t have the authors name to give proper credit but if anyone knows please let me know and I’ll credit them appropriately.

“Male ASS FUCK and ASS GASM” (Found this on another BLOG.) It is a compendium of anal play for men, and from what I have read, in-depth and comprehensive. Should be good for men and women, who want information on the male anal exploration experience! Enjoy.

Male Assfuck and Ass-gasm – (Some notes on Male Assfuck and Ass-gasm, since I have never seen this critical arena of sexual response discussed in detail anywhere, even by radical LGBT sexologists…)

Hard Truths of Male Assfuck
When a man is assfucked whether by cock or strap-on or other toy or tool, whether by male or female, the man’s cock may:
_stay soft, _stay hard, _start soft and finally get hard, _get hard then go soft, _get hard then go soft then get hard again at the end, _whatever the state of his cock, the guy may orgasm or not experience anything like orgasm, and/or…, _may ejaculate or may not ejaculate…!
All variations are possible…! And the next assfuck he receives, if done differently, could produce different results…! Read more »

Straight bros using Aneros – experience & tips ?

Hi,

I have been exploring with the Aneros MGM for almost a month now. I’ve had approx 4 sessions, never got to the super O but definitely improved relaxation, middle/lower muscle contraction and now I get to have pretty good hands free orgasm.

One thing that is still difficult for me is keeping focus / arousal thougths. I can watch porn and get super hard, then when I put the Aneros, I go soft – I usually like to have sexual thoughts related to the feeling I’m getting but here, its a bit tricky lol. I’m mostly straight (a bit curious/bi with experiences in the past but never anal). So far I’ve gotten aroused thinking of m4mw thoughts but get confused/overwhelmed with other thoughts forcing theur way in my head…

Question for straight guy:
1) what is your trick to get horny while having Aneros in your butt ?
2) any tips on how to maximize pleasure ? (Do you do it when wife/girlfriend is home ?) – I smoke weed before and it helps, but I get sooo in my head and start overthinking. I know prostate play is physical and has nothing to do with sexual orientation…but would like to hear a straight’s opinion on this.
3) how did you get to relax mode ? I’m trying Mindgasm, but everytime, I start focusing to much on technique and movement as if I’m in a yoga class or something lol 😅
4) how the hell can people keep both pc muscle and anal muscle contracted for more than 30 sec ? When I do, after 30 sec, I’m no longer sure if both are contracted at all or contracted as strong… and when I force my self to keep them contracted, my body starts shivering (not in a good way, lol it shivers just like when you go for a 2 min planking exercise – like my body wants it to stop) – also not sure what is 20%, 50% , 100% – I mean, should I go strong until it really hurt to consider a 100% level contraction ? Read more »

How to progress from involuntaries

Hi there, I’ve been new to this game and over the last 6 months on and off I’ve attempted possibly 10sessions since I first purchased the helix trident syn.

I’ve attempted and tried a number of the tips that are commonly posted here and have made some progress strengthening the PC muscles etc. The stage I am currently at is that I can (without much effort) cause what I believe to be extended periods of involuntary contractions. These involuntary contractions usually lead to periods where I feel very aroused but that is all. If I focus on these involuntaries sometimes (with my eyes closed and focusing on my breathing) I can cause myself to start spinning but not in a dizzying way. These two results of involuntary contractions are the only progress I have made. I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong, what sensations I should be focusing on to try and achieve p-waves.

I’ve also considered the toy isn’t working for me. When I have tried or my girlfriend has used a finger inside me it has felt like my prostate was actually being stimulated and besides being a nice feeling using the toy and having the involuntary contractions I don’t feel it actually stimulate my prostate or any sort of build up of pleasurable feelings in that area. Where exactly should the pleasure or p-waves originate so I understand where to focus and cultivate them?

Any help anyone can give would be most appreciated.

Best Aneros + fleshlight combo for a new user?

I recently bought a 6″ dildo for anal stimulation, but it does not do it for me. The amount of preparation require for it not to hurt and the amount of finessing it takes to hit my prostate is just not worth it. After doing a lot of research, Aneros seems to be the most efficient way to stimulate the prostate. I have also been looking into fleshlights, but there are no clear resources for picking out a good one. I have seen recommendations for the Tenga 3D, but I’m not sure what makes it better than others. If anyone has recommendations for fleshlights, or has a better resource to find what’s right for me, let me know. I am also wondering what Aneros model is best for me. I am not very experienced with Prostate stimulation. It will mostly but used solo to enhance my orgasms when masturbating, but occasionally with my girlfriend during sex. The site somewhat walks through the models, but it is hard to find what is right for me. Any help would be appreciated!

EDIT: Also, what are some good reccomendations for lube to use with Aneros? I am purchasing some Sliquid Silk which is water and Silicone based – will that be safe to use with an Anerox silicon toy? I have heard some conflicting things about it. Also, what is the best type of lube to use with a fleshlight?

Can achieve aless orgasms, no luck yet with aneros in though

I’ve been experimenting with prostate play for several months now, and have had an aneros for a couple of weeks. So far I have had plenty of interesting, inconsistent, p-wave sensations during sessions with the aneros in, but nothing that I would describe as anywhere near an orgasm. I usually try for an hour or so with just relaxation/contractions but eventually I’ll give in and start stimulating my penis. At this point, I have explosive wet orgasms — and these alone are worth it — but I am still trying to achieve that super O.

But then… the other night I was backpacking with my girlfriend, she was sound asleep next to me in the tent, but I was having a hard time falling asleep. so I started breathing and doing contractions, it didn’t take long at all, maybe 10 or 15 minutes and I was feeling waves of pleasure, my muscles were shaking, and I had to do everything in my power to not moan out loud or wake up my girlfriend. I continued for nearly an hour, cresting to waves of pleasure and cutting it short just before it felt like I was about to lose control. It was amazing! Finally, I couldn’t take it anymore, and I went outside the tent and rubbed one out very quick. After that, I fell into a deep, relaxing sleep. Read more »