I don’t think I am different than most guys )or girls for that matter( in that fantasy plays a large role in my sex life, especially in MMO sessions. Just last night I had a very profoundly pleasurable session, mainly because I had not had a satisfying one in a week. In addition, as it took root I amplified it with a sensually lurid fantasy.
While many people might use fantasy when they make love to their partner, I do not. When I make love to my lady, it is the heat of being there in the moment with her, experiencing the intimate act through her and with her that makes it erotic. It would be counterproductive to imagine being with someone else.
Love making for me is a shared experience. For a love making session to be erotic I need to experience it with her; the emotional and physical sensations that she feels arouse me. I need to be connected with her.
My sex life became more expansive and complex after I was rewired, making love became a profoundly emotional experience, much more than it is a physical experience. In fact if my lady isn’t in the mood to make an emotional connection, we probably will kiss goodnight and call it quits or she will do a hand job on me and I will be happy.