I’ve been practicing prostate play on and off for about 9 months now and last night I had a breakthrough session. I’m gonna give a shout out to everyone who helped me get this far too.
Usually I edge first for quite a while before I put my toy in, but I feel like that was maybe a crutch to help me identify the pleasure in the start and now I can have a session without it. I had this breakthrough without edging, so I think that’s probably important.
So as strange as it may sound, recently I noticed the feeling of what I call a ‘prostate boner’ haha. When I allow my body to clench lightly, it can feel like my prostate is getting hard for a few seconds, like a little wave of pleasure. I’ve usually either been relaxing entirely after that occurs, or tensing too hard and killing it. I followed my body and allowed myself to tense lightly if it wanted to. Then I would relax a little and then follow my body again to clench lightly.
Often this ‘prostate boner’ (or another pleasure wave in the past, I used to get a more general feeling of pleasure in the pelvis) would cause my heart to suddenly beat really hard and fast and this would be so intense that it would scare me and cause everything to end. This has been coined as ‘terror at the gates’.