Tag: Relaxation

Just joining

So my Progasm arrived yesterday. It looks pretty large, but not frighteningly so.

I'm a straight man, married, and very sex-positive. I've been jealous of my wife's multiorgasmic capabilities, and want to see if I can achieve the same either on my own or with her.

I'm inexperienced with anal play. I've had a couple prostate massages that ended in awfully strong orgasms, but I've found that it takes some skill to do that well )others have used fingers inside me and I've not found it pleasurable, usually too rough or jarring(. Since "if you want something done right, do it yourself" makes sense to me, I've decided to give Aneros a try.

So why did I get the Progasm, with so little experience? First, I think I have the temperament and patience to go slow, relax and take my time. Second, the description of that "fuller feeling" matches what I'd like. Third, it sounds as though for an inexperienced person, positioning is easier than with say the Helix. The larger size gives me pause, but as I said I expect to be able to be patient.

So why have I decided to blog this?

First, if I run into difficulties, I'm guessing I'll get some useful input via this mechanism. Second, I'm hoping that in a few months or more, a guy who's a total n00b like I am today, might get some encouragement. Read more »

A first step

So I got the Progasm out to give it a try. I'd gotten a lot of advice, and read a lot of intros etc., so I felt I was as ready as reading could make me. Now it was time to get real.

First was prep. I used a bulb syringe to give my rectum a good wash, repeating until what came out was clean. And I made sure my nails were clean, trimmed and filed smooth.

Then it was time to loosen up the anus. This is pretty much new ground for me, and I got some good advice. I got some anal lube gel )I think it's Wilde Jelle, something like that( and started by massaging the outside of the anus. In a short time it relaxed, so I could put one fingertip in. I continued to massage, until I could get to the inner sphincter. It took about ten minutes, I guess, until I could get two fingers inside to the second knuckle and they were free to move and flex.

Then it was Progasm time.

I used a lube injector to put about 5cc of the anal lube inside. I shot it all in one place, which turned out to be a mistake. I should have drawn the injector out as I pressed the plunger, to distribute the lube better. Read more »

So, what's going on?

Well, I've given Aneros a first exploration. What explains my taking to it so quickly and my current supersensitivity without it in?

I suspect that fifty years of sensual exploration may have a lot to do with it. And my current geezer status with the ED and shortage of semen may have been leading to the facility with dry orgasms. Although I could get what i thought of as female orgasms with nipple play. Just didn't gealize what I had.

Now that I can trigger a p-wave and a super-O just by thinking, I'm wondering whether this gift might be interesting to someone over at the Mayo Clinic here in town. )I've been watching "Masters of Sex" on Showtime.(

Guess I'll quit trying to explore and analyse; pop my helix syn into my tail, relax, and bliss out for a couple of hours.

If you hear someone howling at the moon, it'll be me.

Phase 4: Bathing during Aneros use

So today I tried using the Aneros while in a bath. I thought it would deeply relax me.
Turns out it works pretty good. It's so easy to get in to/hold the right position )on my back, legs bent( while in my bath.
On top of that the warm water made me relaxed me very well.

BUT
One problem with it. I use water-based lube, so it dissolves in water.
So I had to stop after like 30mins because the device was getting uncomfortable

Session Summary:
Positive:
– Creating muscle spasms is getting easier
– Relaxing is getting easier
Negative:
– Water-based lube doesn’t work for long in a bath

Phase 3: Session Disruption & Discomfort

Had a pretty annoying session.
I was in my room, enjoying my aneros. But I wasn't home alone, so people constanly disrupted me.
This really made me stressy and annoyed. + my arousel level dropped to zero.
On top of that the water-based lube seems to dry out too quickly, which causes discomfort.

Didn't get any P-waves or anything, coudn't even let it autofuck me because I wasn't relaxed enough.

Session Summary:
Positive:
– None
Negative:
– All

Phase 2: Successful P-wave

Session was better than last time, I was more relaxed.
Progasm started to autofuck me real good about an hour in to the session.

I felt I was about to orgasm, but my mind was like: "ERROR IllegalArgumentExpection: Prostate not registered as OrgasmProvider" (forgive me, I'm an IT guy).
I did however get a good P-wave out of it.

My muscles were getting tired after that, and I couldn’t get them to spasm so nicely anymore.
I grew impatient and just jerked off to a Super-T.

Session Summary:
Positive
– P-wave
Negative:
– Unable to get prostate orgasm
– Should be calmer and take more time.

Phase 1: Initiation

Welcome welcome welcome, on my blog.
I'll share my experiences here about my journey to become "rewired".

About me:
I'm a 20yr old gay guy, so I've had my share of anal play.
This will hopefully be an advantage on my journey.

Start of Phase 1: Initiation
So I unpacked my first aneros (Progasm), I tought it would be larger but it wasn't (thankfully).
So after lubing up the aneros for the first time, I inserted it and it went in smoothly.
I hear some novice people find it quite big at first. I certainly didn't (first advantage of have anal play experience YAY).

The Progasm was very comfortable inside me, I didn't wait 10 minutes as often said.
I felt it wasn't really necessary.

So I started doing some anal contractions and Kegel exercises. I started feeling it in my prostate. It felt really good.
Now the problem I had was trying to keep the imbalance between the anal and pc muscle.
The more I focused on it, the harder it was.

The session ended with me having a Super-T. No super-o's yet.
I think it was because I wasn't relaxed enough and I couldn't keep my focus on the pleasure (my mind wandered a lot).

Session Summary:
Positive:
– Pleasurable prostate feelings
Negative:
– Not relaxed enough
– Not focused enough

This is absurd

Well, I gave it a rest for a couple of days, and tried the peridise again. After about half an hour of just letting it happen and settling in, I was howling at the moon. )Quietly, my wife was asleep in her room( I was having a super-O every pwave, my consciousness expanding to fill the room, locked with a hard belly for about 20 seconds, and either getting harder into it if I did anal contractions, )like the last involuntary push into her at the end of your ejaculation( or relaxing into convulsive spasms and bounces for about 10 seconds or so.

I was feeling experimental … I know ears are erotic for some people. I flicked my right earlobe a couple of times and it set off a pwave. WOW! About 15 years ago, I was off on a new job and separated from the family; so I did a lot of experimentation with my sensuality. I could ejaculate by jacking off the forefinger of my left had. I guess there was enough conditioned reflex from the right hand stroking it. So, for the hell of it; I tried giving that finger a blow job, and just licking the tip was enough to set me off. Read more »

Second ride, Helix Syn

Well, after my first helix ride last week, I was feeling pretty beat-up around the prostate, and figured I'd let myself recover for a week before trying it again. I had a couple of sessions with the smallest peridise, and the peaks were not as they had been. )Still very nice(. Including a wet one Saturday night.

But, last night, my tail seemed to be in fine fettle, and yearning for something substantial. So, very late, I prepared , lubed, and inserted. I don't have total control yet; twice the helox squirted out as I rolled over from position to position. That may have lubed the perineum tab; so It didn't anchor. But i was in no state to calmly examine it.

After about 20 minutes, I was in a blissed-out state; cruising along at about 7 out of 10, peaking with superO's on the waves that I was in no shape to count. After )I guess( about an hour, I decided it was time to ejaculate; so I gave it a shot. Having an old reproductive system producing scant bodily fluids, I didn't load up and fire, bit I did have a yummy one, releasing the shot of relaxing and happiness hormones that we all know so well. Read more »

Miscellaneous

My best sessions are on awakening, I'm relaxed, breathing easy, quiet, focused on my body and ready to receive pleasure. These are asexual sessions which means I'm not turned on or stimulating myself in any way. I figure I'm aroused by the life force within me or whatever you want to call it. It's something that's with me all the time but is hard for me to access when my brain is engaged. During the day when I have a session, the force is with me but seems to be muted, I'm guessing because of mental distractions. I need erotic stimulation to access the orgasmic feelings during day sessions and even so, it's not the same. they're both wonderful, just different.

Tonight I experimented with a new lube administration, shea butter through a syringe and a butt plug. I got the syringe and plug combo from Rite Aide which they sell as a liquid medication dispenser for babies. I guess the butt plug is actually supposed to represent a nipple for the infant to suck on but I re-purposed it. It's a conical tip that one puts on the end of the syringe, and has a hole through it for passage of the med. It fits in my rear perfectly up to but not past the first sphincter. I take the plunger out, heat the barrel of the syringe in warm water, then push it into the jar of shea butter to fill it. Then I replace the plunger, push the butter to the tip, put the butt plug on the tip and it's then ready to go for my next session. The rest is self-explanatory.