Tag: Relaxation

Stuck on a plateau? Here’s what finally worked for me, no substances or special tricks needed

Some background: I’ve been using Aneros on and off since November. I’ve been practicing kegels regularly since then, too. In that time, I’ve had one strong prostate orgasm, a few weak ones, and a lot of “close but not there” frustration. The strong orgasm I had happened maybe a month in while drunk and I had very little idea what I was doing or what was working. I couldn’t replicate it at all.

I was frustrated that I had to fantasize hard or really focus on porn to feel like I’m getting “close”, or that I had to drink or be on some other substance. The former is a bit of a strain and the latter is not something you want to make a habit.

Now, I’ve been spending a few hours on Aneros each day since Friday, and I haven’t masturbated since last Tuesday. I think that helped. I use the Aneros Helix Syn with a fairly large amount of lube (I use a lube shooter). I didn’t do any special relaxation technique, nor did I try any nipple play.

What finally worked for me was:

1. Sitting on the bed, knees bent and up, legs kind of spread outward so your knees can be together without them tipping over

2. Listening to music. Any music on youtube that claims to be good for meditating, relaxing, or focusing should be fine. I think it helps keep part of your brain occupied Read more »

Which aneros works the best for you?

While I think arousal and relaxation are bigger factors, different shaped aneros give me different results. I started with a helix trident and I feel like it originally gave me the most intense sensations, but it tends to be inconsistent for whatever reason. I also have a eupho which feels good but never got much out of it until my fast few sessions with it.

Last two times I have used the eupho I was moaning into my pillow for 15 minutes straight. I think the more you use the aneros the more control you get over the device. Because the eupho is so thin, its harder to control and it takes more muscle control to be able to “relax into it”

I have a progasm but besides the novelty of being filled up, it doesn’t do anything for me in terms of dry o sensations. I know some people swear by them but for me its more like a buttplug for me. I feel like its using a stick of dynamite to dig a hole when you can just a shovel.

I use to feel that lots of lube was super necessary, but I have achieved my best sessions with using mild-moderate amounts of lube. Little on my finger, little on the device put it in and take it out once or twice and Im good to go. IMO too much lube is like jerking off with too much lube. I also find too much lube trigger the feeling of having to use the bathroom.

Spontaneous sessions while living with partner

I’ve been using my aneros for a couple of years now and am slowly but surely making progress. However, as I live with my partner and generally have a lower libido nowadays I almost always plan my sessions in advance rather than when I get the spontaneous urge. This usually means that I’m usually not particularly aroused and not always relaxed when I begin.

Eventually my arousal will build, but I don’t think it’s a coincidence that my two best sessions have happened spontaneously rather than when I had planned my session.

I rarely get spontaneous urges, but when I do I would like to be able to pursue them and capitalise on the pleasure. It just feels a bit inconsiderate to my partner to say that I’m horny and need to not be disturbed for a few hours. How do others that live with partners get around this?

My Journey- New sensations

So a few nights ago, I had my first experience with the wild animal within breaking its restraints and taking over for a while. I still did not acheive Super O, but the pleasure was intense enough to keep me awake for about 5 hours straight. The next day I experienced the involuntary contractions all the way until I had settled in back at home for the night. I was super excited to try and spark things back up that night, but I was just too damn tired. I put the toy in had paid for [Mindgasm.net](https://Mindgasm.net) pro access and readied myself up to try the internal flame 60 minute session ……..and fell asleep within minutes. I did end up waking back up determined to keep my high going. But I missed out on keeping the involuntaries going because they had dissapeared after i slept. However, I still went forward with the Internal flame and was shocked at the new feelings. It was completely different from the night before and I feel like there is a link between the two that I might have had if I was able to keep the involuntaries going on top of it. The new feeling was just this incredible awareness of the buzzing/warm feeling in my center that led up into my abdomen. It eventually translated into this clenching in my stomache muscles that would build up all the way as high into my chest as they could. My entire back clenched so much that my muscles are sore and sometimes it would force my butt cheeks to clench as well. My foot cramped up a few times from clenching i think too. I tried to force myself to relax and a few times it would work, but it felt wrong to do so. Eventually i just let the clenching build as much as it wanted to. I believe i’m on the right track, but i think i needed a bit more movement from involuntaries. I felt so close the time before last, but now i feel like I just need to tie in the two sessions together and I might actually get there. I’ve felt so close to losing control completely and even just thinking about the peak gets me excited. I just feel like I need about 12 hours straight to make it happen *facepalm*…… Hoping you guys can confirm i’m still on the right track. Maybe someone can relate. I thought my damn wife took a long time to orgasm sometimes, but damn…. this is crazy. I’m going to have to drop every other hobby i have in favor of “sleeping” all day. I feel like Goku about to go Super Saiyan for the first time. I just need to figure out the final trigger that sets me off for the first time…..

First true Super – O

Hello everyone,

ive waited now till the next morning now to write about my experience.

So i was watching some porn for the extra arousal, but i was aroused before. Then i went into my bedroom and inserted the helix trident (plastic version) as i dont like the syn version.

Like always after 5mins everything was feeling already good and buzzing around my prostata..i had some small – o’s. I tried to relax and and breath slowly and totally enjoy it.

Then it happend, something felt different this time and i had wonderful warm feeling in my prostata and then it spread around my body. My head felt it was spinning, i was floating, i had such a rock Hard on and it felt like was pumping and cumming but more internally. Idk for how long this continued but it seemed like an enternity…like wow i couldnt believe it. Even when my mind wandered around and i opend my eyes it got back to this sensation.

After that i stayed with these wonderfull feelings and had some nice smaller dry-o’s with some oozing of precum/prostata fluid.

For the method i used the Do nothing and just enjoy the feelings…

And holy… while typing this i had a small O….

Idk if i can get back to normal sex lol

Contracting muscles yes or no

I’ve seen a few different discussion of this but none seem to be definitive. I imagine it is different for each person as well but-

Do I contract my pelvic floor at all or any muscle for that matter?

Or do I simply just relax and breath and regular breathing is want most the Aneros to stimulate the prostate?

Thinking of Going Mostly Aless

Thinking of giving up the toy use and sticking to mostly Aless (no toy) sessions.

Fairly new user, of just a few months. Was super dedicated when I first got my syn model. Same as most here while learning, some decent vibes, some dud sessions, nothing mind blowing. I DID however begin to become more aware of my prostate and the feelings from down there other than the normal dick sensations.

I developed the ability to have multiple prostate o’s by focusing, breathing, flexing…all completely Aless at first.

One night, I had a breakthrough with the toy. The involuntaries/muscle tug-of-war started and gave me my first super-o. I’ve had some of the auto pumping sensations from the toy as well.

Since then, my Aless sessions have been off the charts…multiple o’s, some nights multiple super-o’s, at times almost begging for my body to stop so I can catch my breath only to roll into the next insane peak.

Each time I use the toy, there’s alot of anticipation, planning, buildup. My living situation requires a certain level of descretness, so using the toy takes planning. I feel like by the time I lay everything out and get setup, my brain is just all over the place and I cant fully relax with the toy in.

The toy also feels alot more mechanical where my Aless sessions seem alot more mental/spiritual w/e…that may be a reflection of my mindset when using the toy. Read more »

Humping the aneros

So I notice for me on my back or side . It takes Super long to get going with feelings to build . But if I get into doggy style with the toy in. I immediately start having interesting sensations . a rush comes my heart starts to race with body starting to tense up with pleasure . My lower half starts to hump uncontrollably. The wider I spread my legs the more intense it gets . Feels good then fades . I wait couple mines and do it over and over again .
Now I’m hot and bothered . But don’t want to touch my penis .

I sit on a chair while the toy is in . The motion starts to happen like on doggy style . Except I feel the toy hitting the spot that’s intense . I start to auto hump feels good . My penis gets partial hard with the tip feel sensitivity builds . I try to relax and not clench but it’s hard . I soon feel orgasm but it’s slow and tons of cum comes out . I still feel horny after but I never keep going . I’m tired . What do you think is happening ? Any tips .

Buzzing all the time now

A bit of background!

I’ve been exploring prostate play almost daily for the last two years. I started out with a 4-sized plug kit—the same plugs I first had a super-o with at my initiation into prostate play when I subbed for a femme hookup. It was an incredible experience to spend hours just slowly massaging and working up.

I’ve never had the same super-o again, but have learned so much and rewired extensively with other plugs and toys. For a while, I have been hooked on anal orgasms that come from thrusting and girth.

But I missed the delicacy that lead to the super—o. I got a progasm last week, and the sessions are incredible.

During a lot of anal play in the past, I wouldn’t get an erection at all. I would leak, and have p-waves, and sometimes dry o’s.

With the progasm, I am rock hard almost the entire time. I didn’t know I could leak that much seminal fluid. I’m a wet mess after 30 minutes of just breathing and light kegels.

Better yet, it feels so much healthier? My prostate is buzzing all the time. Every day. All day. There’s an extremely comforting relaxation and stretch that remains after my sessions.

I think I’m going to hang up my other toys for a while! I just feel so connected to my own body these days, and am really impressed with how well the progasm is shaped to turn me into a mess

Do wet prostate orgasms have refractory period? I just had the most INTENSE ORGASM of my life. But it was sadly a wet one :(

I was using an aneros. NOthing else at all. Literally just laying there doing nothing.

I’m wondering wether wet prostate orgasms have refractory?

I think the question would be wether it’s a normal orgasm though or just prostate fluid right?? Because from what I think is that if it’s prostate only fluid then it can be done multiple times?? But if not then I can’t?

It was ridiculously intense tho seriously Whole body was shaking

It was the same orgasm type I get when I manually use something to prostate but this is the first time I done something hands free.

I mean technically tbh I’m not unhappy lol but it’s just how come I can only seem to have these ones?

It built up REALLLLLLLLLY SLOW that’s why it was ridiculously intense

I’m wondering wether I should of relaxed more consciously to not go over the edge? Then would that be classes as a dry orgasm right? Because I feel like maybe I could of done if I was concentrating enough because it built up so slow