“Achieving A Balance”

{This blog post was inspirerd by @GettingThere}

Background
A question recently raised by @GettingThere on the Forum piqued my curiosity:

“Should we treat prostate stimulation as a multiple day activity?”

This got me thinking….I have changed my use of “chastity cups” recently so that I do not necessarily sleep in one every night. It is helping me to get a “better” night’s sleep. But along with that change comes other changes. For one, when I am awakened by a night-time erection, I have a “new” feeling I now must endure—that of a powerful, stimulating erection (and I am not wearing a chastity cup—what to do?) It may last upwards of a half-hour or more. I would be tempted to alleviate this arousal with an ejaculation; but since I incorporate “semen retention” (SR) into my daily sexual routine, I really don’t want to do it.

Where Is The Balance?
Obviously, for me, I need to ejaculate periodically. I am subject (as a lot of other guys) to the “blue-balls” feeling if I am too aroused and do not ejaculate at regular intervals. That duration could be anywhere from 7 to 14 days (usually about 7-9 days now). What happens during that interval?

My massage therapist

I had a scheduled appointment with my massage therapist this week for a full body massage. While lying on the table we talked as we usually do about different subjects. I was lying on my stomach and she was massaging my entire left side which she had uncovered she she told me that she had sent away for an aneros toy and gave it to her boyfriend as a present. We had talked about it as a method a draining the prostate before. She seemed eager to discuss it so I encouraged her to do so!
She explained that last weekend she prepared the befroom with candlelight and soft music and awaited her boyfriend to enter. He did totally naked and llaid dfacedown on yhe bed. She lubed the helix and inserted into his rectum. She told me that she massaged him while he attempted to have an aneros orgasm. She told me that eventually she turned him over and to her surprise the sheets were wet and his cock was oozing precum. After a frontal massage and a time enjoying his toy stimulating his prostate she helped him ejaculate by gently touching his cock. She told me he literally exploded shooting cum in the air. She thanked me for introducing her to aneros!
She had finished massaging my entire back by now and asked me to turn over under the drape. I did and my cock which had been pinned down under my belly saluted like a soldier, oozing off precum. She said my my I guess my little encounter aroused you. I was embarassed but she said no worries and removed the drape exposing my erection. She proceeded to massage me never touching my manhood which aroused me even more and caused my precum to flow.
After she had finished my massage I told her that I was so aroused and intended to do something about it as my spouse was going out for the evening and I would have the entire night to myself. She asked if I was going to attempt an aneros orgasm and I said yes and she said enjoy!

Riding the Rail

I have had a blog on and off for 14 years. My blogs have been both here and in other forums and on Word Press. Between all 4 blogs I had 10,000 subscribers and 800 pages (single space) of 600 + entries. That 14 year written log was a weekly diary of my sex life, what I was thinking, doing and feeling during that entire time. It also inspired a complete erotic novel and 2 others that are in the works.

That written record has been incredibly useful to me now as a tool to read and reflect on where I have been, what experiences I had and what I learned. All of the times, dates and details I have written here in this latest blog came from that written record. The timeline nature of this blog and the perspective that I am offering in these entries is a summary of lessons learned. In the context of all the entries I came to realization that my 9th year was a turning point in my journey.

New experience

Just received my first Aneros message toy. I’ve read everything on the g spot so I kinda understand it. I followed information and had a relaxing evening and cleaned myself, shaved and showered. Room temp up and lights out. Here I go. Relaxed, breathing and lubed. Felt with my finger to get familiar. Couldn’t feel my g spot. Inserted my new friend and got no resistance. Just like stated it’s like it came home. Perfect shape. It almost pulled from my fingers. I tried the side position leg straight other bent. Pulsating muscles and feeling where it is taking my time. Tried on my back knees bent. Tried squatting to feel change. Even tried standing and that feeling was good.
Question to the experience, I’m assuming I’m feeling the right spot do you just keep pressure there or bump and grind it?
Anyway, I spent about 3 hours feeling around. Got some good feelings but I’ll keep trying.

Okay session today

Been fighting some bronchitis so I’m a little weak and tired. Had some nice SO’s but nothing like the last two session.

Put the nipple suckers on for a while afterwards and inserted the big butt plug. Actually had a couple mini-SO’s with the butt plug while lying on the bed face down! Interesting. Plug stretches me so far there is no real movement when I try to maneuver it like the Aneros.

New position. Face down with a couple of pillows under my hips. Something about getting the ass in the air really improved things. Want to try this on a well rested morning session!

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Experiments & Hypotheses

Turned the heat up higher than usual, kept the bedroom nice and warm so that I wouldn’t have to worry about clothes, covers, or chills. Did some yoga breathing, then added gentle flexing and relaxing of anal muscles with them. No precum yet, but my body was relaxed and ready – been looking forward to this since the last session.

Used the same amount of lube and massaged some in, then put a layer on the device. My body was eager to take it in; it pulled it in to the first bulb with little resistance. With some gentle muscle movements, eventually it slid in just on the cusp of the last bulb, which stayed half inside and half outside of my outer sphincter. Started out on my back again, with legs bent, and small movements and contractions felt good. Squatted for a while again, which had a similar effect as last time, kind of encouraging my anus, inner sphincter, and rectum to wake up. Tried lying with my legs up at a right angle, resting on a cushion (a forum user really likes this position with the Peridise), but after a while of trying it out, it really wasn’t doing much for me.

The Tempo is a TRUE treasure

So I woke up fairly early this morning. 5:17am to be exact. I was laying down actually reading through the whole Jeff Bezos scandal with AMI. All the slutty details. My mind started to ponder…if this guy had an Aneros (he could buy the entire company if he wanted)…it would probably solve his problem at 54 years old.

Then I thought to myself…well…I havent had a session in a few days…lets start with some Aless…

Almost immediately I was in a pleasure state. Which basically signaled to me…An Aneros model will be a must to take advantage of my aroused state. Dashed to my top drawer…looked over the models…the box with the Temp basically exploded in my face. I lubed it up and slid it in. Went back to the couch. Closed my eyes and I let the dark of the morning just come over me.

The temp really has a mind of its own. It seems to be the one device that has zero thought of relenting. It stays on top of my prostate and literally I am in a constant state of super-O….the intensity changes…it goes down and just becomes a murmur…and then a moment later it skyrockets into exquisite and intense waves of orgasmic pulsing. It makes me wimper and sweat and my cock twitches ever so slightly when it kisses my prostate. This lasted for an hour. I am sweat drenched…had to change all of my clothes….right down to the underwear…and now as I write this I’m just overcome with Aless waves knowing full well the Tempo and I are not done for today…

Exciting progress!

The last few days were not achieving much. A few little buzzes but nothing at all like I’d been experiencing last weekend. So I went back to then and determined what had worked and also did some more reading. In the Archives, Rumel had a post called Instructions. After reading it thoroughly, I realized I was getting in too much of a hurry. And after posting a question about my Progasm popping out, BigGlansDC reminded me that I have to keep working on the kegels. So I did my usual routine and got into bed did 15 minutes of deep breathing exercises. Before I was finished, I had become used to the Progasm being in place and could no longer feel it being there. Then I started about 20-30 anal contractions as per the instructions. And then, onto the next stage of doing hard deep contractions and holding them through several breaths, until my pelvis and upper legs started to shake. I did at least 30 of these and then began to relax, but remembering what BigGlansDC had said about kegels, I remembered to keep a little contraction going, just enough to hold the Progasm in. As I do more kegels through the day, every day, I’m hoping to get to the point where I don’t even realize that I’m doing a small contraction to hold it in place. When I get to that point, I’ll be able to take that focus away and give it to my prostate sensations.
Well, wow! It wasn’t long before I could feel contractions happening all on their own! This peristalsis was rocking that Progasm all by itself, leaving me with nothing to do but face and embrace the oncoming wave.
I could feel a wave of energy emanating from my prostate/pelvis upwards through my abdomen. My package felt felt like it was wet, and indeed, I could feel true wet coming from the tip of my penis. As I relaxed even more, I forced myself to keep breathing, and ended up panting. As the wave moved through my chest, I could feel another wave starting in my head. When it was pretty much all consuming, I lost sense of everything around me. My eyelids were flickering. I could hear the inside of my mouth making a sound like pop rocks fizzing, but without the taste or feeling. My head felt like it was turning to see things around me, but my head wasn’t moving and my eyes weren’t seeing. This went for at least 2 minutes. When it began to ease, I refocused my mind, so to speak, on my prostate and I could feel the wave coming again. Again with the wetness, both real and imagined. Again with everything. This happened 4 times in total, and then 2 or 3 times to a lesser degree. After about 5 minutes, I started contractions again, and again I felt it start up. I did this cycle about 3 times, and although the second and third cycles were good, they weren’t quite as good as the first.
I found that inhaling in deep in the abdomen, and finishing my exhale quickly would start the wave and then I could focus on it and where it was coming from. Almost like pulling something that was already moving.
I had promised myself last week that I would let today be my day to have a T.O., but I’m not sure if want to do that. Although I do get horny again pretty quickly afterwards. Part of me wants to keep this up. I’ll have another session tonight and see what I feel like. Then I may hold off a few days until my Helix Syn finally arrives.

Relearn, Rewiring for 2019

I decided to make an effort to relearn/rewire my prostate orgasm this year
Due to stress and hectic life, I have noticed I started to get lazy to prime myself for a good session
Instead, I getting more frequent having my prostate massaged together with penile stimulation
This caused some quick and fast intense super-T and slowly corrupted my previous learning about ‘pure’ prostate orgasm
I have tried all of the aneros models that I could but the sensation without penile stimulation slowly diminished until I could not longer bring myself to super-O without stroking.

I started to miss full body orgasm that caused me to spasm and convulse recently and could not wait to reawaken my prostate again! So, from now on, no more penile stim while my prostate being rubbed

“No Guarantee”

[Some erotic language; readers be aware]

Introduction
Over the past 3 years, I have thoroughly enjoyed my Aneros sessions. Some have been mind-blowing while others have been duds. Why the sudden switch in sensations? I don’t know for sure but I thought about this after this morning’s session. Let me explain….

Session
Yesterday, I had a nice, thorough Aless stim of my “lower” region, especially when sitting-down. I felt that my prostate was “begging” me for a session. Well, I couldn’t have it then and so I put it out of my mind. Early this morning, while still wearing only my PJs (I did this all week), I awoke with a semi-stiff erection and yet my prostate was still nudging me onward! I listened and almost immediately I got the sense that it “wanted” the Helix-Trident. A good choice? I was a little doubtful, since my last few sessions with it were less than stellar. Anyway, I obliged, lubed-up and began. I also put-on my Mueller cup just for good measure.

My! Right from the start, the HT nestled-right-in where it belonged, with the P-tab and K-tab pressing where they should. I lied-down on my right side, left knee slightly raised and began to relax. A nice progression of feelings, and I knew I was generating some precum. Then, about mid-way through this 30-minute session, something unexpected happened!