Tag: Aneros

Step 2: Go back to step 1, dumbass.

Insertion has never been an issue. I learned long ago how to do that without discomfort. I learned that my body can occasionally be fussy and uncooperative, and coercing it into submission is never useful or satisfying. Stoicism is a loathsome quality.

I started regular practice with the helix in April 2015. Practice sessions have been been easily integrated into my daily schedule, and have provided good reasons to abandon some less rewarding activities.

Much of the aneros new-user training material is devoted to breathing. The advice “keep breathing” is ubiquitous within the literature, and the word “relax” echoes endlessly. My first sessions were application of this advice.

Establishing and maintaining a comfortable deep-breathing cadence required more concentration and effort than I would have thought. I learned that I have a tendency to stop breathing while examining sensations. My mind presses a notional pause button to freeze the action and investigate. Some of my novel internal tingles at this first stage were partially attributable to mild hypoxia.

The second style of advice I found in the training material is that deliberate squeezing of muscles is not useful. My first tries with the MGX had obviously gone off the rails from the start, but I don't believe it was pointless. So long as the trainee understands that tensing muscles is not an orgasm cheatcode, the urge to flex should not be discouraged. Coarse movement is a necessary step in identifying separate muscles and refining their control. Read more »

I tried so hard, and got so far, but in the end I couldn’t shoot.

So I got an aneros two days ago. Tried it today in the bath. Things went sorta ok. I enjoyed the sensation but the real breakthrough was about an hour later when I said "fuckit" and ignored the recommendation to not touch the aneros and just use contractions. I basically began moving it back and forth with the little curled handle, and that's when it got great. I started to get that feeling in my penis that you get either when you are right about to pee or right about to cum. However I could not get past that about to cum feeling and actually cum from the sensation. I tried speeding up the rhythm and I tried keeping it steady but nothing could get me over the edge. In the end I ended up giving up and just stroked my dick while moving the aneros and it was pretty great, but I still want to get a hands-free orgasm. Does anyone have any advice for my next attempt?

Tell me what you remember about…

I have difficulty maintaining journals and blogs, but I do enjoy writing them. The tension between creating an accurate, clinical record of events and embellishing them into a readable narrative creates a unique thrill. I think this one deserves to start with a splash of personal history.

Anal play has always been a part of my sexual life. Long ago, while hanging out at a girlfriend's house after school, she abruptly told me to take off my pants and lay down on my stomach. I asked for some explanation, and she revealed a long, fat, tapered candle she had silently retrieved from the dining room. My eager compliance with her demand frightened both of us a little. Our second penetrative experience together was, in two ways, a literal inversion of the first.

I first learned about aneros through a written story many years ago–so many that it might have been in a print magazine. The story was told in the perspective of a man in a BDSM relationship. His domina plugged a bizarrely curled plastic dong she named “aneros” into him, then issued a series of commands to tense and release his sphincter. He repeatedly begged for permission to orgasm, but she ordered him not to. Predictably, the story ended with a moment of disobedience and a fountain of semen.

The story planted the name of the apparatus in my mind. The hands-free orgasm was less interesting than being able to cum in quarts. After all, ejaculation is the whole point of orgasm, and more of one must mean more of the other, right? Read more »

Help! Stalled and where the F$*K is my sweet spot???

Wow, this is incredibly frustrating.

Some moments of p-wave bliss… Hours of nada. Hours of spent time.

And when you do that and dont eat or drink as much, an interesting by-product is weight loss! I've taken off 6lbs/2.4kg this week. Not entirely Aneros related but spending hours contorted in frustrating tension, you miss eating and drinking. The loss has been dramatic and I'm recovering from the dehydration now. Remember to eat and drink , ?

So, what else has been happening- picked up the MGX to try it. My thinking was my prostate isn't engorging )so I guess(, so maybe something larger than the Eupho? The Helix Syn never did much and the Progasm doesn't move so let's see what the MGX can do- nope! Conclusion: Eupho is my favorite, delivers more sensation consistently which I attribute to its thin/long design allowing it to move more.

Where the F$^K is my sweet spot?
I thought I had it, but after no increase, I decided to go hunting again. Seriously… Cant find it and I've tried all the suggestions in the Fourm and blogs. Anyone out there with more tips ???

So other than becoming frustrated, not much progress beyond p-waves that are low to just below moderate. I can only judge level by comparing to a normal orgasm as being similar for a mini-O, so on a scale 1-10, am able to get to 4 and an occasional 6-7. Read more »

Past Anal-Play History and Introduction

hello there!

I thought I’d also track my journey to the Super-O. Also, since this is an incredibly personal journey, there isn’t anyone I can share with – except for you and this community. Thank you for being there for me and thank you to all the previous posters in the forums and blogs- I have learned huge amounts about my body, the potential experience and your intimate teachings.

So… Every journey must have a beginning… And as I eagerly await my 3 new arrivals tomorrow, let me start from the beginning. …

I’m a 47 yr heterosexual married father… But my wife is not GGG )never very sexual( and so I have always sought release through multiple other avenues. I travel a lot internationally and have safely played but never the intimacy i seek. I have always been “in touch” with my anus and found my internal prostate a few years ago. Not frequently but always enjoyed the addition of a finger while masturbating. I have also tried penile estim which was very interesting but the contraption and setup never made it easy or spontaneous. I also tried an Aneros long ago but didn’t give it the proper time and understanding… So I binned it. Read more »

Is anyone here locked in chastity?

I am a newbie to all of this but my first Aneros is coming on Tuesday. I have been reading and researching but I can't wait to really get to try! I read that it helps to abstain from ejaculatory orgasm but I am wondering if this seems to be most people's experience? I personally am locked in a chastity cage for my girlfriend 24/7 and I am wondering if my extended denial may help me in my Aneros journey! I have a very cheap prostate stimulator but I have not had a serious amount of pleasure with it, hence the reason for starting my Aneros journey.

Odds and Ends

-Last blog post I made mention of a stuttering issue I was having with the vibrator in the Vice. I had hoped that I fixed it by slightly pushing down the bottom section of the vibrator. While it worked well for a couple sessions, the stuttering came back and was significantly worse, to the point where it would effectively end my sessions when it happened. It wouldn't happen right away, usually after an hour or so of use. It then occurred to me that it really only happens after I switch batteries. That's when I realized what the problem was…..I use rechargeable batteries and I always start with the same battery (for no real reason other than routine). For some reason, that battery works OK (only very occasional stuttering) but the other 3 rechargeable batteries I own cause the vibrator to stutter often. I had a couple non-rechargeable batteries handy and gave those a try in the next couple sessions. Sure enough, the vibrator worked flawlessly both times. I did read that it is not recommended to use rechargeable batteries with the Vice, but was hoping that buying high quality rechargeables (Eneloop) would still work. That apparently is not the case. While the rechargeable batteries worked well for the first several recharges, it looks like after a while they aren't able to produce the steady current needed to keep the vibrator running at a constant speed. Even the one battery that was working fine was started to produce the same stuttering as the others, though not nearly as bad. So now I am testing out various non-rechargeable batteries to see which ones work best and can be purchased relatively cheaply (Duracell is the early leader). Read more »

Starting Notes

Figured I'd put my notes on my blog instead of in a Word file. These may be disjoint. Some just random.

Got a Helix about a week ago and just got a Vice (BEAST) yesterday.

I'm not sure yet what can be called a Mino/Micro-O, but I think I've experienced some of those. Am SURE I haven't seen any Super-Os yet!!

My Notes:
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My first Orgasm type Experience )Just with Perineum Massage alone(

When I started chasing the big SO, I started out with prostate massaging for like 20 min then perineum massaging my sweet spot for another 20–30 min. Best I can tell, there’s a spot ON the north rim of my anus sphincter (my Button) that connects movements there straight to the prostate. And after a while of massaging/twiggling it, the whole ring of nerves there engorges and gets bigger and stiff (like the penis erecting, but of course on a much smaller scale..) Also there’s a point on the top of the perineum cord about an inch or so north of the “Button” which if pressed, greatly magnifies the connection to the prostate. So I end up doing a two finger salute to twiggle there.

So that was my perineum massage. Twiggling those two spots. Got lots of great feelings from the perineum massage, almost nothing from the prior prostate massage, and definitely nothing I could remotely call an orgasm let alone Super–O. So after getting nowhere that evening, I just stopped, rolled over and went to sleep. Read more »

Older guys, what worked for you?

I am a 45 year old straight guy who suffers from occasional hemorrhoids. I have up until this point never really done much anal play. I have experimented here and there with fingers but never got anything out of it and thought it just was not for me. I am fairly open about sex but just never got much from anal play. Recently though I ran across the Aneros site after reading about it while browsing /sex, which, by the way, not sure you younger guys realize just what a treasure having all this info at your fingertips is. Wish I had that resource when I hit puberty! At any rate. After reading about the therapeutic effects of prostate massage and it's benefits, that it helps with prostate health, hemorrhoids, and the awesome pleasure, I decided to give it a try. I bought a few cheap massagers but none of them did much of anything. After browsing Aneros for awhile, I decided to try one out. I bought a Helix Syn and have had 10 or so sessions with it in the last month or so. I am in a relationship and have not shared this with my wife yet, though if it goes well, I will. Just not ready to share this yet. That does limit the times I have to play around with it. The first session I immediately got mild P-waves, which, while not close to intense, was a result I had never gotten before. Second session more P-waves at about the same intensity. Both times it started off well and then tapered away as I tried to control things or focused on form too much. Some sessions not much of anything happened, then the last few sessions things seemed to progress a bit. One session I had my first involuntaries, which were interesting but not necessarily pleasurable. Then the last session I seemed to zero in more on which muscles to use and which ones to relax and felt the first stirrings of good sensation, including Pwaves, involuntaries and the tingling. All were fleeting and only happened a few times, but I see progress. reading this sub, the forums on Aneros and the Wiki really helped. The Tug of War method from the Wiki was what helped with the correct muscles to use and I noticed that the less is more approach really helped. I am just fighting a lifetime of muscle memory from traditional orgasms and sex but I can see where the rewiring comes in. Quite awhile back I discovered nipple play and that has been fantastic and the wife takes full advantage of it as do I. That definitely seems to help. My usual method is to wait until after a BM, then get out the Helix and lube up with Vaseline, Coconut oil and water based lube. I do plan on ordering unrefined Shea Butter to see how that works. I have tried lots of positions. The best results seem to come from being on my back with a pillow under my butt, knees straight up with feet on the bed. Standing, walking, sideways or on all fours did not seem to do much of anything. I can tell that I need to strengthen muscles that have seem little use ever to get further down the road. I am excited about the journey. I would love to hear from other older men on their experiences getting started with prostate massage and what worked for them. I wish I had come across this when I was younger and orgasms were still mind blowing experiences. As I have gotten older they have lessened in intensity and I find myself trying to find more and more ways to turn things on, though things are still quite enjoyable. Looking forward to the path ahead!

First Aneros Purchase, Second Prostate Stimulator

I currently have a small cheap Prostimulator VX1 that I bought about 6 months ago and have enjoyed using, although I am well aware it is by no means a high quality purchase. I have never experienced a fully hands free orgasm, but I am very intrigued. I feel that I know how to "work" the toy within me, but it doesn't seem to be enough for me. I am a heavier-set man and feel that I may need something a little larger. I realize that size does not correlate with pleasure with Aneros devices but I am curious. I have been looking at the Progasm Jr because it is a different size and shape than the toy I have now. Does anyone have any advice or experiences? I am not able to have any penile stimulation for other reasons (PM if you really want to know why), so I am eager to try to discover more pleasure from my prostate! Thanks!