I am a newbie to all of this but my first Aneros is coming on Tuesday. I have been reading and researching but I can't wait to really get to try! I read that it helps to abstain from ejaculatory orgasm but I am wondering if this seems to be most people's experience? I personally am locked in a chastity cage for my girlfriend 24/7 and I am wondering if my extended denial may help me in my Aneros journey! I have a very cheap prostate stimulator but I have not had a serious amount of pleasure with it, hence the reason for starting my Aneros journey.
Tag: Prostate
Odds and Ends
-Last blog post I made mention of a stuttering issue I was having with the vibrator in the Vice. I had hoped that I fixed it by slightly pushing down the bottom section of the vibrator. While it worked well for a couple sessions, the stuttering came back and was significantly worse, to the point where it would effectively end my sessions when it happened. It wouldn't happen right away, usually after an hour or so of use. It then occurred to me that it really only happens after I switch batteries. That's when I realized what the problem was…..I use rechargeable batteries and I always start with the same battery (for no real reason other than routine). For some reason, that battery works OK (only very occasional stuttering) but the other 3 rechargeable batteries I own cause the vibrator to stutter often. I had a couple non-rechargeable batteries handy and gave those a try in the next couple sessions. Sure enough, the vibrator worked flawlessly both times. I did read that it is not recommended to use rechargeable batteries with the Vice, but was hoping that buying high quality rechargeables (Eneloop) would still work. That apparently is not the case. While the rechargeable batteries worked well for the first several recharges, it looks like after a while they aren't able to produce the steady current needed to keep the vibrator running at a constant speed. Even the one battery that was working fine was started to produce the same stuttering as the others, though not nearly as bad. So now I am testing out various non-rechargeable batteries to see which ones work best and can be purchased relatively cheaply (Duracell is the early leader).
Starting Notes
Figured I'd put my notes on my blog instead of in a Word file. These may be disjoint. Some just random.
Got a Helix about a week ago and just got a Vice (BEAST) yesterday.
I'm not sure yet what can be called a Mino/Micro-O, but I think I've experienced some of those. Am SURE I haven't seen any Super-Os yet!!
My Notes:
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My first Orgasm type Experience )Just with Perineum Massage alone(
When I started chasing the big SO, I started out with prostate massaging for like 20 min then perineum massaging my sweet spot for another 20–30 min. Best I can tell, there’s a spot ON the north rim of my anus sphincter (my Button) that connects movements there straight to the prostate. And after a while of massaging/twiggling it, the whole ring of nerves there engorges and gets bigger and stiff (like the penis erecting, but of course on a much smaller scale..) Also there’s a point on the top of the perineum cord about an inch or so north of the “Button” which if pressed, greatly magnifies the connection to the prostate. So I end up doing a two finger salute to twiggle there.
So that was my perineum massage. Twiggling those two spots. Got lots of great feelings from the perineum massage, almost nothing from the prior prostate massage, and definitely nothing I could remotely call an orgasm let alone Super–O. So after getting nowhere that evening, I just stopped, rolled over and went to sleep.
Runaway Freight Train
In the 8 years that I have been a practitioner, I continue to be amazed at the continual learning process involved in anal / prostate orgasm. There seems to be endless opportunity to experiment with stimulation, erotic imagery, and breathing to climb to new heights of pleasure. Each session as I learn more and more I get greater skill at coaxing serene ecstasy from my anus, cock, and perineum.
The key seems to be getting the pleasure to a level that is intense enough that it can fall back into latency, requiring only simple encouragement to get it to reemerge, blossom and express excruciatingly divine euphoria. For me performing A Less it can take me 20 minutes to get to that point; with my Tempo inserted or an N Joy Phun Plug …. It can take 10 minutes.
So after between 10 – 20 minutes of pleasure waves my anus will be primed. In that state I can stop urging the orgasms to rise and fall and leave the erotic sensation to just idle quietly. I can leave the orgasmic ecstasy laying just beneath the surface of my awareness, where it waits for me to release it. When the super o is loaded deep in my anal tract and ready to fire, I can experiment and manipulate it causing indescribable bliss. The hardest part about being poised in that mental – physical state on the verge of super o is maintaining mental clarity and focus and remembering to breathe. I will also sustain erotic images in my mind to keep the pleasure teetering on the edge of an ecstatic precipice. It is all too easy to become totally passive and let my body do what it wants as opposed to being relaxed and aware and consciously controlling what I am doing to keep the orgasmic fire stoked and make pleasure flares soar to yield agonizing orgasmic euphoria.
Older guys, what worked for you?
I am a 45 year old straight guy who suffers from occasional hemorrhoids. I have up until this point never really done much anal play. I have experimented here and there with fingers but never got anything out of it and thought it just was not for me. I am fairly open about sex but just never got much from anal play. Recently though I ran across the Aneros site after reading about it while browsing /sex, which, by the way, not sure you younger guys realize just what a treasure having all this info at your fingertips is. Wish I had that resource when I hit puberty! At any rate. After reading about the therapeutic effects of prostate massage and it's benefits, that it helps with prostate health, hemorrhoids, and the awesome pleasure, I decided to give it a try. I bought a few cheap massagers but none of them did much of anything. After browsing Aneros for awhile, I decided to try one out. I bought a Helix Syn and have had 10 or so sessions with it in the last month or so. I am in a relationship and have not shared this with my wife yet, though if it goes well, I will. Just not ready to share this yet. That does limit the times I have to play around with it. The first session I immediately got mild P-waves, which, while not close to intense, was a result I had never gotten before. Second session more P-waves at about the same intensity. Both times it started off well and then tapered away as I tried to control things or focused on form too much. Some sessions not much of anything happened, then the last few sessions things seemed to progress a bit. One session I had my first involuntaries, which were interesting but not necessarily pleasurable. Then the last session I seemed to zero in more on which muscles to use and which ones to relax and felt the first stirrings of good sensation, including Pwaves, involuntaries and the tingling. All were fleeting and only happened a few times, but I see progress. reading this sub, the forums on Aneros and the Wiki really helped. The Tug of War method from the Wiki was what helped with the correct muscles to use and I noticed that the less is more approach really helped. I am just fighting a lifetime of muscle memory from traditional orgasms and sex but I can see where the rewiring comes in. Quite awhile back I discovered nipple play and that has been fantastic and the wife takes full advantage of it as do I. That definitely seems to help. My usual method is to wait until after a BM, then get out the Helix and lube up with Vaseline, Coconut oil and water based lube. I do plan on ordering unrefined Shea Butter to see how that works. I have tried lots of positions. The best results seem to come from being on my back with a pillow under my butt, knees straight up with feet on the bed. Standing, walking, sideways or on all fours did not seem to do much of anything. I can tell that I need to strengthen muscles that have seem little use ever to get further down the road. I am excited about the journey. I would love to hear from other older men on their experiences getting started with prostate massage and what worked for them. I wish I had come across this when I was younger and orgasms were still mind blowing experiences. As I have gotten older they have lessened in intensity and I find myself trying to find more and more ways to turn things on, though things are still quite enjoyable. Looking forward to the path ahead!
First Aneros Purchase, Second Prostate Stimulator
I currently have a small cheap Prostimulator VX1 that I bought about 6 months ago and have enjoyed using, although I am well aware it is by no means a high quality purchase. I have never experienced a fully hands free orgasm, but I am very intrigued. I feel that I know how to "work" the toy within me, but it doesn't seem to be enough for me. I am a heavier-set man and feel that I may need something a little larger. I realize that size does not correlate with pleasure with Aneros devices but I am curious. I have been looking at the Progasm Jr because it is a different size and shape than the toy I have now. Does anyone have any advice or experiences? I am not able to have any penile stimulation for other reasons (PM if you really want to know why), so I am eager to try to discover more pleasure from my prostate! Thanks!
The Glans Penis, Prostate, and Maximus
Hi guys,
In the 1990's or around year 2000, I had an insight into sensation in my male sexual apparatus. I had reflected on my sexual anatomy from my teens until my 40's or 50's when I got this flash of insight.
Most guys focus upon their cocks and balls from their teens. It comes from the initiation that they receive when they begin to masturbate and then have their first orgasms and ejaculations of semen. Adolescence is a period in a boy's life when they are obsessed with thoughts of sex. First boys masturbate because it feels so good. Most boys then turn their attention to girls and begin dating them. Many boys may even experiment sexually with girls. Likewise some boys may focus their attention upon other boys and may even experiment sexually with other boys. Sexual preference tends to be established for sure in their teens.
Wearing jockstraps and athletic cups for sports, even leisure, helped focused me upon my penis and testicles like nothing else. This focus enabled me several decades later to come up with the Theory of Axis of Sexual Pleasure. When I entered the decades indicated above, I had read a great deal about the role of the prostate in a man's life. A prostate in good health serves two functions: [1] Urinary, and [2] Sexual. I have always been intrigued in how beautiful my mushroom glans is. Over the years, I reveled in the various textures of sensation in the anatomy of my glans. So when I am masturbating, sensation arises in my glans travels down the length of my penile shaft and ends up my prostate, from which the sexual energy travels back to my glans. So an arc of sexual pleasure travels back and forth from my glans and prostate. This pleasure reaches the point of no return during which I achieve orgasm and ejaculation of semen! It is all beautiful!
Not a newbie but having zero luck. Help please :(
So I had the progasm for 2 years and tried using it pretty often. Very rarely could I get it to hit my p spot no matter which position I tried. So I bought the progasm jr. Same thing. Then the vice. device. No luck. I've taken tape and wrapped it around the front tab on all the toys to increase the angle when under contraction and that increases their ability to hit my prostate but I don't think it's enough. Am I anatomically incorrect or something? 🙁
Third session – a quickie
Wow! What a difference a day makes!
After the disappointment of my 2nd session, I wanted to give myself some time before I tried again. But my anus had different ideas. The prostate soreness that I had experienced during the 2nd session was completely gone, and in fact it was feeling pretty good. My anus wanted, nay, it demanded something to fill it, NOW! So we compromised; a short session of only 30 minutes on the very next day after the frustrating and long 2nd session.
Expectations – 30-minute time limit; hands-off )like every other session(; quick and dirty; start with voluntary contractions and then back off
TSLE – about 8 days
The only difference in preparation between this session and the previous session was that this time I didn’t inject any glycerin-based lube.
After bowel movement, enema, and insertion of the Helix, I went straight to a 4-on-the-floor position; on knees and elbows, head down, ass up. I considered that by waiting/relaxing I was letting my arm tremor start to dominate my attention. So, after a few deep breaths, I start slow-rolling sphincter/PC contractions. Bingo! – instant perineal contractions progressing to full-body involuntary contractions, lasting 10-12 minutes. Again, I just observed, watched the spasms grow, recede, and return spontaneously. Purely involuntary. It was awesome. The spasms would recede until they were just in my groin, and then the sphincter/PC involuntary contractions would escalate, amplifying each other, until they set off another round of full-body contractions. Is this auto-f*cking? A definite pre-cum feeling, but without an erection or any actual pre-cum.
Fourth session – some lessons learned
I tried for another quickie session )30 min( like yesterday, but it wasn’t quite fantastic. I did learn some things, though, so I call it a success.
First, after a long, hot bath to relax, I inserted the lubed Helix. Drips of pre-cum for the first time. Just a few drips, but all I did was insert the Helix. No erection, just an electric feeling emanating from my groin and drips of pre-cum. This is new; something’s changing in me.
Second, the whole-body contractions weren’t nearly as strong or long-lasting as yesterday, and I stopped after about 10 minutes. I felt weak. Which leads to my theory – I’m thinking that the prostate glow I feel after a session is analogous to the muscle feeling you get from weight training. We’re exercising muscles, and the underused muscles are just getting sore. They get weak and tired, so they need time to recover, just like with a barbell. This was the 3rd session in 3 days, so maybe my muscles got overworked yesterday. It’s my theory at least. I should allow more recovery time between sessions.
Anyway, I stopped the session, but left the Helix in and went about my normal business of cleaning the kitchen, etc., for about 30 min, just to get used to it inside me. While the Helix was not arousing, walking around my home nude with a toy up my lubed ass was. I masturbated, but again didn’t notice anything different about the quantity or quality of the ejaculate.