Tag: Relaxation

Journal post-ride – I am a body of water

Hey all – been lurking for a while for tips but haven’t had a session in a while that warranted any hullabaloo. Had some thoughts and unique feelings during and after this most recent session that I wanted to share. No super-o or breakthroughs, but just some deep feelings I experienced. A little background on my journey thus far:

First off, I got absolutely ruined the first time I *really* used Aneros. I had a helix for a minute and my first time using it resulted in a whole lot of nothing. Just laid there and pfft, nothing. What a trick I had been put under. I had some experience with other anal toys like dildos and plugs, but that was my first massager experience. Not going to act like some expert, but anal play had started to become something I dabbled in.

Cut to a year later in lockdown, I decided to give it another try, which I consider my first REAL ride. Used coconut oil, slid it in and laid with my legs down in kind of a parenthesis shape ( ), just trying to relax. I remember it hitting me almost instantly. My dick got rock hard quickly and it felt like I was cumming, but nothing was coming out. This happened about three times and the next day my anus was tingling well into the early afternoon. I could barely work that day. I think that because I truly had no expectations, my experience was quick and fruitful. On the same hand, after that point my bar was permanently set too high, and I haven’t been able to reach that pinnacle again. Every time I hear Steely Dan’s “Time Out of Mind” and specifically the lyric “tonight when I chase the dragon” (in reference to chasing the first heroin high), I think of trying to replicate that Aneros session. Ugh. Read more »

Just Buy One — Don’t Wait

Just wanted to encourage anyone lurking on this sub considering buying one to pull the trigger and buy one.

I had been considering it for a long time after simple finger play and finally decided to buy one. Wow, I do not regret it.

Last night I ate a Dr. Norms cookie to help me relax. I turned off all the lights and got things started. It was difficult to not touch myself but I’m glad I didn’t. I have no idea how long it took but eventually I was shaking uncontrollably and hanging on to the sheets for life. My entire body was tingling for what felt like an eternity. I don’t even know how to describe it but it was pure ecstasy. Just wanted to encourage anyone who is on the fence to buy one, I don’t regret it one bit.

Lying position

Which lying position can you recommend? I usually lie on my back with my legs stretched out. I have the feeling that I can relax best that way (for the do nothing method). When I put my legs up, I have to tense them a bit, which hinders my relaxation. The same is the case when I lie sideways and bend my legs. Do you guys have any ideas, suggestions, what I could and should try? What works best for you? Thank you 🙂

How do you know you’ve triggered involuntaries?

Hello,

I’ve been struggling for a while to produce involuntaries, but I think I’ve managed to do it. The key for me was instead of holding the pelvic floor “in” I did a light push “out” and held it, which produces what feels like a gentle pounding inside. The frequency is around around 2 per second or so and it doesn’t really feel like I’ve lost control of my muscles… in fact I sometimes try to relax through it (release my light push out) and the effect continues despite everything being relaxed. Also it doesn’t necessarily lead to more pleasure right way or the “build up” feeling which is sometimes unrelated to the “pounding”. However it seems like I haven’t found the correct position for my aneros yet so that may be an issue.

So my question is:

1. How do involuntaries feel to you?
2. How do you trigger them (what muscles do you use if any?)
3. Am I on the right track?

Core exercises enhanced my pleasure or was anterior pelvic tilt blocking progress?

I was doing some exercises to fix my anterior pelvic tilt (glute bridges, posterior tilting, lunges, etc.). It’s only been a few days so I’m not sure exactly what happened, but I started having intense tremors in my pelvis. I think these are involuntary contractions. It’s so easy to relax and build pleasure from them. It was actually kind of hard to make go to sleep cuz they were so distracting. I’ve been playing around with Aneros for 4 months and progress was stagnating. I mostly worked on building control and awareness of all the separate muscles, but it was really hard to get involuntaries, or build up any intense pleasure. Aneros strengthens the pelvic floor, but I guess it’s also important to pay attention to the glutes and abdominals since they are close by they might play a part in prostate orgasms. Or maybe this is more specific to my experience since my APT was making it impossible to relax some of my muscles.

Levator Prostatae Muscle Contractions.

In my quest for a better way to strengthen my pelvic floor ie. kegel exercises, a few weeks ago, I stumbled across an article about the Levator Prostatae Muscle. In males it’s the most medial fibers of the levator ani (pubococcygeus) muscle. It extends from the pubis into the fascia of the prostate. Yes!

With a little practice and attention to the sensation, have learned how to isolate this muscle and contract it while relaxing all other muscles in my pelvic aria.

Levator Prostatae Muscle Contractions, LPMC as I’m calling it, is when this muscle is repetitively contracted or “pulled”, my pelvis rotates ever so slightly and I can feel my prostate being lifted just a bit. Along with proper breathing, the feeling I get is like a pair of small, silk gloved hands caressing the sides of my prostate. Oh, Yes! And with this imagery in mind, the white gloves, after a while, I “come” to an incredibly sweet and trembling orgasm. Possibly the best ever. And then comes the wave of dopamine that completely washes over my body. Oh, yees! And now I need a nap.

The beauty of this is that it’s hands free, no ejaculation, no clean up, no cover up and no refractory period. All the fun, no baggage. My only draw back, at this point, is like any other muscle, it gets exhausted after a while and I need a little rest. However, I’ve been able to orgasm seven times in a three day period, so… Read more »

Making progress i think.

Hi, so i’ve owned a helix for years and more recently a progasm, i enjoy both even though i don’t get to use them very often due to not having much “alone time”. I’ve been able to achieve a HFWO pretty consistently with both for a while but i’ve always felt this was not the main goal for me, however enjoyable.

The other day I had some time to myself so I thought i’d try to relax and see what happened, gave myself a good clean, popped some lube in and the progasm, then watched a bit of porn to get in the mood. I started to get the usual pleasurable sensations, when in the past i’ve been tempted to thrust my hips which results in the HFWO, this time i just let things go a bit more slowly. After a while i was finding the porn distracting so just closed my eyes and enjoyed what was happening. Pleasure started to build in my prostate kind of like an orgasm building, i got a slight tingling in the head of my penis and the pleasure built up, (it felt pretty great) this then ebbed away, whas this a P-wave? it seems like it. I then continued, trying to get to that point again, the wave of pleasure came again but then i felt cum pouring out of my flacid cock and i’d had another HFWO. This was a really enjyable session but i would have loved to carry on longer, does it sound to you experienced guys like these were p-waves? Read more »

My First Prostate Orgasm

I want to take everyone back. Think back to the first time you discovered your prostate could give you intense pleasure or a mind blowing orgasm. Think back to the first time it was touched, was it your finger, a toy or a partner? Do you remember the unfamiliar feeling of feeling of having something internal touched? Im going to go back to the first time I experienced prostate play. Honestly for me its kind a benchmark I used as I began my journey.
My first time was with a former girlfriend, she was adventurous to say the least. She found an article written in cosmo or somewhere like that talking about how to give your man a prostate orgasm. She asked my about trying it out. My first response was no, you’r not doing anything with my butt. She gave me a little bribe and I said ok, let’s try this. We planned it out to a degree, mainly to make sure I was fully prepped down there. She bought one of those bulb cleansers they sell at the sex stores and some thick lube. I prepped according to her instructions, I noticed the prep didn’t feel bad, and wasn’t as weird as I figured it would be.
She did an amazing job of making sure I was fully aroused, relaxed and ready when the time came. We started off, making out, she put her breasts in my face and slipped me inside of her just enough to be a tease. I told her I was ready, and I was, at-least as ready as I could be.
The rest of this is going to be in fairly great detail. Read more »

Unwanted problems with the PC-muscle

Hi all, I’m looking for some advice, as I have some issues that are bothering me. I apologize if this gets a little long, but bear with me please.

I’ve had success with the Aneros before, as well as certain Aless experiences, such as dry full body nipple orgasms by way of nipple stimulation alone. At times I’ve had minor orgasms by way of thought alone, and so while it may sound like I got a good deal going on, which is probably true, after some experimentation many months ago, I feel stuck. Here’s why:

Before, I could do nipple stimulation only and get my body so charged up, that it was only a matter of “hacking the password” for each period of time, figuring out exactly what approach combined with mental aspect that would set me off into orgasmic la-la land at that point. But now this is not happening anymore.

The reason is that I was reading about flexing of the PC-muscle, and I realized I never really did this, unlike many others. So I experimented with this, where I squeezed it, and I don’t think it was too hard, then held for 10-30 seconds at a time, and released it. When I did, I noticed it did generate a surge of mild pleasure in my prostate, but nothing crazy. However, at one point, my PC-muscle went nuts, and just started moving constantly on its own. Initially for the first few days, it would do this when I went to bed in particular, and it caused me loss of sleep, fatigue, dizziness, and more. After this happened, it was almost impossible to do anything that had to do with nipple or prostate stimulation without triggering my PC-muscle to go nuts, and it never was in a good way either. Read more »

2 weeks with Helix Syn V

So I’ve had it 2 weeks and not a lot of time to relax with it but I’ll still ask this question. Doing a good deal of clenching while jacking I can get to a place where I have an almost no hands wet O. But what happens at O-time is my ass grips the toy and my dickhead really clenches up and out comes the juice. It’s a sensation of extreme tension not extreme release. Wondering what I am doing wrong.