I feel that I’m always too tight to get much movement with the aneros
How do you make it more relaxed and loose?
Do i do some anal stretching?
Tag: Relaxation
Success! Questions. Confusedish? Newbie Post.
TL;DR: Do I have superpowers now?
Prelude – Last Friday I decided to start experimenting with mindgasm, I’ve experimented before but I feel as though I’ve failed to truly identify my prostate as a, or rather the primary sexual organ. Reading the posts there and here led me to really desire focusing on and expanding these feelings. On Tuesday my Aneros (progasm ice) arrived, I certainly felt a massive difference in stimulation from that and any other toy I have used previously… everything until this point has felt good (like my other experiments) but nothing really clicked. Untill….
Yesterday morning… I had previously read about sleeping as a method to relax and experience. Around 130am when the wife left lubed up and laid back down to sleep for a few more hours. I fell asleep, and I specifically remember mid dream I was feel great, but it pulled me out of the dream save for a rogue voice that I clearly heard say “until you learn to relax you will never be able to use this perfectly designed too to its fullest extent. Snap back to reality, I do wake up to great sensations but my exploration quickly killed the connection which I could not then recreate…
Prostate sensitivity and desensitization
So, I wonder what the general consensus, if there is one, is on how long one should rest without any sexual activity, to have a possibly desensitized prostate return to top-form?
I would like to give my prostate some rest, but two weeks ago, it really started to get active, and I’ve only managed one or two days of no sexual activity here and there, before it starts to buzz and tingle again.
Today was supposed to be rest day #2, but two hours ago my prostate just went nuts and said “NOW!”, and I caved in. Laid down in bed, no toy or anything, just relaxed, and everything kept building up on its own, and coming and going in waves with increased pleasure over time.
Still nowhere near where I was several years ago, but there’s constant progress. And I felt that I was pretty damn close to where it just explodes into overdrive.
I’m trying not to ejaculate for at least a month, and want to have 4-5 rest days at the very least but it seems a little difficult right now. I know that when your body wants it, it will tell you, but I want to optimize sessions for best possible results.
How long then should I wait to have everything return to “default”?
First time experience – HF wet orgasm
Hi all, new to this thread. I recently bought the Aneros Helix Trident model, which is my first Aneros product. Whilst I’m not a novice with anal sex toys, I’m hardly a pro, but given the smaller size I wasn’t particularly worried. I did a lot of research about how best to use the aneros, tips for beginners etc, so I knew the importance of feeling the moment and not to expect too much at first. I set aside a good couple of hours for my first go, and after getting myself relaxed and aroused, I popped it in. At first it felt a little uncomfortable, but this sensation quickly subsided as my muscles adjusted and it fit very nicely. I started touching my body and focusing of my breathing for a while, before I started gentlly flexing my muscles and feeling the sensations this led to. At first, I wasn’t really getting much, apart from some involuntary anal twitching, and the contact against my prostate was a very strange feeling to me, but as I kept tensing, I started occasionally to get some mild pleasurable sensations, and some mild spasms. My error at this point was to keep trying to get these sensations and not focussing on what I was feeling and I spent about half an hour not really achieving anything. At this point I was starting to lose interest, and my mind was wandering and I barely felt aroused at all. I decided that I would put on some porn to help, I watched my favourite video – and this made a huge difference. Even without flexing my muscles I was feeling pleasurable sensations, which I didn’t realise at first because I was focusing on the porn. Slowly I started flexing, which felt really good, and I really tried to focus on the porn which was helping. I was doing this for about 20 mins, and this pleasurable feeling was really building up, and it felt like I was getting close to a regular orgasm, I could feel it building up. My technique at this point was lying on back, with my knees bent and feet on the bed, and as I tensed I put my legs together and squeezed and pulled my bum off the bed, which stimulated my penis slightly as I was pulling my balls back with my legs which stretched the skin of my whole penis – which felt very pleasurable. I should say that whilst this was happening, I had a very clear goal, which was to reach this peak that I was feeling, I wasn’t doing as advised and taking the pleasure as it was coming, but I could feel it building up and I was really enjoying it. Eventually, I got to a peak, and my stomach starting convulsing and I started spasming as I felt an orgasm come, which turned out to be wet, and I came over my stomach. This was all without touching my penis with my hands. The orgasm was very good, but nothing mind-blowing, and to be honest, whilst I enjoyed the experience, it was a lot of work, and I’d rather just jerk off normally. My question is, is there anything I could/should do differently to maximise this experience more? Is there a method or such to be able to not have a wet orgasm, Whilst I experienced lethargy after ejaculation, I did notice that it wasn’t as much as normal, and I was horny again in perhaps 2 minutes after, which is much faster than normal. Any tips/advice would be really appreciated!
One step forward, dozens of steps back
Writing this mostly to vent really, and also for help and advice. I go into some gross details so read at your peril. Hopefully the nice people here can pick out the problems or what I’m doing wrong.
To keep it short, I have been using my Trident on and off over the past 12 months for little to no results. My sessions often have days to months in between due to lack of motivation or not wanting to commit the large time investment to it, but as of recent I’ve been going at it more and more. I have only had one truly pleasurable session, but that was so far in the past now that it might as well have not happened.
I’ll section my process and shortcomings to make it easier to write out.
**Preparation:**
Currently I try to make time for a session after returning from the gym (I treadmill daily) and showering. I make sure to have a bowel movement 30-60 min before I douche with warm tap water using a rather large bulb I bought for the job. I used to fill this bulb as much as I could before douching which was a very big mistake. I would have an unpleasurable session, then find out when removing the Trident that I had residual poo water inside me. It was as gross and messy as it sounds. I figured that out, then started filling the bulb with very little water which ultimately stopped that from happening. Trident removal is now very clean aside from some lube.
Shaking, Humping, vivid images and colours in my vision, warming in my groin. Milestone moment. what next?
Used the helix triden syn for about a year now, I was really enthusiastic initially but after stalling my progress I just used it as a novelty during tradition masturbation for the last 6 months or so.
Fast forward to the last few weeks I decided to revisit a structured process and see if i could achieve any type of O from the Aneros alone.
I have a small window of opportunity bi weekly when i have 90 mins of quiet time every afternoon where i wont be disturbed , sitting in a chair with my feet up on my desk. ( yes at work 😉 )
Yesterday I decided that my choice of lube (kY) was probably holding me back and i wasn’t using enough, so armed with coconut oil and one of those syringes that you get with kids medicine I gave myself a 5ml dose and popped in the Syn.
Now normally I would relax and concentrate on my breathing and enjoy some involuntary flutters of my muscles, get sore or distracted at some point and relieve myself traditionally. This time however I really got into the grove and began having leg and stomach twitching while my interior muscles where really going crazy with out any input from me. After about 60mins i was really shaking and I had all sorts of vivid strange shapes and colors in my head as if i was seeing them through my shut eyes.
Cumming hard with tense abs
I hold the aneros in place by tensing my ass and keep there, keep doing this until orgasm. Right before prostate orgasm, my abs tense up really hard and I have to grab onto the bed as I start humping uncontrollably. This has been my past couple of mornings before work. If my asshole is too relaxed then I can’t really use the prostate massager.
I’m 20 years old and I bought the Aneros about a month ago
I first got the Aneros because I feel like my penis is getting less and less sensitive due to jerking off too much so I want to experiment with prostate orgasms (i heard of it from somewhere). Little did I know, I stumbled upon a tool to get MMO (Im already aware of this from Mantak Chia but I never thought a toy could enhance/facilitate the process)
My first session was great. I felt the peeing sensation and even had a bit of precum.
My second session I dripped a lot of precum while humping something.
My fourth to sixth (session today) have been stagnant.
I want to know if maybe my sphincter and PC muscles are too strong hence it takes forever for them to quiver and tire out?
Ive always had some good feeling, even small orgasms from urinating way before my purchase of the Aneros
Today in my 6th session, I turned on meditation music and tried clenching 60 seconds at a time. But my muscles never seemed to tire out.
I tried the relax and do nothing approach and breathe deeply but I end up losing my grip of the Aneros.
Im not frustrated, I might be chasing the orgasm too hard maybe. But I’m getting increasingly frustrated not just because I cant get to the orgasm, but it seems like my first few sesssions were good and my progress is reversing.
Seeking Guidance
I’m a newbie to Aneros and to anal pleasure in general, but have been frequently exploring for a few weeks now. I’m in a strange place and I was hoping the wonderful butt sherpas on this sub might be able to guide me forward.
My journey started when my wife and I decided to spice things up with a rimming plug for me last Valentine’s day. After a not very successful session, I gave up and it sat into the box until I decided to try again solo a few weeks back. Who would have thought that actually following all of the advice online (lots of lube, loosen things up first, relax, etc… ) would make such a difference. It felt great and I started using it fairly regularly, but every time it felt a little like something was missing from the experience.
Eventually I pinpointed it to a feeling I was getting when I would sit on the plug and rock/bounce. That would make me feel a bit like I needed to pee, but also *really* good. I started thinking of it as my “pre-cum” button because hitting it would make me leak like a sieve ( I know it was my prostate though). After doing this for a bit, I realized the plug was the wrong tool for the job and determined to explore the feeling further, I purchased a vibrating prostate massager with one of those “come hither” rocking arms (this one to be precise: [https://www.adorime.com/products/prostate-massager-anal-vibrator](https://www.adorime.com/products/prostate-massager-anal-vibrator)). This one felt good, but I found the best feeling was again if I were to turn off the “come hither” motion, and rock/bounce on it myself. Whenever it did that I would get that “needing to pee sensation”, but at this point I’d experienced it enough to differentiate it and it started to feel more like a buildup of pressure similar to a penile orgasm.
First time user
I used the helix trident, and it felt sooo good when I put it in. I’ve read a lot of tips and advice on how to use it.
I was actually oozing so much pre cum, I got to a point where I was shaking all over with pleasure, the pc muscles are moving gently on their own almost.
BUT when I feel like I’m about to cum, my Pc muscles squeeze hard for too long and the feeling fades away. And when I try to relax and ease the squeeze, it takes me out of it.
what can I do? just even more relax?